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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Carol ... Good for you! I did that last year when my sweetie passed away because I know he would want me to. I already told you I putup a tree and decorated the mantle, but of course didn't have the people we generally invite because I couldn't handle that. I did also have a private Christmas with my beloved like we always use to. I know they would want us to carry on the tradition. It makes me closer to him somehow. So proud of you for trying Carol.
A awesome song that was forwarded to me by Ray's daughter..love her.
Hugs to all
Marge, I thank you for coming to my rescue with this issue tonight. As always I appreciate the words and wisdom that so many on this site have. I am feeling a little better, but now I have a headache to deal with. You are right about the friends having their own lives to carry on with. That is why I really like coming here, unfortunately we are all in this together, no matter how much we HATE it!!
Thanks Frank, I guess it always helps to hear that someone has the same feelings that we do. I too still have my husbands clothes in the closet. I have been able to take some of the things he hardly ever wore to the needy, but most of his stuff is still here, including his toiletries in the bathroom. Although, I got rid of all the stuff that was related to his illness right away. I did most of that when I had to put him in the Hospice House. I couldn't bear to see the reminders. It is so good to know that others have done what I have done. Comforting I guess would be the right word.
And we all know that you are not to blame for your wife's illness or the care she received. I have to live with the fact that I could not bring my husband home to die, which was his wish. I guess we all have to live with our decisions. I will try to keep remembering baby steps and one day at a time or hour at a time. Thanks again, and hugs back to you!!
P.S. Remember, baby steps and one day at a time.... sometimes just an hour at a time.
I am having a really rough evening. I felt the need to go to the cemetery this afternoon, so I went, stayed a little while then came home. I am trying so hard to get into the spirit and get some decorations put up. So I was going through some of the boxes before I put them out in the garage, and I came across my husband's Christmas stocking. It completely took my breath away and I cried so hard. I know they say we will have these triggers, but this one just hit me so darn hard. Any advice on how to handle these triggers? I guess I am just having a pitty party.
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