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Bereaved Spouses

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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.

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Comment by Carol Kayser on December 3, 2012 at 9:29pm
Hi everyone. I got hit with the flu, awful! Feel so weak. The thing I don't like is being alone when I am sick. I feel so all alone, it's scary. I faint easily so it is so worrying. Today have been sleeping but feel a little better now.
Stacey, glad your Dr appt went well. You hang in there:)
Marsha, thanks for all the love and support!
Hugs,
Carol
Comment by Marlena on December 3, 2012 at 9:09pm

Jan,

I'm glad you were able to download the book.  Hopefully, this book will help us make our way on this journey. 

I remember the black hole...I actually remember writing about it here all those many months ago.  Hang in there...I know it's not easy and even after all this time I still have my moments, but I hang on tight to all the memories; they do carry me through.  It's hard to imagine, and I didn't believe it back then, but there will be a day when the weight on your chest lessens just a bit.  This time of year is still especially hard and you are right - you are not alone...so many here "get it".

Blessings and hugs to make it through the holidays!

Comment by Sue H on December 3, 2012 at 8:21pm

Hi everyone. Thank you Marsha and you are so rght about how exhausting this is. I am tired of people thinking I should be better and feel like no one wants me to mention Ray. I need to say his name. I am still in love. Why don't they understand how crushing these feelings are? Ohhh..I am sorry..did not mean to go down this road. I broke my foot on Saturday and I have been lucky enough to have people help me as I am alone now but Christmas and being hurt I just want him back. What a club we are in my friends. Talking here helps as you all understand.  

Comment by stacey on December 3, 2012 at 7:04pm

marsha i too am glad and thankful youve helped me through a lot so far too. all the advice, and comforting word make me realize i have a long road ahead of me but with help from all of you i can make it and move on eventually. i feel so much better talking to you guys and i may not post everyday but i check posts and read all of them about 2x a day. im going on 2 months and i probably wouldnt be this far without you, thank you! my physical went okay i do my labs this friday so half is done but i think im doing good considering couple bad days couple good days i really dont like this ping pong game i wish i never had to play.

Comment by Marsha H on December 3, 2012 at 3:08pm

Dear Mac ... Thank you for that.  I do worry about all of you and December is upon us and I think it's the toughest month to get through.

I'm really not all that strong since my Ernie is gone.  I 'exist' right now.  My nature has always been to help others and I guess something is happening to me where I am back in the saddle again, but be assured I have been having my own pity party lately.  Caught a 24 flu bug and was laid up for 3 - 4 days.  Took the stuffings right out of me.  I hope it stays away! 

I know what you mean Mac about me being here, but sorry I have to be.  I feel the same about all of you, but God must have a plan because he brought all of this extended family together and I love each and every one of you.  I tend to 'count my chicks' and see who isn't on.  I get worried and try to dig around to see where that person or persons are at.  I am worried about Janeo; Jane P (although we do email each other thank God); if you or Frank are missing; of course worry about Faith and so many others.  It's difficult that we live so far away from each other and can't just walk a few blocks to check on that particular person.

I always feel we are a bunch of angels fluttering around and cooing and caring and we ALL are there for each other.  Remember 'when one falls, even one other person can pick them up.'

Big hugs

Marsha

 

Comment by Marsha H on December 3, 2012 at 3:02pm

Frank ... Thank you so much.  I try.  I find it helps to hold others up when they are down and to know we are all in the same boat chopping across some bumpy waves of life with our grieving.  You my friend are a great support of this forum as well.  You make me feel better when I see a post from you and even though I know the pain of grief you are going through there you are!  I bow to you my friend!  I do worry about my extended family on here.  With December upon us it's so important to give each other support.  Doesn't matter if we complain about our feelings and, in ways, it helps others on here to know they are not alone.

Hugs

Marsah

Comment by Mac on December 3, 2012 at 11:33am

I second and third that. Marsha you are so strong and always know what to say to all of us. I thank you for being here I dont want you to be here but glad you are. J

Comment by Frank Andrews on December 3, 2012 at 10:41am

Marsha, you have always given good advice to all members on this forum.  Since it has been so quiet since your last posts, it is a tribute to your compassion and caring for all of us.  Thanks and have a good day.

Comment by Marsha H on December 2, 2012 at 2:37pm

Sue H ... You are so right.  We have to remain as strong as possible and basically go with the flow.  Grieving is a necessity in life, but I sure wasn't prepared for this type of grief.  Some days are good and some bad.  I try to go forward in my life as best I can for my husband's sake, but have to admit when I take 20 steps forward I'm still shoved 30 steps back.  Grief can just make one feel exhausted and even more exhausting because others such as family and friends feel we should be over our loss at least after a year.  I sometimes enjoy my solitude where I don't have to pretend how I feel on the bad days.

Hugs

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on December 2, 2012 at 2:33pm

Jan F ... You are so raw into your grief hon and I pray for everyone here each night that the grief will lessen and although we will never forget our loved one we will be strong and make a new life for ourselves.  I know that sounds so impossible at this time, but it does happen.  Humans are use to habits and eventually we get into our own routines whatever they may be and after what length of time it takes for the worst of the grieving process each day closer helps to take the painful sting out of the loss of our spouses although they will always remain in our hearts.

Hugs

Marsha

 

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