Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Julie Stearns on April 10, 2012 at 9:10pm

NANCY, with eveything, you are so blessed to have this young man in your life. God bless and know we are praying for you daily.  Give him a big ole hugs from us....

Comment by CaliforniaDreamer on April 10, 2012 at 9:03pm

Nancy, did they give you a little cap to wear under the wig? One that looks like it's made from a nylon stocking. You might try something like gold bond powder on your head before putting the wig on. Like you might powder your feet before putting socks and shoes on. Don't know if it will help, I just had that thought.

Comment by Tatjana Kowand on April 10, 2012 at 8:47pm have a fabulous son!xo
Comment by nancy on April 10, 2012 at 8:46pm

My appt. went well. We took some crazy pics and I didn't cry once. Now I'm bald. The wig looked good but got itchy after a few hours and sweaty. I'll fix that tomorrow.

My 19 year old son, Cody, came home from the gym tonight with a brownie sundae deluxe(my fav.) and a bald head. He had his hair shaved off like mine. THAT made me cry.

Comment by Tatjana Kowand on April 10, 2012 at 1:19pm
Woohoo!! go girl! A strong Warrior Woman...I am honored to call you 'Friend' xoxo
Comment by nancy on April 10, 2012 at 12:02pm

Oh my gosh!! Thank you everyone.

Sue, congrats on making it through your first year and especially on the new grandbaby. You are so right. They are such a blessing!

Bruce, I had thought of the hot summer. I have an appt. tomorrow at a place that specializes in breast prosthesis and wigs, hats and bandanas. It's private appt. only place for cancer victims. They sell oils and caps to wear under wigs and hats to absorb sweat and make it comfortable.

I guess I'll have to figure out the new me. I've heard it's a real boost for your self esteem to go bald. I need work there so we'll see!

Julie, my sil goes with me to all of my appts. Hasn't missed one appt. and everyone was there when I got out of surgery. John's and my family has rallied around me. Thank you God. I adore my in laws (or outlaws..depending on what we are up to!! haha)

I've decided to go to the hairdresser solo. Initially I thought I would want my family and friends with me but I think I need time to just look at me and get used to it privately. As the time gets closer I feel better. 1:30 today. My hairdresser (who is also a close friend) is a wreck. I think she's in denial!! I'm making her do it anyway.I'll tell her my Raquel story and maybe she'll lighten up knowing John's there with us!

So thank you all for all of your encouraging words and prayers. That's what we are all here for right? I'm blessed to have stumbled onto this site. It's gonna be a good week!

Go get some fresh air and sunshine and think of something funny!! Remember to laugh today. Prayers and hugs. Peace

Comment by janeo on April 10, 2012 at 7:51am
Nancy, Julie is right you are an amazing woman. Keep you in my prayers always.
Comment by Julie Stearns on April 10, 2012 at 1:43am

Nancy, you are one amazing woman!!!! Do you hve someone to take you to your appointments, the chemo..  You are now my hero, you are simply amazing!!!!

Comment by Sue Martin on April 9, 2012 at 10:50pm

Well, I made it past the one year mark. I've been through all the 'firsts' without my sweetheart. It's seems impossible that over a year has gone by and yet it seems forever since I've talked to Glenn. It's hard to find where I fit in. I'm not married anymore, so I don't fit with the married couples and though I'm considered 'single', I really don't fit in there! It's so hard to figure out where I belong. I continue to do all the things I did before, but it isn't the same. I'm still just going through the motions in large part. The smallest thing will trigger a memory and I will lose it. I don't know how my Mom has handled being alone for 17 years. I hate it. But I laugh more, cry less and try to count my blessings every day. And God is blessing me with grandbaby number 3 in June! Evelyn Elizabeth. I get so much joy from those babies! I still wish Glenn could be here with them. He would have so enjoyed them.

Comment by Vee on April 9, 2012 at 10:32pm

Nancy, thank you for all of the encouragement.  I remember a few years ago Robin Roberts on GMA had the same experience of losing her hair.  She made a big deal of going and getting her head shaved, just to get it over with.  She also went to a wig maker who could take a picture of how she wore her hair, and she made her a wig that looked like she might wear her hair.  Girl, go all out.  Get yourself a new style to match your new self.  I'm praying for you.  I'm glad to hear about your family support system.  You are a true inspiration to all of us, especially me.  I thank God for you and I'm praying for your healing, both physically and mentally. 


Blessings and hugs!


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