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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Deborah Peck ... It is not silly one bit that you would think of Greg with the seasons that come. I did the same thing and still do. With each season we have memories of the things we did with our spouses and now we walk alone. With each season brings holidays and that it's a difficult thing to go through, but I do promise you that as time goes on and although you will never forget your beloved Greg, the pain is less. I wish I could give you a big hug.
Its cold here in Missouri this morning and with every change of a season all I can think of its one more change without Greg, I know that is corny to judge his not being here with the seasons changing but its just one more thing to experience without him, not fun! Steve and Chuck I am so happy for you for selling the house, its one more thing to check off your list, now to figure out the health issues but I'm truly happy that you have found each other and don't have to go thru all this by yourself, you are truly blessed. Its a whole new chapter in your book of life so relish everything about it, love Debby
Dear Trina ...
I honestly do think of you and wonder how you are doing. You are too kind with the compliments and I'm an angel with a dented halo. LOL
I am in about the same space as you with Joseph and there are days I miss Ernie coming home from work and sitting to talk about how our day went and the weekends I really miss him along with holidays, but the pain isn't as intense as it use to be. I still talk to him every so often.
I am so happy to hear things are a little easier for you my dear friend.
Hi Mary Jane,
My right hand, fingers and wrist are swollen half as much as my left. tingling, numbness, weakness and paid is all day and night, I have brace stints to keep my wrist immobile, This started back in June and as it progressed I lost the ability to make a fist and the tissue in my hand under each finger was tender to even touch, especially if pressure was applied.
Went to the Primary Doctor and they prescribed 800 milligrams of Ibuprofen twice a day for the pain and to relax the tendons and muscles, didn't work, so they sent me to an orthopedic doc who confirmed I had carpal tunnel and trigger fingers. He gave me cortisone shots, which helped me gain some strength and mobility in my fingers. Still could not bend my wrist, to went back and set me up with a neurologist, but had to wait 45 days for an appointment. Once I got to him, he ran electric current to probes placed on my hand and arm, plus he ran another test using needles implanted in my arm and hand and ran current to those. His diagnosis was that I did not have carpal tunnel and was more concerned with the swelling and weakness in my right hand. He set me up for two MRIs, those came back showing that everything in my neck and shoulder was good, in fact he said my spine, neck and other vertebrae did not look like someone who is 70 and was amazed that I had no other health issues, like high blood pressure, cholesterol, et...I do not and have not smoked and I stopped drinking back in my 5o's. He did see a spot on my thyroid and said we should have a look at that, because problems with thyroid can cause havoc with the nervous system, and simulate symptoms of carpal tunnel. Went and had sonogram and it confirmed that the spot was a nodule probably benign. Said to have my blood tested for hypothyroidism, which I did and my primary doctor called to say that my blood work was good. Had to drag out what that meant, what the ranges were for certain thyroid tests and so on...the main test for hypothyroidism showed that it was slightly elevated but still within acceptable range. Now at this point I broke bad, when I say him the day of the blood test, and before they took the blood he stated that he did not agree with the neurologist but that we should keep a watch on the nodule on my thyroid. never once did he offer up what he thought might be wrong with my hand, so when I broke bad he had his nurse set me up with a different neurologist who specializes in greater detail problems with nerve disorders. So next Tuesday I go see him which by the way is an hours drive. In the meantime, the guy that mows our yard was asking chuck about how I was doing and he asked if I had been tested for Lyme disease. He has a neighbor that went thru a similar set of circumstances and he is a carpenter that lost the ability to hold a hammer or a saw and his doctor took a different course of action and did a blood test for Lyme before calling it carpal tunnel which is what he thought he had.
Monday, we get a call from our realtor and we have a buyer and we accepted their offer, they want to close by November 20, we have a house full of furniture that we do not want to take with us, and so we are both just a little overwhelmed right now. How on earth are we going to get everything done and ready so we can get out of Dodge.
If that wasn't enough, our septic system decided to rear it's ugly head and needs attention...uggggggh!
So that's it for now, Chuck has been busy today answering and approving all of the legal changes to the sale contract with the lawyer, good grief there is so much to selling a house now, at least from tonight on the Lawyers can duke it out, we just have to start packing, eliminating, giving away and throwing away stuff so we can move...if it sounds like I am rambling it is because my brain hurts more than my hand.
Dear Sara Murphy,
Yes, everyday hurts, but the marker days, like birthdays and anniversaries hurt even more. It must have been tough for you today on Ken's birthday. Sending you comforting thoughts and big hugs. -- Trina
What a wonderful and caring person you are! You made my day by dropping a personal note to me. I am okay--for my context. I don't post as often anymore because I would be saying over and over again the same things: how still every single day I miss Joseph. The pain is nowhere near where it used to be the first two years, but everyday, like now, I just miss talking to Joseph, hearing his voice, asking him a question, holding him, seeing his smile... You know what I am talking about... Thank you for your kind inquiry. You are one of the angels on this site who keep us going. Thank you, dear Marsha, hope you are having a better day when you are reading this.
Steve.....I'm so sorry you're in the middle of a medical merry-go-round. Nothing worse than doctors not knowing what's wrong and having to have a fit in order to get their attention. I hope you don't have Lyme disease but definitely get the blood test to rule it out. Please don't feel like you're venting or ranting. This is what family is for. Say hi to Chuck for me.
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