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Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Virginia on May 17, 2010 at 8:27pm
Maureen, Hi I don't think we'll ever be normal again,it is a big adjustment for sure.I'm so sorry for your loss,this site is wonderfull everyone is hear for the same reason in one way or another.The good thing is if you feel like writing or just read the post it's all ok.I'm fairley new to the site myself and everyone has been just great.May god give you the strenth to take it as you need too, as we all grieve in a different way. Virginia
Comment by Maureen on May 17, 2010 at 7:58pm
hi this is the first time I've written anything here, my husband died May 9th I am just so lost. Reading comments on this site I know I'm not the only one. But I just can't believe I'll ever feel normal again.
Comment by kathleen caylor on May 17, 2010 at 5:55pm
Fred,Julie,Sorry for your losses.When you need an ear to bend or just vent,this is your place.We have all bared our souls here.And you're right it is very theraputic.
Comment by Julie Cleveland on May 17, 2010 at 5:18pm
I lost my husband 3 weeks ago suddenly and have just found this site and have been reading posts. I have found comfort that there knowing that there are others out there suffering the way I am.
Thank You
Julie
Comment by Fred Dunn on May 17, 2010 at 3:04pm
I hope few (if any) choose to leave the site as I was set to choose another Psychologist but I find that this site provides me the insight that I am not alone in my loss, specifically the way it happened, and how long we were together.
It has been invaluable for me to hear (read) the way people are coping and reacting to their loss as I know I am not alone.

God bless all,
Fred Dunn
Comment by Mari on May 17, 2010 at 1:34pm
To Sandralee and Charlotte...it will be 7 years on June 13. Larry was horribly sick the last year yet continued to work to set up what he felt he needed to leave behind for his family. His last day of work was June 1 and he died on June 13. They remain in our hearts and our souls and our minds forever. Never let go of the memory, but embrace life as much as you can. It is painful, it is lonely. But it will be what you choose to make of it. I finally have chosen to live life by making each day special in some way for Larry. These are sometimes big things I do but mostly just a very tiny thing that only I am aware of. For me he shall always be a part of my life. I miss him terribly but know he is in a better place without pain and without sickness...I am holding my hand out to both of you!

~Mari
Comment by Patti Baker on May 17, 2010 at 12:25pm
Being new to this site I have been browsing the comments and the one that stands out is Yacca changing the tire. What a story, I have been in that situation before, myself. Now at age 74 I just call AAA. You did a great job , hope your days are getting better
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Comment by Patti Baker on May 17, 2010 at 12:08pm
Charlotte and Sandralee, this is not an easy road we are traveling down. I lost my husband one year ago May 5th, I got thru the day with help of friends and family 3 days later our grandson was married -- more tears. The only advice I can give you is to stay busy even if you have to force yourself, I read at night and it makes the night go faster. I talk to my husband all the time, I visit the cemetery eventually the tears will not flow as much, there is always something to trigger them. I am still working - self employed - so it is not as stressful.
We were married 55 years - wonderful years- and I miss him more than words can convey. I have tried to keep busy socially SU football and basketball, Syracuse Stage, Pops concerts all of which I can go to by myself.
What I miss the most is going out to dinner,m going to the club, I did not join this year -- it was too painful going alone. Life does go on -- its just never the same...
Comment by Virginia on May 17, 2010 at 9:42am
Charlotte, I to have the same problem when I write.It is so frustrating. I just keep trying.I hope you feel welcomed here everyone is great P S I got your reply virginia
Comment by Sandralee Vahey on May 17, 2010 at 5:15am
To Charlotte Bannon:

Dear Charlotte, I lost my husband to lung cancer on May 4th and it has only been one week now. I loved him with all my heart. I find myself talking to him as though he is still here. I miss him so much that the minutes seem like hours and the hours seem to last an eternity. Toward the end he was in so much pain and so sick that he became extremely difficult to live with. Don't get me wrong I understood why and I loved him anyway. He had a tremendous amount of will power and even more pride. He did not want many of his friends and relatives to know that he had the cancer. He was always doing for others such as mowing their lawns, fixing or repairing something on their homes. As a result he endeared himself to so many people. Several of them did not know that he had the cancer. He was walking around right up until two days before he passed that's how strong his will power was. He was my strength when I needed it, my best friend always, the love of my life from the time we met twenty-three years ago. Our anniversary is on the 9th of June. His birthday is on July 9th and I am sitting here wondering what I will do without him. Mother's day was a total disaster. I cried the entire day I missed him so badly.

I just wanted you to know that I am deeply sorry for your loss even though I am completely heart broken over losing the love of my life. In a sense though I am happy for him because he no longer is in pain and is not suffering anymore. If god spoke to me and said "Sandralee, you may have your husband back" I would be lying if I said no but then I would have to remember how much pain he was in and I know that I have to let him go even though I feel so lost without him. In the meantime I sit here and I wonder "did I tell him I loved him enough". There are so many things that I would like to ask him but it is too late.

God bless you Charlotte and may he be with you always. Sandralee
 

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