Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by deborah peck on Saturday

Most of you know that I have been having a hard time lately, yesterday two things happened, I always tell my husbands ashes good morning and my plans for the day, yesterday I told him I cant believe its been a year already and I went into a complete panic, It was like I really didn't realize it until I said it to him, its been 14 months, you would thing that I would of figured it out by now. Th other thing was when he first passed I told him that if I saw a bluebird at our feeders that I would know it was him sice he always wanted to see one but never had, well yesterday I was talking to my granddaughter that I really needed to know he was okay and was there anything I could've done differently to save him, now mind you I had yet to see a bluebird,, so I opened my door maybe an hour later and there sat a bluebird at my feeder, I know it was him telling me everything is good and he is here, was such a good feeling

Comment by deborah peck on Saturday

Sara, I am so sorry to hear about uour dad, we are all here to help anyway we can, take care of yourself

Comment by Mary. Jane on Friday

Todd, I don,t know you, but I have to comment on the picture of the sculpture you shared . Omg...I have felt exactly like that more days than not....and still do, tho it is getting better in the 2 years and 5 months since Bob died, after 49 years of marriage. 

Somehing clicked into my mind, when I first saw it..I wonder if Paul Simon had seen this before he wrote these words from the song GRACELAND: “loosing love is like a window in your heart. Everybody sees you’re blown apart..everybody feels the wind blow” 

As I looked through the large opening, and his desolate pose, that song came to mind. Now I understand...Thank you for sharing it. 

Mary Jane

Comment by Steve on Friday

Thank you Todd for the picture, very powerful.  Nice to hear from you sir, gives me an opportunity to say thanks to you for your support when I found this wonderful site of caring souls.

Thank You


Comment by Steve on Friday


My heart and spirit grieves with you today dear sister.  Words alone are not sufficient enough to console this loss.  I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.  Be kind to yourself and stay connected, we are all here for you.

Peace and hugs

Your brother Steve

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on Friday

Dear Todd,

It is so good to hear from you - I so often think of the friends who have made such a difference for me in this family, and hope they are well and finding their way.

The sculpture is spot-on, and thank you for sharing it.

Be well and wishing you peace -

Love, Chuck

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on Friday

Dear Sara,

I am so sorry for the loss of your father. I know it will be so difficult trying to be strong for your mother, and all you can say to her is the truth - she will appreciate that.

My prayers for you and your family - wishing you some moments of peace as the next days unfold.

Love, Chuck

Comment by Diane C on Friday


The sculpture is beautiful and so perfect. Obviously the artist has had some great loss in his life. Even the backdrop adds to the impact.

Thank you!

Comment by Diane C on Friday

Oh my gosh Sarah,

I am so sorry to hear of your Dad's passing! I read through the posts and missed that one. I apologize for the lateness of my last post. You are in my thoughts and prayers...

Comment by Diane C on Friday

Hi Sarah,

I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in needing Ken so badly right now as you are facing your fathers illness. Although Rich has been gone for 6 years (Aug.1, 2012) I still miss him terribly each and every day. But then my father became ill in 2014 and died shortly after diagnosis with stomach/esophageal cancer. I needed Rich so bad at that time, I didn't think I could make it through his death and the funeral without him. We had been married 25 years and had been together 24/7 until his passing. My dad and Rich were the best of friends. My dad always said he wished Rich was one of his sons... During my dads illness, he told me one day that he dreamed of Rich and it was very vivid and clear. I told him I had recently heard that when you dream of someone who has passed, that means they (the deceased) are thinking of you at that same time. My dad said "God I hope so, I look forward to seeing him again". It stills brings tears to my eyes when I think about it. I just wanted to share this with you. And assure you that Ken is there with you and your dad. I wish you strength and the ability to get through this. Wish I was there to give you a hug.


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