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Bereaved Spouses

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Grief so great it hurts

Started by Bonny Jones. Last reply by Bonny Jones Jan 22. 12 Replies

Navigating Widow-hood

Started by Tim's Mom, Vickie. Last reply by Bonny Jones Jan 16. 4 Replies

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Comment by kathleen caylor on May 19, 2010 at 7:43am
Well, I get to the cemetery yesterday with a new bench.The thing is made of concrete.I call a couple of people and ask if anyone could help unload this thing.Of course no one was available.So I set the base up ,dig them out and level them,then what to do with the heavy top???I back the car up as close as possible and slide it out !!! It worked perfectly and it's level!!!WhooHoo!!!My hubby would be SOOO proud!He could rig anything!God I miss that man!
Comment by kathleen caylor on May 19, 2010 at 7:20am
Tom,Be careful!!!You are on a site with a whole bunch of widows!!!One of us might take you up on that offer!!!LOL
Comment by charlotte bannon on May 19, 2010 at 6:25am
connie a belated answer to your email,first of all i too am so sorry for the loss of your husband.and yes i have 3 great sons a daugther -in-law m, who is like my own, and 2 grandaugters,also many friends and family, and of course thank god i stil have mymother. with all the blessings around me ii still feel so empty inside,you know and understand what i'm 'mean. at times if feel like i'm just existing. how about you connie, do you have any family around you?, i would like to chat more, i'm just to tired right now,so hopefully i'll get back to you laterl god bless charlotte B
Comment by Virginia on May 19, 2010 at 6:22am
LOL Tom, I needed that laugh, not that you don't sound interesting. lol Virginia
Comment by charlotte bannon on May 19, 2010 at 6:13am
hi everyone , i just wanted all of you to know i'm still with you,and don't plan on leaving. right now i'm just to tired to type anything, get back to all of u later. god bless you! charlotte B
Comment by Yvonne on May 19, 2010 at 12:40am
Linda, I am so sorry for your loss. Your pain is so raw right now, but you have come to the right place. We all understand here.
This is a safe place to vent.
Take care Yvonne
Comment by judy on May 19, 2010 at 12:23am
I think I help them by being honest with them. I listen to their sad and happy moments. I am basically a person who laughs lot and most sessions with clients are not all gloom and doom. My husband used to say I was the only person he knew who laughed in her sleep. I haven't done that much here lately. But we facilitated a group for parents who have had a child die for a number of years and we found laughter and tears are all a part of the grief process. I try to be honest with my clients and though I am in pain right now I know we were happy again after our son, Frank, died and I think Tim would want me to be happy again. Right now that is not so possible but I don't know what lies around the next corner. You wife sounds like she was a neat person.
Comment by judy on May 18, 2010 at 8:52pm
I keep trying to compare the grief over my hisband's death to the grief we experienced when we lost our 17 year old son 27 years ago. Pain is pain, both deaths were sudden and unexpected. At the time our son died we both thought we would do better if it had been one of us. Now I don't know. I am grateful that I two wonderful daughters and three grandsons and the fact that my husband is now with our son, Frank, comforts me but the pain of grief is there and I miss my husband terribly. I know I never quit missing Frank but we did become happy again. Right now I can't imagine the idea of ever experiencing happiness again but I will try to trust God and take each day and hour at a time. I am working with many clients who are experiencing grief and I am being as honest with them as possible. Therapists grieve too.
Comment by Mare on May 18, 2010 at 5:02pm
Hi, I have not been posting here very much but have been reading through all your posts. I know what a difficult journey this is for all of us. My husband has been gone for 19 months now and I would like to say it's easier but it's really not. I am stronger now, though, and able to cope with my loss better but I miss him more than ever. We were married for a little over 30 years. He was going out on a Saturday morning to do some work on our property. He fell from some scaffolding and died instantly. I said good-bye to him in the morning and never saw him again. My heart is broken and still I don't know how to go on some days.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on May 18, 2010 at 3:22pm
It has been 13 months since my wife died an hour into a nap and I heard and saw her die. She had put her shirt and pants on the handle of the vacuum cleaner next to the bed. I refuse to remove them off the handle and had sniffed her shirt for her smell till it finally had worn off. I will never touch her clothes and shoes in the closet but I did throw away the surface things that was hers. She was a small ,tiny woman that anything of hers wouldn't fit anyone else anyway.Hugs to all and thank you STEVE CAIN for having this site.
 

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