Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

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Comment by sheryll on December 20, 2009 at 2:46pm
It will be six months on Christmas eve that I have lost my wonderful husband, I wasn't going to put up a tree this year I didn't think I could bare it, but my 21/2 grandaughter will be here on Christmas eve so I had a friend help me put one up, and I am glad I did Dan would have wanted me to ,he so loved this time of year. time does help some I will never stop missing him, but I have wonderful friends and a great son who has been there for me every step of the way, so I am having some better days, thats not to say I don't have at least one time during the day that I don't cry a little, but Dan taught me to be a strong person, and he would want me to carry on and do what I need to do to live. No one will ever take his place or measure up to the person he was, I believe you are given only one soulmate and he was mine, but I still have to go on living until I get to go be with him again
Comment by judy on December 19, 2009 at 10:40pm
Gary hasn't been gone a month yet,he died on thanksgiving day and everyday i hate the thought of christmas and new years day approaching, people say merry christmas to me everyday cuz i work in the parking at the airport and seeig everyone so happy to have their loved ones home for the holidays makes me sick, i try to be happy for them, but i find myself just thinking how empty i feel inside and how much i miss Gary and how unfair it all seems. this mancame through my line and told me to smile it can't be that bad and i cried and told him he didn't have a clue how bad it is. I don't understand why and if only we could go back to last year when i was one of those people who looked forward to the holidays and just be whole again. I know God had a reason and i try so hard not to question, but eachday i have to be here still i just pray please take me to, i see no happiness or future it's just so painful. May God Bless you all during this tough time in our lives and one day may we all understand that one question......WHY?
Comment by Hazel on December 18, 2009 at 4:31pm
Hi ann iunderstand how you feel i have been trying to do so many things to take the hurt away we were married for almost 33 years and hollowdays are really hard i just try an thank about all the memories an pray.keep the faith stay close to your church family i thank about days we had at his ending how we found each other we will be allright if we keep praying and believe an trust in God Hazel be blessed.
Comment by violet la pollo on December 18, 2009 at 2:32pm
to me when your spouse dies so do you,your heart and emotions come to an end and all the happy people who are out christmas shopping together make it hurt even worse,I wish I could sleep from november till jan 2nd and not have to put on a front for others,I may sound bitter and in reality I am and I do not want to feel this way
Comment by kathleen caylor on December 18, 2009 at 12:28pm
On Sept.9,2009 I lost my husband.Nov.20 was our 44th anniversary.I stayed busy all day but it didn,t help.As thanksgiving came and went and Christmas fast approaching I came to the realization,that it doesn't matter what day it is.I miss him every minute of every day.So it doesn't matter what the the date is.What tears me up is that my children are so sad.I have to be "strong" for them.
Comment by Timothy Edge on December 17, 2009 at 12:29pm
Today is as hard as the day she left me to be with god and the angels.I dont know where to start life again,I have a 13 yr old son who needs help,but i am not strong enough.God...I love you Lisa.
Comment by jan on December 16, 2009 at 9:19pm
I lost my husband, best friend and love of my life to metastatic bile duct cancer. He fought a hard battle for 2 1/2 yrs. Don't know how I can go on without him I meet him when I was 16! How do u go on?
Comment by Sue Darby on December 16, 2009 at 4:46pm
I lost my Tom to metastatic prostate cancer on June 26, 2998. He was 63 years, still working full time, rode a Harley (we both did) and had a vital interest in everything around him. As I approach my second Christmas w/out him I find I am grieving more now than when he first passed away. I guess now that I have taken care of all the finances etc. life is settling down. I feel more lonely now than ever. I have a very supportive family but their's is a different kind of grief. I have lost someone I have been with since I was 15. We were married 42 1/2 years. I would love to correspond w/people who know the feelings I have and am experiencing.
Comment by Cynthia on December 15, 2009 at 8:26pm
I am new to this group but thought I would see if someone at least understands where I am coming from. It will be a year on Friday since I suddenly lost my best friend, boyfriend of 18 months. The first two months were like I was in a fog and his family had been very supportive. Then all that changed and no one in his family speaks to me anymore. One of his sister in laws said it was because he did not talk about me (he was a private person) and they did not know me. Someone told me I was "just the girlfriend" I understand grief as I lost my mom and older brother 4yrs ago but how does one do this alone? Any comments would be helpful.
Comment by Anita Simmons on December 15, 2009 at 4:39pm
At 4:35pm on December 15th, 2009, Anita Simmons said…
How is everyone? I feel like I am losing my mind. Every emotion in the world is coming out and I have no idea how to control them. Dec. 9 my fiance and I were going to be leaving Florida and drive to Texas to spend our Christmas together with close family and friends and the little boy we sacrificed 4yrs of our life to protect. Our christmas were rough throughout the yrs and this Christmas was special. It is killing me to be sitting at home without him. The lonliness consumes me, the heatache sufficates me and going on isn't a desire anymore. I hate my life, I hate that he is gone and that I am all alone. How do you let go of the "should haves", "could haves" or "would haves"? Delete Comment

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