Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by BoLynn on June 14, 2010 at 7:46pm
Connie, it is my understanding that this is a "Bereaved Spouse" forum. It is also my understanding that we are free to post our feelings and thoughts. IMHO if a person finds a post depressing........STOP READING IT! We all grieve in our own way and in our own time. What good is a forum like this one if we have to watch our Ps and Q's and not depress anyone? I for one will post my feelings as I see fit may it be a good day or a bad day. Apologies not necessary.
Comment by Connie on June 14, 2010 at 6:50pm
I want to apologize to all who I may have offended or made sad by the fact that I am experiencing the worst time I have ever had in my life. Maybe I misunderstood but I thought the purpose of this site was to be able to communicate all the feelings that we were feeling because we have lost the one person in the world that was most important to us, the one person that we loved more than anyone else, the person that we cannot bear to live without. I am very sorry but I am sad and lonely. I am very sad and lonely. If anyone finds that depressing, I am truly sorry. I spent most of my life with one man and he is gone and I can do nothing about it and it hurts me so very much. I am sorry if anyone became depressed because of the way that I am feeling. In a few days it will be Father's Day and the father of my children will not be here with us and that makes me very sad. I do apologize to all.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 14, 2010 at 4:14pm
Thank you BoLynn and kathleen for your kindness. Its not been good but we can all share in our "new life". Hugs to all. Hugs are good.
Comment by BoLynn on June 14, 2010 at 1:44pm
Randolph, it's been a really bad two years for me also. I've lost so many beloved family members in this span of time, my Bo and a very dear friend. Yesterday I lost the only source of comfort since Bo's passing, out beloved pet, Koapaka. I'm so sorry that you are surrounded by all this sadness and pain. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Comment by kathleen caylor on June 14, 2010 at 12:36pm
Randolph,Sounds like more than any human should endure!Especially without the support of your wife to boot.It's those times that I miss my husband the most!No one to share your fear and happiness with.Hugs right back at ya!!
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 14, 2010 at 10:40am
I have tried to keep what little bit of sanity that I have but I guess its not to be. The loss of my wife 15 months ago, my step-father 6 months ago, a close uncle 5 months ago, 3 aunts and uncles dying as I speak, and now, my unborn great grandson will probably be terminated due to a major problem. How full does ones plate have to get before we completely lose it? I see no possible way to ever get over the sadness and lonliness. Hugs to all. Hugs are good.
Comment by kathleen caylor on June 14, 2010 at 7:47am
Dixie,Thanks for your input.I was starting to feel guilty about not being morbidly sad.Don't get me wrong,I still have some down times but I feel more grateful than sad.Some people here are so new to this awful situation we've been put in,to watch them in their grief is so painful for me.I know,they will have to struggle to find their sanity and make sense out of what has happened in their lives.Through this site and the good people here I've managed to survive with some sort of dignity.Otherwise I'd be a babbling id--t.(It won't let me Write Idi-t)
Comment by Virginia on June 14, 2010 at 2:49am
Peg I'm so sorry I know it's rough, and children are so insightfull,they sense when things are not right God Bless, and good luck on Wed. and Friday. Virginia
Comment by Dixie Olson on June 13, 2010 at 10:58pm
Its been five years since my huband died, I have to tell you all that with time it does get better, each of us will handle our grief differantly the pain will remain but it will help you heal. We have all been to the same place where we didnt want to go on
the only thing that i can say that's got me thru these past five years is my faith. Im sorry for each of your loss, your in my prayers!One foot in front of the other each day, take care
Comment by Peg Otley on June 13, 2010 at 10:42pm
Today was the 6 mo. anniversary of Harry's death. I have been devastated all day long. I know my children were having a rough time too. Some days I am good and others are just like it just happened and today was one of those days. Even our 3 yr. old twin kept repeating I miss Pappy. My son heard him so many times that HE started crying and Andrew looked at him, wiped the tears from his daddys face kissed him and took my son's face and buried it in his little chest and said don't cry daddy!!! What would we do without them!??? Dear Lord give me strength to get through my procedure on Wed. and a good answer on a 2nd opinion on a transplant on Fri.

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