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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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What a deeply insightful quote you put here about grief! I think all of us here on this forum can relate to it: grief is love that has nowhere to go. I will always remember this--evert time my eyes tear up, every time there is a hollow feeling in my heart which is several times everyday. Thank you for the post. It helps.
This is a belated wish for you for what would have been your 35th anniversary with Larry on Friday. It's wonderful beyond words that Larry sent you "Claire de Lune" over the radio as your anniversary gift! I can only imagine what you were feeling...
Sending you much love,
Chuck...I am so sorry I didn’t wish you a happy 35th anniversary...to everyone else...your posts were wonderful. Sometimes I just come here and read, but don,t respond.
Today would have been my 51st wedding anniversary with Bob. I am doing fine! No sadness, or anything bad..just nice memories.
I think it is cuz I am so greatful not to be as sick as I was the beginning of last week that I am cherishing each “good” day.
CHUCK..I think about you spending your first summer in Texas..and enduring this heat...it usually does’t start this early and it is life sucking. I can’t wait to get back to cool weather in S.F.!
When my daughter was here a few weeks ago, we totally purged the house of SOOOO much stuff. At first it was difficult, as Bob spent YEARS going to flea markets, garage sales, thrift shops..I felt as tho I was disrespecting all his hard work. This was his way of providing for our future..we could sell this stuff and be rich.
We never took into consideration that the market would tank, or that we might not be in good physical shape to haul boxes, have garage sales, etc...but it is just too much for me to deal with. So I am donating most of it. I have reached the point of not caring, and hoping other people will enjoy what I have donated. All these things have become DEAD WEIGHT... and the time I spend on researching this stuff could be used in other ways..like cleaning out cupboards for more crap to toss out. LOL
ok thanks for letting me vent, happy Father’s Day!
Steve, thank you for your kind words and I swear that is a beautiful quote.. that lump in my throat is so familiar, I spoke at Basil's service and asked my sister to stand with me cause I didn't think I could make it through without totally losing it, but once I started talking about the man I loved I couldn't stop.
Steve, I'm sorry for your lost of Mark, I can hear the pain. The people on this site literally saved my life and that is not a lie. I'm so thankful I found this family. Nobody judges the way you feel, because we all deal differently.
I was raised in a very violent and abusive household, my father was an alcoholic and did some horrible things. He liked to pick me out the most because I was oldest of 7 kids. He would find ways to scare me thinking he was making me strong, but he wasn't making me strong, he was damaging the way I looked at people the rest of my life. Basil was the only person that truly showed me love for the first time in my life. He built me up and tore down the walI i had built around me to protect me. I just crave that love back again. I am so lost without him telling me how beautiful I am and I can do anything if I try. He sent me to college and I got my degree and worked for Coca-Cola Corporate out of Atlanta, Ga for 17 years. I could not have ever thought I would be making decision about launching promotional are and selling them in front of buyers!!!
I'm just so lost, but I'm going to make it, I know that now
YourbLegacy Sister Patty
I do not post often, however, I do read up on everyone's post. I lost my love, Mark, three years and six months ago. My grief and yours is still as fresh and familiar as the day he died.
More often than not, I find things I like to share with those in our family here on Legacy. I found this quote (anonymous author) last evening and it struck home for me and thought I would share. Take care of yourself today and know that our family here is very caring and very watchful. I consider everyone on this site to be brothers and sisters. Here is the quote:
Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All of that unspent love gathers in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in the hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.
Your legacy brother,
I am speechless as to the concern you all had for meit truly brought me to tears, some of my own family don't even show such compassion toward me. I'm so thankful I found you all here. I really didn't think anyone cared that much, I now know you do and promise to let ya'all know that I'm okay. I do sometimes get wrapped up with work here, but I know I needed to not worry you, cause like me you lost the love of your life.
Question, I'm listening to Garth Brooks song, The Dance, In it he says he's glad he didn't know because if he had he would of missed The Dance...I am opposite I wish I'd known when Basil was going to pass, cause every second of every day I would of LOVED STRONGER and made it so unbelievably for him and not take for granted what a beautiful soul the Lord put on Earth for just me to cherish. He worshipped me and me him and in 34 years we never feel out of Love, like every couple we had out ups and downs but never went to bed angry!!! So, my question, would you have wanted to know when your loved one was going to pass? Just courious.....
I know all kinds of trades, my brother-in-law owns his own mechanical shop and I worked for him for a couple years..he taught me alot. Another brother-in-law owns a removing business, so I know electrical, plumbing, and carpentry!
Good day my fellow mates... Time to mow across the creek with the gazebo. I might just make a cocktail and sit in the gazebo!!!!
Dear Patty ... I feel so much better reading your post! WOW! You are quite handy fixing your own car. Don't be afraid to ask a neighbor for help if you get stuck as I've had to do that myself. I can thank my dad years ago how to do some minor mechanics, but every so often I get stuck and have to ask my neighbor for a little help. I too find it difficult as it seems we have to pay money for everything. I'm on a very low budget as well.
The family on Legacy to me is more family than I do have because everyone here knows how each other feels and we can say what we feel without fear of judgement. Also, if one chick is missing we want to know if they are safe. YOU ARE FAMILY HERE! When you are down remember we are all here for you.
Now I have to go out and clean up dog messes! Ugh. My neighbor mows my lawn and he's started on his own already.
Take care my dear friend and hope you have a well deserved peaceful day. Basil is right there with you so never forget that.
We all feel the same way about you, and thank you for letting us know you are OK - we are indeed an uncommon family here, and one that I am grateful for every day of my life.
Today would be Larry's and my 35th Anniversary - we celebrated this as it was the day we met. We also celebrated the day in August when I proposed to him. Greedy weren't we, wanting 2 anniversaries? At least we had 2 excuses for expensive dinners out in places we normally couldn't afford!
I have been thinking about this all week, and my emotions have been kind of all over the place. Then this morning, as Steve and I were driving to an appointment, "Claire De Lune" started playing on the radio - a piece with very special significance for Larry and myself - and I felt a quiet sense of calm and peace that I know was Larry letting me know that he and Steve's Mark were watching us every day and were going to help keep us safe from harm.
Kudos on your mechanical skills - I can barely pump my own gas , and that only after asking for directions every time. In short, when it comes to cars I have "hopeless" tattooed on my forehead.
Have a peaceful day today dear friend, and feel the hug I'm sending -
Dear beautiful family, I had a post and some how I lost or erased.
My car broke down, so I had to put my mechanic hat on!!! It took a lot of hard work and sweat to fix it, but finally got it on the road. It's the only car I have, so I had to repair it, I'm finacially am not able to hire help and only depend on myself. I've learned that lesson along time ago.
Marsha, Mary Jane, Sara, and Chuck,. You guys are the most beautiful, compassionate people I know. I honestly feel like family here. You don't understand, you all probably saved my life!!!
Much love, Patty
Dear Patty ... Sara gave you very sound advice and between Mary.Jane, Sara and I we are worried about you and if you can please just leave a post 'I'm OK.' We'll understand that you may be in part of your grief where you just want to be alone, sleep and forget or just have peace. We all love you and we're praying for you. What Sara said about knowing her spouse is there, I feel the same way Sara does.
Hope to hear from you soon.
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