Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Sara Murphy on January 15, 2021 at 9:54pm

Pillow.jpg  I'm not sure how well this picture will come through but it's a pillow i ordered for myself, kind of like an anniversary/memorial gift for me. I attached the pic as a link and also attached it in the body of the email.  It's hard to see what it looks like while typing in this little box.   

Comment by Sara Murphy on January 15, 2021 at 9:47pm

Marsha....I looked at the video and I've always been a believer, even before losing Ken but more so since.  In fact, on the 5 yr anniversary Wednesday, I was wondering if he was going to send me a sign that he was there.  He made his presence known, not directly to me but through my friend of 37 years, Diana.   Last week, Diana was cleaning out a drawer in her husbands' office and found the prayer card from his funeral service.  A couple days later she opened a drawer in her kitchen and found her copy of the prayer card.  She read it and placed it on a table.  On Wednesday, she saw a flash by the window and when she looked outside, she saw a cardinal sitting on a machine in her back yard.  Then, also on Wednesday she was putting a coat on and the prayer card she placed on the table fell off and landed at her feet.  Ken was really pounding home the fact that he was there.  He knew Diana would recognize his presence and let me know.  Like the man in the video who was tapped on the shoulder, Ken went through Diana to get the message to me.  He was always a character with a huge sense of humor so I think he had some fun with it.

Comment by Marsha H on January 15, 2021 at 3:13am

Dear Trina ...

It is wonderful to see you post and I know how you long for Joseph as I do Ernie and the rest of us here all feel this most of the time.  I try to remember what I learned from Ernie throughout our years and the good spirit he had and I feel I need to act on those lessons and carry the torch for him.  Joseph was such a good man with wonderful qualities (I feel I know him from all the posts you have made) so my dear, carry that torch for Joseph,  I believe one day we will see them again. 

I am hanging in there, but being retired and a senior it's tough at times just trying to keep active.  Everything was going much better with my volunteering until Covid came along and changed all our lives.  So far I am lucky and healthy.  We wear masks here, but are more liberal than our neighbor in the U.S.A.  I can shop in a mall if I want and have gone to Costco; walk the dogs a lot weather permitting.  The dogs are my saviors cuddling up with me in front of a fire in the evening.  I miss seeing my friends like all of us do and do keep in touch by phone or email.  I am able to see my small immediate family as they are considered to be in my 'bubble.' 

I do pray for everyone on here and in America and hope soon all this will be behind us so please keep safe and know Joseph is there and all of us will make it. 

Much love & Hugs my friend


Comment by Marsha H on January 14, 2021 at 6:49pm

To my Angels on this forum:

Many of us wonder if our spouses are close and this video says it all.  So, please, listen to that silent message you may receive and act upon it like this man did.  I am a believer that in one form or other our spouses make contact with us every so often and it can come in different forms.  

I  hope this gives all of you hope that as I said before our loved ones are in our hearts.  They have not forgotten us. 



Comment by Trina Mamoon on January 14, 2021 at 3:05pm

Dear Marsha,

Glad to see you on this forum again. Hope you're doing well and keeping safe. 

What you say is so true! Our beloved spouses are embedded in our heart, and no matter how many years go by, they will forever remain there.

For me, Joseph remains and will remain the shining light that guides me everyday. I feel blessed to have had him in my life for 19 years; I wish it were more like 59 years that we could have spent with each other. But I know, no matter how many years I would have been granted to live my life with him, it would not have been enough.

Stay well and stay healthy, my dear friend! Sending you much love,


Comment by Trina Mamoon on January 14, 2021 at 2:59pm

Dear Mary,

I, too, talk to my darling Joseph every single day even though it will be 6 and a half years ago on February 4th that he passed. Like Marsha says, it doesn't matter how long ago our soulmate left us physically, they will forever live in our hearts, in our memory, and in spirit they will continue to light our way.

Sending you love and good thoughts as you adjust to your new home. Your Bob is right there with you!

Hugs, Trina

Comment by Trina Mamoon on January 14, 2021 at 2:55pm

Dear Sara, 

The anniversaries are the hardest to face. Five years, and yet it seems like it was the other day. My heart goes out to you. I hope that it was not too brutal yesterday living through the day you lost your precious Ken. Sending you thoughts of healing and comfort.

Love and hugs, Trina

Comment by deborah peck on January 14, 2021 at 1:00pm

Sarah, so sorry that you are going thru the anniversary date, its so hard, my sis just passed the 1 year mark with her husband, its just so overwhelming sometimes to think that time just keeps going on when the whole world should be feeling our loss not literally but

it seems everything should just stop. Im praying for your well being thru these difficult days

Comment by Marsha H on January 14, 2021 at 7:04am

Dear Mary ...  Bob is there because he is embedded in your heart and your mind is filled with wonderful memories.  I often feel how sad it is that some never experience the love all of us have had and the good memories.  At times I too feel Ernie isn't with me, but every so often I feel he's right behind me if I'm cooking dinner or doing something else.  Other times I don't feel he is there.  What astonishes me the most is the years at one point seemed to drag and suddenly now I'm facing the 10th year this April and I wonder where the years went.  I too have my cries, but not as frequently as I once did.  Hang in there my dear friend and know we are all here for you.

Love & Hugs


Comment by Marsha H on January 14, 2021 at 6:58am

Dear Sara ...  I know how it hurts your heart to think of your Ken and that it seems he was just there and now is gone.  There are no words to ease your pain, but please know we are all here for you.

It will be10 years since my Ernie passed away and sometimes it feels like yesterday and other times I wonder where the years went.  I still have a few times I have a good cry missing him and more so now that we stuck in our homes with Covid lurking.  We use to tell each other we could beat anything if we stuck together.  All our feelings are normal.  How can we love someone so deeply and no matter how many years you are with them just get on with life and never think of them again.  The are embedded in our hearts forever.  

Love & Hugs



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