Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Chicago Beard on December 24, 2022 at 4:13pm

Mary Jane, so sorry to hear about your memory issues and loss of height. Check with your doctor sooner than later please. Have fun at your daughter-in-law's.

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 24, 2022 at 3:55pm

Ok, this isn’t very good news..something I NEVER expected to happen this soon, or at all..and, to me, it is TERRIFYING. I don,t have any instant recall Yes, it doesn’t SOUND scary..but it IS. Eventually, I CAN recall stuff..but it takes awhile to “click through the mental files” and remember..but this has never happened to me before. Hopefully it could be the MEDS I am on, I surely hope so, and will check with my doctor..I have also lost 2 inches off my height, making me 4’ 7”. I am only 76…too soon for this to happen.

I wish all of you a WONDERFUL holiday..we are driving to my daughters in laws celebrate the holidays..I wish everyone Joy and Happiness in the New Year. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 24, 2022 at 3:31pm

Ohh, thanks for the wishes..and Happy Holidays, and JOY  to everyone here. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 24, 2022 at 3:30pm

That is WONDERFUL! I wish you both happiness and joy!

Comment by Steve G. on December 24, 2022 at 2:34pm

Congratulations Chicago Beard!

Happy Holidays to one and all of our legacy family

Steve G

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on December 24, 2022 at 12:20pm

Hello Chicago Beard! How nice to hear from you and that you are engaged - congratulations. 

I also want to express my wishes for everyone that you all have happy holidays - may we remember and be remembered, may we feed others and be fed, may we provide shelter and be sheltered, and mostly may we love and be loved.

Happy New Year to all, and stay well and safe.

Love, Chuck and Steve

Comment by Chicago Beard on December 24, 2022 at 11:27am

Hello everyone. Just dropped in to to let you know things are good with me. I am getting married next year this time. Of course that does not mean I miss my Rose any less. 

Just wanted to wish everyone happy holidays and hoping that next year is a good year for everyone.

Comment by Steve G. on November 8, 2022 at 12:54pm

Hi Sara,

Yes, we do love looking at the lake and it's ever-changing looks throughout the day.  I think Larry and Mark are always around making sure that we find the right people to help us and to make sure that we take care of each other.

I find myself looking at the lake often, using it as my anchor to stay focused on the important things while not forgetting how we got here.

Take care Sara, 

your friend Steve

Comment by Steve G. on November 8, 2022 at 12:43pm

Oh Marsha,

So glad to hear from you, my friend.  Life in general can be demanding without our help at all.  So sorry to hear about your neighbor passing and your friends' family passing.  That would be too much for anyone to bear alone, good that they have you to help them thru this.  I know from experience first hand, that you have a way of putting things into perspective and how to make someone feel comfortable, at ease and know that you are listening while comforting them.  I shall always remember how you helped me through my grief as well as so many others on this site.

I love living in this small village by the lake and watching the sunrise, sunset and all the changes during the day that the lake makes.  I am told that this winter the lake will be busier than the summer.  Seems like there is a lot of ice fishing that will take place.  Lake Oneida is a shallow lake but a very big one that freezes over for all kinds of activities.

Today, we have 17 new windows being installed.  So far, I have wallpapered two rooms, remodeled part of the kitchen, repaired plumbing and built and installed a barn door.  This winter we will finish painting the inside of the house and refinish the living room floor.  

I think of you often, as well as so many others on this site, hoping that they are well and getting through each day as it comes.

Lots of emotions and memories packed and unpacked getting to this point of my life.  Getting older and believing that it was all necessary so that I could become the person that I should have been.  No regrets, just the wonderful memories of a life like no other.  Each of our paths criscross so many other paths and we meet very special people such as yourself.  You are a good friend, and I shall always love you as a sister.  Take care, sending many hugs your way.


Comment by Marsha H on November 7, 2022 at 5:10am

Steve ...

What a beautiful sunset for you and Chuck to look at.  It is good to see both of you on the forum.  I think of both of you often.  I've been very lax for months due to some friends passing away.  My dear neighbor Dan who was my go-to man who would fix things for me and his girlfriend too have always been so good to me and unfortunately, Dan became ill and passed in September.  It was a shock for his girlfriend and also myself and I still miss him.  His girlfriend and I still keep a close eye on each other and have been out for dinner once and planning to go out again soon.

My best girlfriend had her husband pass away 3 years ago; then her 46 year old daughter from cancer and 6 months after that her son who was 51 passed away from a brain bleed.  We keep in touch every day and just talk and I get her laughing sometimes.  I know how horrific it must be for her so I've visited her several times and once got her to a nice pub by the river during the summer and sat outside and ordered dinner and drinks.  She seemed to enjoy it, but I still know that '2 masks' a happy face when out and sad when you get home.  Grief just takes time.  

Hope you and Chuck are having the time of your lives and as I said always think of you both even though I haven't posted.




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