Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Thank you, Marsha and Sara. You make wonderful points, and help my soul deal with this time in my life that never seems like it is going to be over.
Your responses are the reason this site is so important in my life. Everyone here is such a comfort.
Except Brianna. Hahahahahahahahahahahaha....(I just HAD to say that. If I ever loose my sense of humor I may as well cash in my chips. LOL)
Mary Jane ... I also listened to your daughter's songs and she is very talented and I so enjoyed listening. I joined and wanted to leave a message and get her name out there, but it wouldn't go through for some reason.
I believe your daughter is finally grieving and it is her song writing and her voice that consoles her and get's her feelings out. We all grieve differently. I remember when my father passed away I was in my mid-20's and I felt I had to be strong for my mother as did my brother. I did do my crying once back at my apartment. Losing a first parent always seems the toughest because we've all not given it much thought that our parents would pass eventually. Yes, I do also believe she is worried you will pass away as well and that's very normal.
Leaving the life you had before is also a grief and starting a new life appears much more difficult than it is. It could be an great adventure for you and your daughter. You will get rolling when you need to and once settled in your new place I am sure within a couple of months it will feel like a home and more adventures to be had. My words may seem easier than they are, but I have girlfriends who are widows and they have moved. At first it's strange, but keeping busy is the key and getting out for a little entertainment every so often helps as well. It wasn't long before they fell into their new life, made new and interesting friends. I do pray for all on here and I know you're going to make out just fine my dear friend.
Brianna ... You have been politely asked previously by the founder of this site that you are on a wrong site and we all would appreciate it if you would kindly find the correct website to leave your posts. I need not tell you that your posts may offend some members here and grieving is a difficult enough journey without you coming back after being asked to politely leave. We consider this spam!
Thank you, Sara..yes, this one was different...sometimes I forget that she is grieving too. She is our only child, was her dads “little princess”..and yet, after he died, she seemed put her emotions on hold...for over 2 years... Maybe she thought she had to be strong for me, and I worried about it and it wasn,t until this December, after her boss died instantly..he was only 58...that she finally started talking about how it has affected her. I tried to get her to come here, and join the group for loss of a parent..but she refused.
I think spending 10 days here in January, sorting through the pictures of her childhood, finally broke through to her...realizing her dad was really gone...and being TERRIFIED the same fate could happen to her mom, me..compelled her to,write that song. Each of us grieves in our own way...and in our own timeframe..and she has been so very patient with me. So I am trying to step t up for her..but tossing out what was once my/ our former life, disposing of Bobs belongings, is, in a sense, almost worse than when he died.
I am having a terrible time moving forward...but I need to step it up, as my biggest fear is finally moving back to CA and dying as soon as I get there. I know time is of the essence, and I still procrastinate. I am afraid of everything involved in relocating...so I do nothing, or what I do takes forever to complete the simplest of tasks. But as I look around, at my almost “staged” house, I am beginning to Realize, this might be fun. It just happens to be the very worse time of the year...not a good market for either buyers or sellers. But I KNOW whenthe universe is ready, I will be too.i HAVE to focus on that...otherwise all I want to do is just sleep, and pretend it isn,t really happening.
Mary Jane.....I listened to your daughter's song. It was actually quite catchy and yes, I could relate.
Sara; I've sent a message to Steve asking that very question. This isn't the first time that account has spammed us and other groups as well.
How do we get Brianna's access to our group revoked?
Thank you Marsha, MaryJane and Steve. I appreciate you taking the time to respond to my e-mail. I thank you each for your individual stories about your moms too. I know we all have a different story to tell and I appreciate hearing them as well. Hugs to you!!! Thank you!
I am so sorry to hijack y,all...but my daughter wrote another song a few days ago...which is unlike any song she has ever written.
It is like she reached into my heart, and pulled out all the feelings of loss, and grief, and change..and FEAR...as Dec 2, her boss of 18 years, the CEO of the company, and a second father to her, died. Then we spent 10 days together, going thru all our old photographs, memories that were so painfull, and the fear we are both sharing of me having to dispose of most of Bobs belongings, and relocate to my home state, sell this house, and try to find another one.
So, she wrote a song about it, and how our worlds have changed and how scary it is. I know I have posted a song of hers b4..but this one is different, and I think folks here can really relate to it.
All the vocals are her, background voices, everything. She is playing the piano. I hope this link works. She has never written any song like this..her others all kinda sound the same..but this one is from her heart. Thanks for letting me hijack...
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