Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

Members: 1371
Latest Conversations: 5 hours ago

This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.


Discussion Forum

Navigating Widow-hood

Started by Tim's Mom, Vickie. Last reply by Michele Jul 21. 5 Replies

Finding the new normal

Started by Sharon Kinsey. Last reply by Frances C Younger Jun 24. 12 Replies

Grief so great it hurts

Started by Bonny Jones. Last reply by Bonny Jones Jan 22. 12 Replies

Comment Wall


You need to be a member of Bereaved Spouses to add comments!

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 1, 2019 at 2:32pm

Happy new year everyone. I just moped around the house, watched a surprisingly REALLY good movie on FREE HBO...most of the movies I started to watch  sucked big time..but I highly recommend The Mountain Between Us..riveting...

went to bed at midnight, couldn,t sleep cuz all the yahoos in Oklahoma set off fireworks every New Year’s ended up sleeping until a friend messaged me at 9:40 am...

today I am going to try to pack the personal,stuff like things on the refrigerator, like Bobs poems, and sketches...and printed “sayings” one of which has been up there for Years..and is so prophetic :

FEAR EATS THE SOUL....and it really really does. What I would REALLY like to do, is get roaring drunk...but I made an iron clad promise to God that I can never break,,, I couldn,t even if I was assured there would be no accidents, phoning friends, or hangover. 

I wish you all a better year...last year kinda really sucked...2017 was least it seemed that way.

QUESTION: has anyone here seen the musical The Book of Mormon?  Melinda got us tickets to see it..she saw it about a year ago,  said it was so funny her stomach hurt for days from laughing. But my neighbor saw it and DIDN,t like it...but she had never heard or seen SOUTHPARK and it was written by their creators. Kind of R rated...I loved Southpark until it got too violent. Ok bye 

Comment by Steve G. on January 1, 2019 at 7:39am

Wishing you the same Marsha, we spent the evening at home watching the CNN coverage on TV of the NYC festivities, then one hour later, watched the Dallas Celebration of the New Year.  We watched Twilight Zone marathon off and on all day and after midnight central time for about an hour and then retired,,,

Good to hear from everyone and wishing everyone a healthy year full of peace, hope and love for all.

Hugs to all

Comment by Marsha H on January 1, 2019 at 4:12am

Steve ...  I hope you and Chuck had a decent New Year's Eve and I wish you peace, good health and the best the world has to give to both of you.

Love & Hugs


Comment by Marsha H on January 1, 2019 at 4:10am

Dear Sara ...  Hope you had a decent New Year's Eve and I wish you the very best in 2019.  It has to be a better year for all of us.



Comment by Marsha H on January 1, 2019 at 4:09am

Janeo!  I think of you often and even sent an email about 3 months ago.  Answer your emails!  LOL  You are a dear friend and I miss you.  HAPPY NEW YEAR MY DEAR FRIEND!!!! 



Comment by janeo on December 31, 2018 at 8:35pm

Hi  Marsha, How are you ? Haven't posted in the longest time,but I do read the post. I see your still an ANGEL here to all. Just wanted to wish you a Happy New Years.  And for all the members I don't know I'm so sorry for your loss. 


Comment by Mary. Jane on December 31, 2018 at 6:03pm

Awwwwww, thanks Steve!

Comment by Steve G. on December 31, 2018 at 4:44pm
Comment by Sara Murphy on December 31, 2018 at 4:09pm

Hi everyone..  I'm going to spend some time tomorrow catching up on reading the posts but I wanted to take a minute to wish everyone a peaceful New Years and better days to come in 2019

Love, Sara

Comment by Marsha H on December 31, 2018 at 4:04pm

Dear Chuck ...  I do agree with Mary Jane.  When you look back on what your friend did for you when you needed it the most I'm inclined to think of angels too.  When Ernie was dying in hospital my girlfriend was with me every single steps of the way and picked me up when I was down.  She hugged me when I cried, she was intelligent and did a lot of the paperwork for me to and she not only saw me through the whole ordeal, but to the bitter end.  She was stoic so I would become stronger and I was, but one day while at the hospital she broke down and cried and I'd never seen her cry.  I hugged her close and realized she too was grieving for her friend Ernie.  After he passed she saw me through all the red tape and just like your friend after it was all over I didn't hear from her as often as we I use to.  I didn't take offence and realized she needed space and so did I.  Now, we see each other perhaps a couple of months time-wise and yet we pick up where we left off.  We here forget sometimes that others grieve as well not only for the loss of their friend who passed away, but for us as well.  It's exhausting.  Here is a story for you to prove it's either angels of someone much bigger than us here on earth:

My first marriage was not a good one and I filed for divorce.  I had never lived on my own, but I thought it was time I put my big girl panties on and became more independent.  I was in a job that didn't pay well and they were laying people off and I was one of them shortly after I had moved into my apartment.  I never went to my parents for help so I beat the streets looking for work and suddenly when I went to the Employment Center the woman across the desk looked at me and said, 'Where have they been hiding you?  You have excellent qualifications.'  I was stunned.  Life had not been good to me at that time.  She found a great job for me at Trans Mountain Pipeline and I went in for the interview.  The man who interviewed me said he would get back to me the same day.  I was anxious and called him, but his line was busy and lo and behold he was trying to reach me.  I heard the words 'you are hired!'  I had no money so I got up the next morning very early to walk to work which was about 12 miles.  (I was much younger then.  LOL)  As I walked out of my apartment where I always turned left I happened to look right down at the floor for some strange reason and there standing on end was exactly 80 cents which pay for a bus going to work and coming home.  I couldn't believe my eyes because no one knew what was going on.  Once at work when I got to the reception area (I was dressed very business-like) the receptionist told me where to go and then said, 'Marcy, here is $50 to get you through until pay day.'  HUH?  I have a lot of pride and I told her I was just fine, but she insisted.  As soon as I got paid I paid her back.  I worked with 8 other men in the office and they were all so good to me and we all became friends.  It was a pleasure to go to work.  So you see my friend, angels do exist  and some put thoughts into people's minds to do good deeds. 

Please don't feel your friend has abandoned you because she hasn't, smile because she was there when you needed her the most and believe me, she does know how your life is going and as Mary.Jane said, letting you stand on your own two feet just like myself. 

Love you



Members (1371)


Community Guidelines

Please be respectful of others. For more information, read our Community Guidelines.

Follow Legacy

© 2019   Created by   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service