Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

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Finding the new normal

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Grief so great it hurts

Started by Bonny Jones. Last reply by Bonny Jones Jan 22, 2019. 12 Replies

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Comment by Diane C on January 31, 2019 at 5:38pm

Sorry to add to your list MaryJane, but I wanted to let everyone know that my beautiful 85 year old mom passed away on Monday afternoon. She had been in a nursing home and was slowly declining. The past week was terrible for her and me. She was in a lot of pain and Hospice was there to help her. Hospice gave us a wonderful nurse (Kathy) who was an angel and she happened to be with my mom when she passed. I was at work and Kathy called me at 1:00 to say she though it would be soon, within the next couple days. I said I would be there at 4:00, right after work. She said she would be there until 4:30. I was glad to be able to chat with Kathy as she had been off for the weekend. I left the office and was used to carrying my cell phone everywhere I went the past couple of weeks, 10 minutes later my phone rang and it was Kathy telling me that my mom had passed. A blessing for my mom,  she had been bedridden and slowly declining for the past several months. I had her funeral arrangements pre-planned, but they needed me to identify her at the funeral home as her body had undergone a huge change. She hadn't eaten in a couple weeks and no water for at least a week. The picture I had given them was from October and they could not be 100% that it was the same person. I completely understood as she did not resemble my mother any more. So that was a very hard thing to do. I do understand why it had to be done, just unfortunate I had to be the one. I just felt like I had to come here and let my friends know that she had passed..... Thanks for allowing me to do that. God Bless You Mom, I Love  YOU!!!

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 29, 2019 at 10:00pm

Ok..I know this is for bereaved partners/spouses...but the last few weeks, I have heard that so many people died...a friend was telling me last night at Bunko... that she knew 4 people that had passed since Christmas, two of them young,and suddenly...and .we were talking about one of our Bunko members, Jan, who was 82, but vital and active... who had been ill a few weeks,..and she died this morning. 

I cannot get it out of my head, as I admired her so much...she was 82, looked about 68...was still working asa hair dresser...and was energetic, and an inspiration to me...but she had been sick..and now she’s gone. 

Also, a young woman I worked with 14 years ago, we were friends, she got throat cancer and passed a week ago. She was only 35 had a hubby and 15 yr old daughter, andnever smoked, then gets cancer. A horrible cancer...she fought for a year. I just cannot wrap my head around HER death, and I am really going to miss Jan..the older woman. I makes me afraid, too. 

I just wanted to vent...thanks

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 23, 2019 at 6:00pm GO, Beard! That,s a lot nicer than what I wanted to post..but I restrained myself.

Comment by Chicago Beard on January 23, 2019 at 2:29pm

Brianna you are in the wrong group!

Comment by Marsha H on January 22, 2019 at 4:59pm

Jeanette ...  If you go to the top on here and over to the left you'll see 'Main' and click on that.  Then you'll see different groups on there and click on the first one which has a couple on there and the lady has a green top on.  Click on that and you'll come to this comment page.

Comment by Marsha H on January 22, 2019 at 4:56pm

Jeanette ...  I posted on your wall.  

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 22, 2019 at 10:11am

I can click n the email link for your post, but I cannot click on it from here. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 22, 2019 at 10:07am

I got an email for Bonny’s post..but I don,t know where she posted it...the responses seem to be from others who signed up to recieve emails.

i cannot click on your links, is probably just me...I have never figured out how to C&P on my IPad. 

Comment by Jeanette McSherry on January 22, 2019 at 9:52am

I have had a friend for several decades who has been thru it all with my family. He cared for my husband when he was ill and for my children (and me). The first thing I noticed about him when we first met was how kind he was. The thing is - I'm not ready to jump on the hamster wheel again. He has let me know that he is interested and honestly I enjoy his companionship immensely and don't want to discourage him. Yes I have told him this but he doesn't back off for more than a week or two. All I can focus on is how many problems there would be in beginning a new relationship right now. I already have most of the benefits so I haven't had to go it alone like so many of you. When I am alone I don't do well. When he is around it keeps the anxiety and depression away........but I realize I am very vulnerable. Afraid to make a bad decision because I am so needy. Anyone else in this circumstance?

Comment by Jeanette McSherry on January 22, 2019 at 9:46am

I cannot seem to paste into the comment box and I have never quite figured this site out. The other one you refer to Steve is not as secure - but easy to use.


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