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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Marsha, I have a friend that I work with who went home from work and found her husband dead (I hate using that word) I told her about this site and you cause know you'll look out for her. She has 1 kid in high school and little ones and just took custody of her grandchildren before he died. I've been helping her as well. Just wanted you to know before hand. She's going to my name janeo. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I told her you were an angel in human form. Sending lots of hugs your way.
Go for it Deb...that is a very good,positive idea...make it as festive as possible.instead of mourning his death, celabrate the life he lived..with videos, photos, and memorances of “the time when he..” ....just because he is no longer in a world where you can,t see him...doesn,t mean he didn,t exist! Talk about the wonderful times u had when he was alive, little antidotes, etc.Get a cake..maybe HIS favorite...don,t pretend he never existed just because he isn,t there...I think celebrating the life he lived is a very good idea, and laughter is better than tears.
Deborah .... I think that's a wonderful idea. Because we keep them so close to our hearts just acknowledging his birthday is just fine. I have a feeling he'll be there! I would certainly do it without hesitation. Good memories, some laughs and a drink to your beloved Greg. It would make him happy.
Thursday will be my Gregs birthday, we have decided (my girls and I) to have dinner together that evening to acknowledge his bday even if he isn't here. He would be 64. thoughts????
Dear Diana, I was on antidepressants up until recently but weaned myself off because I don't like taking meds but after I was off of them I now remember all my dreams, Think the meds was making me sleep too heavy.
Mary Jane, I do remember your post about leaving your body, I too have had that experience, I don't remember what it was about but I do remember panicking when it started to happen and grabbing my mattress to keep me in bed, sounds crazy, it was after that I went on meds, it freaked me out, so not sure if it was a dream or not but my little grandson was sleeping with me and I kept looking at him to make sure I was alive, very scary
I haven,t been here a lot lately...upheaval in my usually sedate life..but DEBBIE....YES, I have had similar dreams. In mine, he is with me in the beginning of the dream, then either I leave, or HE leaves the place we are together, mostly I leave...and I can NEVER EVER find him again..no matter how hard and desperately I try...the room has disappeared,or the street isn,t the same...(OMG, I JUST STARTED CRYING AS I TYPE THIS..)
The dreams are all the same...the locations and situations differ, but the DESPARATION of not being with him anymore, unable to reach him when he WAS JUST THERE A MINUTE AGO..is horrible and heart breaking.
I haven,t dreamt that in awhile...and lately, he is occasionaly in my dreams..but just THERE...we don,t have any interaction...he is just one of a small or large group...those dreams are better.
I don,t know if you were here on this board when I had my experience of being TRANSPORTED to the front room, while taking a nap..and the door opened and he walked in and hugged me. But it wasn,t really a dream,cuz I KNEW I was really lying on my bed, I could feel the blankets,yet I was standing in the living room and he walked in. It is hard to explain,but I know it was a visit. It only happened once...I KNOW he came to say goodbye.
The closer I get to May the more I panic, the 2nd is Gregs birthday and the 12th is his d day. It seems to be even harder this year, I keep having different dreams about me trying to find him, always makes for a bad day when I awaken from them. Does anyone else experience dreams like this. As I start to prepare for the Easter holiday my focus is on my youngest grandson who is 5, that way I can keep busy on anything but the fact that Greg isn't here yet again. I have gotten to the point where I don't talk about my feelings anymore, I told my sister about my dreams and she says, Still? no one can possibly understand what we all go thru unless they too have gone thru this. well enough of my depressing rampage, its time to prepare dinner for my two grandsons. love to all and Happy Easter
Dear Chuck, I love to read your writings, always puts things into perspective to me
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