Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Mary. Jane on September 12, 2019 at 10:08pm

Hi kids..I want to share this dream I had of Bob Tuesday when I took an early nap. I have been in my new mobile home in S.F. Bay Area..for 10 weeks now, and I really haven,t felt him here..until Tuesday...I was on the bed,my,kitty Rudy had crawled in with me, he ALWAYS sleeps with me..and I fell into a light sleep. Rudy although asleep, was making  constant kitty noises..something he never does..I dreamed Bob-and I were talking together, and I woke up and remembered he was gone. I HATE when that happens..but I .drifted into another VERY light sleep...Rudy was still cuddled with me, whimpering, and I couldn,t sleep deeper, as the closet doors kept REALLY rattling, must have been the wind? .and I had to use the bathroom, os I opened my eyes, but still lied there..with kitty asleep next to me..still making unusual noises...I was annoyed that the doors continued to rattle, when I noticed my Angel solar light was FLICKERING..continuously like Morse code...THE BATTERY HAD DIED THE WEEK BEFORE, AND I HADN,T CHARGED OR REPLACED IT...Ilied there,not moving for about 3 minutes, watching the light flicker, listening to the wind rattle the doors, but I had to use the restroom,so I sat up. 

It was as if I had flicked a switch..everything STOPPED. All was quiet. I lied down again, thinking maybe it was my weight..but nothing. Rudy was QUIETLY sleeping...the lighted Angel was dark..andthe rattling was vibration. 

Now I will tell u about the FORTUNE cookie fortune. A few weeks ago,I noticed there was a fortune lying on my bare dresser. ???? The back has numbers, and the fortune said THREE MONTHS FROM TODAY GOOD THINGS WILL HAPPEN TO YOU.  I had dated it 6/13/19. So I took it, and checked the calendar...and 9/13/19 (TOMORROW) was 3 months..I circled the day, and put the fortune in a safe place. This just happens to be one day B4 my birthday. 

When my daughter came over, The same day I had the dream... I showed her the tiny piece of paper, and we made plans to play LOTTO tomorrow. She left. And I straightened up the table, but didn,t see THE TINY PAPER anywhere! I looked all over for it, but figured it was so small, I had tossed it, and went to bed. The next morning, I felt a bit I hadn,t written the numbers down and since it was Friday the 13th we should just pick some random numbers. I walked into the dining room...and was STUNNED to see the little fortune had been placed NEATLY on the table..not randomly, but carefully. I took a picture of the placement of it, plus the numbers...and that is it.

sooo what do u all think? I think it was Bob who did all those things. The dream incident can be explained...maybe the wind caused the rattling..but I went outside, and there was NO wind right then...but a draft could have caused the light to flicker, and the doors to rattle..maybe Rudy was dreaming...but there is NO WAY that fortune could have accidentally  been placed in such a precise manner, when the table had been clear the night that’s it..thanks for reading my very long post. 

Comment by Steve G. on September 12, 2019 at 12:08pm

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Comment by Diane C on September 12, 2019 at 11:53am
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Comment by Marsha H on September 2, 2019 at 5:46am

To my dear family.  I hope you enjoy this as it's given me so much encouragement.

Hugs to all

Comment by Marsha H on September 2, 2019 at 5:14am

Dear Deborah P ....  You are a sweetheart and thank you so much.  You made me feel better.  I know it never gets easy for any of us.  

A belated Wedding Anniversary for your dear Greg and you.  I do the same thing with the balloons and it gives us some peace.  It almost feels when we let the balloons fly up into the sky Greg and Ernie would be holding their hands out to catch it.  I always believe they are around us when we need them the most.

Comment by Mary. Jane on August 31, 2019 at 9:55am

I hope this day is gentle for you, remembering   all the wonderful times..and the happy memories that you shared with Greg.

Comment by deborah peck on August 31, 2019 at 9:19am

today is my 28th wedding anniversary to my Greg, sending him some balloons for our special day

Comment by deborah peck on August 31, 2019 at 9:18am

Marsha, happy birthday to your Ernie, He is having a celebration with all the angels in Heaven

Comment by Marsha H on August 31, 2019 at 3:35am

Dear Steve ...  I apologize for not answering your post sooner.  You know how it goes; one thing after the other happens and I find it difficult to keep up with it at times.  I'm tough and I'll manage.  LOL

I am so happy you arthritis is getting better in your hand and that you aren't having side effects from the shots.  I hope it continues.  I have a little arthritis, but my theory as far as myself 'if I don't move it, I lose it.'  LOL

Much love back & hugs


Comment by Marsha H on August 31, 2019 at 3:32am

DJ ... What a great memory you have and thanks from the bottom of my heart.  It's been 8 years now since Ernie passed and slightly easier, but do miss cooking his special meal and b/d cake.  Seems for all of us all the old traditions leave a big hole in our lives.

I hope you are doing well my friend.




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