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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Dear Barbara .. I do know how you feel. My small rancher isn't the issue, but the upkeep of the gardens and things that have to repairs and it's a daunting task; yours made worse by being a larger home. Here is my suggestion for what it is worth:
Chris and you had decided to move so you know he'd be happy with whatever you decide. Perhaps one of your daughters could live in the house you're in now and hopefully one of your daughters in the town you were going to move too has the space to put you up for 4 - 6 months and give yourself a chance to figure out if living in a larger city is what you want. Hope this is of some help to you.
Deb ... It is wonderful to see you post again and that you are doing fairly well. I miss you and hope things are improving for you.
Georgia ... I am so sorry you are going through so much heartache and it seems most of us do when special dates comes up. It has been over 3 1/2 years since my beloved husband passed at 65 (I was 4 years older than him) and I still miss him a great deal and find myself still talking to him out loud in the privacy of my home or car. I knew him 45 years and we just missed our 40th anniversary. You are still fresh into your grief and nothing seems real to you and that's very normal. It doesn't matter if you work or how busy any of us keep ourselves busy we still have our private times of remembering those wonderful memories with our loving spouses during the night.
I honestly believe they are right beside us giving us strength to go on. Birth, life and eventually death is so articulately planned that there has to be more after death. I too wait until I can once again join my husband, but, until that time I am trying hard to go on in his memory with all the good things he taught me.
Lean on us hon as we have all been where you are and just put your heartfelt feelings in your posts and we'll be there to wrap our arms around you. You are not alone! We'll help you get through this and you are stronger than you think.
I am trying to decide whether to stay in my home or sell it and move back to the city. Chris has been gone for a year and 3 months -- and I feel that part of my life is over -- yet it will be so hard to leave the home we built together. We have been in this house for 14 years and before he got sick we talked about moving back to the city together to be closer to the things we loved to do. I have two daughters that live here, and two daughters who live in the city, so I am torn about leaving, but miss my girls who live in the city too. The girls tell me, "Mom, we just want you to be happy." But, there is no real happiness without my Chris -- and I rattle around in this big house, in this small town -- and I feel like I am just waiting to die. Yet, I am afraid that if I move I will regret it. I am 66 years old. Is it too late to start over again, alone? In my younger years I would not be so hesitant -- but, now, I just don't know. It's a big life decision and I will not make it lightly. Any advice, or shared experience would be welcome.
Georgia, My heart goes out to you on this first anniversary. It was 6 months ago to the day that I kissed my dear one for the last time. Seems the longer it is the more difficulr it becomes--I miss him so terribly. The spirit of his love will always be with me in my heart and as in life, he is still my guide. I hope you are able to find peace knowing he's with you in your heart, too.
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