Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
Started by Bonny Jones. Last reply by Diamond Jan 31.
Started by Tim's Mom, Vickie. Last reply by Michele Jul 21, 2019.
Started by Sharon Kinsey. Last reply by Frances C Younger Jun 24, 2019.
As I read people's posts I see a lot of comments about wishing to have gone first. I certainly understand those feelings as I had them myself for a while (and considering I was six years older than my Rose statistically I should have. Today something occurred to me> I would not have wanted her to feel the hurt I did after I lost her. None of us would want our loved ones to feel that pain so let us take some comfort in our loved ones being spared the pain we feel.
Kathy, I don't have children but I have my four legged children, my dogs. Both rescues and I foster for a rescue. My dogs are what keep me going. I don't know what I would do without them. They love me unconditionally and bring joy to my life. They have been my heart glue and I know they grieved the loss as well. Hard to put into words but they are what make me want to crawl out of bed every day, go to work, and come home to them. They have no judgements, lick my tears when I'm sad and have had a hard day, and bring me that bit of joy that I need.
Every single day since the passing of my Joseph on August 4, 2014, I pray for my death. The pain is just simply too unbearable and life doesn't have much value for me anymore. But I can't bring myself to take my own life for several reasons. First, I just can't do it--take my own life, 2) it would be a betrayal to my four siblings if I commit suicide; they would be completely crushed and not forgive me for being so selfish, and lastly, if there is an afterlife, which I hope there is, if I commit suicide, I won't be reunited with my darling husband, nor my parents and other family members. That's why I keep on living/existing. But everyday I ask God to take me soon and relieve me from my misery. So I understand where you are coming from. I wish you strength, courage, and forbearance so that you are able to walk through your journey of grief and at some point find peace. I wish the same for myself and all the other bereaved spouses who are facing similar pain and despair. Peace for all of us.
Thank you for your words of encouragement and understanding. It's nice to have someone listen to your problems and receive good suggestions on how to cope.
Hope you are well.
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