Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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My dear Barbara ... I am so sorry to hear the news of your sister and I offer my condolences. There are just no words great enough to offer you comfort other than my prayers and that your sister fought a good battle and is now out of pain and at peace.
I too wish Chris was there to help you in this time of need, but you are one strong lady and I know you are coping as well as possible.
My prayers, thoughts are flying your way and I wish I could give you more than a cyber hug.
Love & Hugs
Dear friends -- my sister passed away on Thursday, January 8. Though they both had cancer, her passing was not at all like my husband's -- she fought on, through many hours, surrounded by family and friends -- while Chris passed swiftly and peacefully with only me beside him.
Death -- death, sickness and suffering have marked these past two years since we received Chris' diagnosis. I am so weary of death and loss and tears.
As the family gathered in my living room, waiting for the funeral director to arrive, I thought how good and strong and helpful Chris would have been during this crisis -- how he always, instinctively, knew just what each person needed -- how he was so quick to see and do and say the right things. I miss him, so.
Thanks to all of you for your thoughts and prayers.
Trina .. All of us find it difficult to come home to an empty house and in raw grief it's very shocking and can be depressing. I use to leave a radio on or the TV so there would be voices in the house and it wasn't so upsetting to come into the house after I'd been out. I still do that off and on. It's very normal because we've had a routine with our spouses where we heard their voices or were there to greet us and they'd missed us. It take time to set up a new routine in life so be kind to yourself and realize you're OK and will be OK.
Kathy ... You are not abnormal at all for wanting your dear Joseph to be there to give you a big, secure hug. It is almost 4 years since my Ernie passed away and he was a big man so when he hugged me I always knew I was safe and felt so secure and I've gotten use to the fact that I'm a pretty fiery woman when someone does me wrong and realize just how much toughness I have in me. I will always miss those big hugs of his and his smiling face. I still have his work jacket and baseball hat hanging on the hook in the hallway as if by some miracle it's all a joke and he'll be coming home, but I know that's not reality, but it gives me comfort.
It is also normal Kathy that we look back and 'what ifs' or 'did I do things right' or 'could I have done more.' Take relief in the fact hon, you did it all right and it was just out of your control. These are all normal feelings when going through grief and most of us had them and can still have them.
Flashbacks are also common when it's a sudden death or even if you are watching your loved one die and as time goes on these will become much less intense.
You are by no means maudlin and it's important members on here who are in raw grief can express their doubts and fears with those of us who have gone through the gamut of raw grief. You will be just fine hon!
It's nice to know that friends on this site are thinking of us and wishing us all well. This forum/site really helps to keep me going; the support and understanding of you all is very important to keep us afloat.
I just arrived back home after being away with my family, and the shock of coming back to the empty house has too much. Everything here reminds me of my darling Joseph, but he is not here to greet me with his big smile and his tight hug. How I miss him!
So thank you to all for you for being here for all of us and for sending us messages of cheer and encouragement. I, too, am sending good thoughts your way.
Janeo ... You are always so sweet thinking of us and I for one thing of you and everyone else too.
I just wanted to say I'm thinking of all of you.
Barbara ... So well put! Sometimes I often wonder why God puts so many pressures on us and it seems never-ending. I went through a phase where I thought the Grim Reaper was parked at my doorstep. Every so often we see a small light of happiness and I know in time that light will get brighter and closer for all of us.
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