Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Kristen on January 10, 2015 at 3:13pm

Kathy, 7 weeks is so new and raw to this nightmare. I am nearing the one year (Feb 28). I can tell you that although the pain will always remain, you will start to have better days. And yes! You do have your own grief that no one else has. Do NOT let anyone take that away from you. I have a best friend, or someone who I thought was my best friend, that has tried to make her grief like mine. It's not possible! Be kind to yourself  and grieve how you need to. This is a fabulous group of people that understand and are here to support you.

Comment by Jan on January 10, 2015 at 2:57pm
Kathy, You are not alone in this journey. My husband died just over a year ago. I still cry everyday but I can tell you it does get better it just will take a long time. I used to have meltdown crying spells everyday and now that doesn't happen as often. Hang in there and know day by day that the healing is taking place.
Comment by Kathy Parker on January 10, 2015 at 1:38pm
I am in such need of care and support! I can't seem to get it any where else. My husband has been gone from an unexpected death 7 wks. now. Our 41st anniversary fell amidst the holidays. The general consensus is "I have my own grief, don't weigh me down with yours." Please, can I have a few words of hope and comfort? I am overwhelmed with grief.
Comment by janeo on January 10, 2015 at 8:34am
Barbara, so sorry for the loss of your sister. My condolences and prayers.
Comment by Kristen on January 10, 2015 at 7:35am

Barbara, so very sorry to hear of the loss of your sister. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Comment by Kathy Parker on January 10, 2015 at 7:24am
Oh, Barbara, I am so sorry for the recent loss of your sister, not to mention the loss of your husband, and your brother as well? Please share with us how you are surviving such great loss. I sincerely need to know the steps for survival. I send you my heartfelt condolences. XOXo Hugs and Kisses, Kathy
Comment by Jane P. on January 10, 2015 at 6:58am

Barbara, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your sister.  I wish I could say something comforting to make you feel better and just be able to take your pain away.  My prayers are with you and your family.  BIG HUGS, JANE P.

Comment by Marsha H on January 10, 2015 at 6:25am

My dear Barbara ...  I am so sorry to hear the news of your sister and I offer my condolences.  There are just no words great enough to offer you comfort other than my prayers and that your sister fought a good battle and is now out of pain and at peace.

I too wish Chris was there to help you in this time of need, but you are one strong lady and I know you are coping as well as possible.

My prayers, thoughts are flying your way and I wish I could give you more than a cyber hug.

Love & Hugs


Comment by Barbara Sullivan on January 10, 2015 at 5:58am

Dear friends -- my sister passed away on Thursday, January 8.  Though they both had cancer, her passing was not at all like my husband's -- she fought on, through many hours, surrounded by family and friends -- while Chris passed swiftly and peacefully with only me beside him.  

Death -- death, sickness and suffering have marked these past two years since we received Chris' diagnosis. I am so weary of death and loss and tears.  

As the family gathered in my living room, waiting for the funeral director to arrive, I thought how good and strong and helpful Chris would have been during this crisis -- how he always, instinctively, knew just what each person needed -- how he was so quick to see and do and say the right things.  I miss him, so.

Thanks to all of you for your thoughts and prayers.


Comment by Marsha H on January 10, 2015 at 4:28am

Trina ..  All of us find it difficult to come home to an empty house and in raw grief it's very shocking and can be depressing.  I use to leave a radio on or the TV so there would be voices in the house and it wasn't so upsetting to come into the house after I'd been out.  I still do that off and on.  It's very normal because we've had a routine with our spouses where we heard their voices or were there to greet us and they'd missed us.  It take time to set up a new routine in life so be kind to yourself and realize you're OK and will be OK.




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