Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Renae McKee on November 21, 2014 at 10:29am

7 weeks ago today MY LOVE went to Heaven. 16 yrs ago today I married MY LOVE. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MY LOVE! Today is hard, tears are flowing, I can't imagine the rest of my life without him, these past 7 weeks have been so hard, & to think of the Holidays makes it worse. 

Comment by Chicago Beard on November 20, 2014 at 2:50pm

So sorry to hear of your speech issues Wilela. I can only imagine how frustrating that must be. It is like you had a stroke, as this is an issue stroke sufferers often go through. My Rose had that problem after her stroke. I hope that your medical team can refer you to someone who can help you with this.

Comment by Marsha H on November 20, 2014 at 3:35am

Renae ..  Your post brought tears to my eyes.  I am so sorry you ended up in hospital (not uncommon for some grievers) and we get all sorts of maladies and some of it is due from stress.  It is so sweet of your grandson and I agree that he feels you may not be there for him because of the loss of his grandpa.  What a little sweetheart and a good reason to keep on living.  There is nothing greater than the love of a child.


Comment by nate eustis on November 19, 2014 at 6:46pm
Renae, seven weeks, so short & so long. My sincere condolence. At some point the sharp edges of grief, dispare, intense sadness will dull. I compliment you for coming here. When I was where you are this group was my salvation. I was fortunate to join bereavement groups and now two years later, I still attend groups. It is my safe haven, where I can speak openly of My Maria & listen to others who are on my path. We can cry together & celebrate the lives we had before our world ended. Now we function & as one in a group said, we occupy time & lives but passion tests with the Loves of our Life. Please be tender with yourself
Comment by Renae McKee on November 19, 2014 at 6:15pm

Nate, Your Poem is so beautiful and expressed so much love!! As you have me crying may I say I am so sorry for your loss as well as my own. Almost 7 weeks ago I lost my husband and he too was the love of my life!! Spoke with the Social Security office today about the one time lump sum benefit WOW $255.00, anyways he said something about if I get remarried & I said oh NO I WILL NOT EVER REMARRY! Someone also got me a T-shirt that says " I AM NOT A WIDOW, MY HUSBAND IS WAITING FOR ME ON THE OTHERSIDE". GOD BLESS YOU

Comment by nate eustis on November 19, 2014 at 6:01pm

Hello everyone, it's been two years for me and it still is unbelievable. This is for the Love of my Life:

Two years have passed

731 days and nights,
Unbelievable and you
It still is Not Right
Life continues
A slow and fast pace,
As these two years show
Only through our Lord's Grace.
Many followed you
Many remain like me,
Just biding our time
For our Love again to see.
Twenty-four months or 104 weeks
No matter how it's said,
A long time it is
With more future time to dread.
Living without you
Is difficult to face,
Even without tears
I feel out of place.
But in my mind
Memories bring a smile,
For our life together
Was worth every mile.
Your pictures bring me solace
Our Love is our bond,
That melds us together
Me here and you beyond.
Days are added
To this unwelcome count,
With a mountain of pain
I must surmount.
Life feels different
Hard to explain,
Joy, happiness and love
Washed away by the pain.
My heart I gave
With You it went,
Although still beating
All passion is spent.
As Paul sang
"Let it be, Let it be"
"There will be an answer"
I pray for me, I pray for me.
I believe, I do believe
Our bond will never sever,
I believe, I believe, I believe
Our Love will last forever!
Comment by Marsha H on November 19, 2014 at 2:59pm

Michelle ... We do understand and there are others on here that often find they have no words of comfort to give, but, please feel free to express your thoughts about what you are going through so we can band together to help you get through the worst of it.

Marsha H

Comment by Michelle on November 19, 2014 at 1:39pm

I have been reading your posts to this page over the last few weeks, everyone. I am sorry for not replying. That is a fault of mine, I struggle to find words of comfort :( my thoughts and prayers are with all of you though. I am so so sorry for your losses.

Comment by Carol Kayser on November 19, 2014 at 1:03pm

Dear Renae, we often talk on the site about how our little ones are such a blessing, so loving, innocent and gifted at knowing what to say, especially those words of true love.  Your story touched me very much as I can just see your grandson throwing his arms around you, he loves you very much!  

7 weeks is no time at all Renae and the grief will be very raw but it will get easier, and your family and little grandson, they will have a big role to play in that.

Thinking of you and take care now that you are home.



Comment by Barbara Sullivan on November 19, 2014 at 6:55am

Dear Renae -- What a precious treasure you have in that little grandson -- let his love help you heal.  Yes, 7 weeks is still so raw, but, of course, our grief cannot be measured in days and weeks.  As we all know, time does not heal our broken hearts -- but, I have found that children have magic powers to make us smile and laugh, even in some of the worst moments of our grief.  Truly, little blessings from God. 

You are in my prayers, Renae.




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