Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.


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Comment by Mary. Jane on June 1, 2019 at 8:47pm

Debbie R. I am so sorry. I cannot imagine how horrible that was and will always be, instantly loosing Tommy like that. God bless you, and give you better days...a year is a very short time, and I wish I had words that could give some comfort to you, but I don,t think there are any. 

Comment by Debbie R on June 1, 2019 at 4:37pm

Just wanted you all to know that I found a wonderful book yesterday called Living When a Loved One Dies by Earl Grollman.  I can't begin to tell you how much his words have helped me in the last 2 days.  Truly  inspirational and no=nonsense approach to help us handle our losses.  May not be for everyone but certainly spoke to me at the one-year mark.


Comment by Debbie R on June 1, 2019 at 4:29pm

a year ago tonight, at this very moment, I called my  tommy.  he didn't answer. 

I found him, gone forever.

that said, to all of you suffering through floods, tornadoes and devastation in your hometowns, know that while I grieve the loss of my best friend I keep you all in my prayers as you deal with the aftermath of nature's devastation.  I can't even imagine what you've all been through and Deb P, I pray you're in CA safe and sound.

Hugs to all, no matter what you're dealing with. 

Love, deb  xoxo

Comment by Frances C Younger on June 1, 2019 at 12:07pm

Chicago B - Enjoy the wonderful memories on your 39th.  I am going to read some of your post.  I did look at the picture.  Are you a musician

Comment by Chicago Beard on June 1, 2019 at 9:49am

Hi everyone. I know I rarely comment anymore but this group continues to be very important to me as it was the main thing that helped me deal with my grief. Today would have been our 39th wedding anniversary and I miss her dearly. The other day I saw a program where one of the characters had a chemotherapy treatment which reminded me of what my Rose went through. Of course I started crying. Ever since she died anything emotional I see will bring tears to my eyes. I read all your posts even if I do not comment.

Comment by Sara Murphy on May 31, 2019 at 11:26am
Mary Jane.....Yes, I receive signs from Ken. Sometimes it's a coin in a place where it shouldn't be like underneath my face powder which is in a drawer where there is no change. Other times it's a phone call I receive from someone after I complain to Ken about how disappointed I am in all the people who seemed to forget I exist after he passed away. I know he hears me and makes sure someone reaches out. There are so many more that I won't bore you with but it's what keeps me going. If I didn't know he was with me and watching over me, I don't think I could do this.
Comment by Marsha H on May 31, 2019 at 5:22am

Frances C ...  Welcome to Legacy and you've come to a wonderful place with people who are going through or have been through what you are going through.  We are all loving and caring; no judgments are ever made regarding posts and if it makes you feel better just read the posts and get the hang of it and when you're comfortable just say what is in your heart and how you are feeling.  We're all  here to support you.  Eventually one day you will feel like you can post so don't feel rushed.

I have made some wonderful friends here and although I live in Canada and most are in the U.S. I feel at times that I have known them forever and when one is down the others group together to pick them up and give them strength.

A big hug because you need it.


Comment by Mary. Jane on May 30, 2019 at 11:14pm

Hello Francis..welcome, and .don,t worry about don,t have to unless you want to...and my posts are kind of off beat at times as I just post what I am feeling at the moment. When I first came here, It took me a long time to post, I just read pages of posts...and it was sooo comforting to know I wasn,t alone in my grief. We are an eclectic group, but we are here for each other...I never Imagined I would find a place like this with so much caring and support.

Comment by Frances C Younger on May 30, 2019 at 10:26pm

Still not sure how to comment on many of the posts.  It is a rainy, uncomfortable night.  Reading your comments helps me.  

Comment by Mary. Jane on May 30, 2019 at 7:19pm

Ok this is a weird question..but do any of you get “signs” from your departed loved one? First off, I talk to Bob all day..but I have mentioned that..and Rudy my kitty often stares intently at something I cannot see..when I interrupt him, he will glance at me for a second, then go back to staring into the same space. I know it is “Daddy”. 

But a strange thing happened yesterday. I have several kitchen junk drawers; in one of them I keep my jewelry tools..little pliers, etc for making and repairing jewelry..and for about 6 months, I couldn’t find my favorite needle nose pliers, which I have had for at least 20 years. I even took everything out of the drawers,looking for OTHER tools were there, but not that pair. Yesterday, when I opened that drawer...THE PLIERS WERE THERE!  RIGHT ON TOP OF EVERYTHING ELSE!!! They were NOT there for MONTHS, and now they were..and I had searched the entire house for them.  And, WEIRDLY, I ordered another pair on Amazon..but when they arrived, they were not the right size..they were a lot bigger...I was going to return them, but they were PERFECT for a ton of little things...not jewelry, but removing nails, etc...very useful, and i love them! So..I know Bob had something to do with all of that. Yes, there have been other signs...some big, some small...and last night, my daughter had a HUGE sign! I will tell y’all the very weird details in another post. 


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