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Comment by Sara Murphy on June 14, 2019 at 11:32am

Frances, I'm not so sure he's telling you it's time to move on. It could also be that it's now or would soon be unhealthy to have such tight rings on your finger which could affect circulation. As part of his watching over you, he found a way to get the rings off before they needed to be cut off. You could put them on a chain to wear around your neck.

Comment by Lisa Hamilton on June 14, 2019 at 7:56am

So...here’s what I wrote 6-11-19
I came across the idea of multiverse recently, and it relieved me. I didn’t know there was a term for living in more than one place at once, but I know the feeling of existing in more than one place.
This afternoon, I sit with my ailing husband, wondering if he is turning the corner yet again, or if his collection of illnesses and disabilities is finally out of hiding places.
I live again in the moment of my first husband’s funeral, 28 years ago today. I held our child tightly, whispering that DaDa loved bagpipes as I carry him down the aisle of the church to the tune of Amazing Grace.  I am living too, in the moment at the grave when his pudgy hand gave me a speckled birdie feather.
In all the time since Amazing Grace was piped again at his funeral, in every feather I’ve found in those nearly three years of just yesterday, of forever ago, of now.
I live in a multiverse as I live in my blood. My blood flows in my veins, yet it is not the blood gathering outside a cut also my blood? My son was my son when my blood flowed through both of us as much as when he lived in his own apartment as much as the day I placed his ashes in the ground, my tears staining the ground.
I am bound by time and space, and yet grief makes me aware that I live in a multiverse. Is it too much to hope, too illogical to believe that my husband and our son also live in a multiverse? A myultiverse more boundless than my own?

Comment by Marsha H on June 14, 2019 at 6:22am

Dear Frances ...  There is no doubt most of us on here have had signs from our departed spouse.  I have and believe it's true.  My husband passed away in 2011 and I still get signs from him.  That being said and to be honest I simply think when you flung your hand (your husband's wedding band was big on you) the ring just went flying.  As far as your engagement ring and wedding band flying off your finger and it was snug on your finger then yes, I believe your husband was telling you it was OK to get on with your life.  He would want you to be happy.  

I believe you will get many signs from your husband as the months go by and possibly years.  When we are in raw grief sometimes those signs go unnoticed or, grief counseling try to us that we just can't accept the death and think they are signs, but how would they know as no one knows what happens after death.  To many of us on here have had signs and myself, I believe my dear husband comes to peek in on me just to see how I'm doing.

Happy to see you posting Francis and even though it may seem slow on here at the present time someone generally comes on.

Keep believing!

Marsha

Comment by Frances C Younger on June 13, 2019 at 3:41pm

Two days ago, I was talking to my 18 year old grandson and fiddling with my husband's wedding band on my finger.  When I motioned with my hand -- to emphasize a point, my husband's gold band flew across the room.  It was large on my finger.  What I did not expect was for my engagement ring and wedding band to slide off my finger.  For 2 years, it they have been stuck!  I was afraid they might have to be cut off.  The mark where the rings were is strange to look at - empty.  Is he trying to tell me that it is time to move on?

Comment by Sara Murphy on June 5, 2019 at 11:18am

Chicago.....It's good to hear from you. I hope you were able to recall all the happy memories of your time with Rose and smile through the tears. I know it's easier said than done but it's what I myself am trying to do. Please do check in with us every now and then to let us know how you're doing

Comment by Marsha H on June 5, 2019 at 5:40am

I agree with Mary.Jane.  It's called Mental Telepathy and no voice, but our brain hears the message loud and clear.  I have experienced it also.  It is comforting to know they are really there when you need them.

Comment by Mary. Jane on June 3, 2019 at 7:25am

Ok, I just had to answer this, although I am supposed to be getting ready for the home inspectors ..it’s  about our loved ones communicating. They DO answer us...it’s just not in their voices...it’s the single thought that pops into our head as we r talking to them, or thinking about them, or even better, about to make a decision...where a bit of advice will pop into your head...It sounds like YOU are replying to your self..but it is THEM, with either an answer to the question we just asked...or the advice on should we do something..I am not making sense..but I think you will “get it” .

I find it very comforting and nice they are still around watching over us. 

Comment by Marsha H on June 3, 2019 at 5:09am

Trina ...  I always look forward to seeing you post!  Miss you!

You are also right about cancer and more and more people who have the type of cancer which has little cure are opting out on Chemo or Radiation.  It is a nasty disease and takes so many lives.  

Smart that you left a living Will.  You bet cancer is a million dollar business and if you mention anything to your doctor or get angry about it they either stay quiet or like what Mary.Jane said they can get uppity, but they know more than they are saying.  I know, my family doctor that retired we had many conversations about this very thing.

I too talk to Ernie every day and sometimes I can feel him around me.  I think we'd be in shock if they actually answered us!

I hope you are doing much better my dear friend.

Hugs

Marsha 

Comment by Trina Mamoon on June 3, 2019 at 12:40am

Mary Jane and Marsha,

What you say about cancer is so true. When I was growing up, cancer was very rare, but these days it is rampant. People get it all the time and especially younger people as well. Joseph died of lung cancer, so he and I were like you two with your spouses who had to endure the horror that cancer wreaks. I am very sorry that we had to face the terrifying feeling, the disbelief and the feeing utter of helplessness and despair cancer brings.

I, too, left it in my Living Will, that if I were diagnosed with cancer, no chemo, no radiation, just relief from pain. Cancer is a billion dollar business, and I don't want to give more business to the cancer industry.  

And Mary Jane, thanks for sharing here that you talk to your husband all the time. Now I know that I am not crazy, and that  I am not the only one who has daily conversations with my deceased husband. For me, I talk to Joseph all the time just like I did when he was alive. Only difference, I answer back to myself for him! LOL!

Be well, all of you here, our family in grief. Only we know what it takes to go on living and survive day after day after the love of our life is gone. So much pain, so much wearing a mask of normalcy, so much of always trying to seem "normal" to the world. It's all so exhausting... 

Comment by Trina Mamoon on June 3, 2019 at 12:25am

Chicago B, I wanted to chime in and say I fully empathize with you as you silently marked your 39th anniversary. The birthdays and the anniversaries are the hardest to face and endure. For many of us on this site everyday is a struggle (it is still for me almost five years after my beloved's death) but the anniversaries and the birthdays are the marker days that cause us the most pain. Thinking of you on your tough day and sending healing vibes to you.

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