Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Ok, to Deb.You are most welcome. I am imagining a woodsy area. .What time zone are you in? That will help me with visualizing . Also, I know Greg will be with you. I hope that comment doesn’t hurt you, but I think BOb is always with me. I like to imagine that BOb has met all of the people who are up in heaven with him...and they read what we write here. Yeah, I know I sounds nuts, but why not? Who is to say it ISN’T like that?
I never thought of that until my friend who’s young daughter died, told me her daughter was probably there to greet BOb when he got to heaven, and she felt he would be watching over her..or vise versa.
Have a wonderful time, and keep your heart open to anything, no matter how irrational it might seem.
Mary Jane thank you so much, we leave in the morning and I will truly remember you guys while I am there and will check in when I'm back, love to you all
I just wanted to get on here and express my gratitude to you all. I honestly believe I have found a safe and loving site to help me deal with the loss of Basil. You guys are so loving and compassionate toward me and you listen. I have a few people that don't want to listen and that hurts me because that is the only way I can deal with situations to talk about them. You allow me to express anything I want that is hurting me at the moment and you know where I am because you have been there. Marsha, Charles, and Mary Jane you all are my heroes right now. You have taken the time to listen to me ramble on about my hurt and you don't realize how much I appreciate that gesture. If I forget to mention someone I am very sorry, it's just seems like you 3 are always there for me and I thank you.
Today is a little better then it has been, just a little, but I will take that little. You all feel like family to me. I'm going to get off here before I start crying. Thank you for listening to me again guys, much love Patty
My Dear Chuck ... I also remember when you first joined Legacy and I knew how you must have felt posting, but also knew the members and myself would envelope you with love and understanding. Never forget what the Bible says, 'WE ARE ALL GOD'S CHILDREN!' ALL!!!! I am proud to know you and now Steve and love the stories you tell us and as you know I keep harping at you to write a book! So my dear friend 'dance' it's the language of the world!
Much love & big hugs brother
Ok kids..question time. While I was changing the sheets tonite, I wondered if I slept on Bobs pillow would I dream about him? Yeah, sounds crazy...so,has anyone here ever slept on their partners pillow since they’ve been gone? I have never even slept on his side of the bed,even tho I got a new mattress.
His pillow still has a trace of his scent...I think I will try it tonite. MYbe I will have a wonderful dream of him.
Oh, thank you so much, Diane...your words actually made me cry. But it’s true...we are here for each other like nothing I could ever have imagined. Something brought all of us together...and I cherish every one here.
Oh Mary Jane....
That was the most beautiful thing you said to Debbie!! You brought tears to my eyes, thinking how we all help to hold each other up when we need it most. Absolutely beautiful words for all of us to read and adhere to. God Bless You!!
Dear Deb...we all will be with you in spirit for these hard days...we will be thinking only wonderful things as you pass this milestone..you might actually feel me, Chuck, Marsha, Sara, Steve, Beard...and everyone else, as we protect u from pain, wipe tears from your cheeks, and tuck you in at night. If you go for a walk with your sister..and you hear faint footsteps...it will be us..protecting you from heartbreak, and letting in only laughter and good memories. You will get through this...I think sometimes the FEAR of something turns out to b much worse than the experience. God bless you.
Hi everyone, I have been reading everyones post but haven't responded, I am in a bad place right now but you all have been on my mined and I will try to be more helpful next week after the year passes, but love to you all Debbie
Dear Mary Jane,
How are you? I am so sorry to read of the young girl in your family who you all lost. Some of the saddest and most crushing losses are of young people - just the thought of all they had before them brings tears.
Close friends of Larry and myself lost a 21 year old son in a tragic motorcycle accident. Seeing them completely ripped apart by this first hand was difficult to say the least. We spent the Memorial Day weekend shuttling back and forth to their house with whatever we could imagine they might need as droves of family, friends, and neighbors descended upon their home. the last thing they needed was more food - everyone showed up with platters and casseroles - but one helpful neighbor mentioned that they didn't have paper plates, napkins, or plastic utensils anywhere, so people are using china that requires washing constantly. I dashed home and found the huge supply of such disposable dinnerware left over from many gatherings - nothing matched, but it was there, free, and plentiful. Before running out of the house I grabbed two rolls of paper towels and a big package of toilet paper, dropping it on top of the bag.
When I walked into their house, several helpers were in the kitchen saying thank goodness, they were out of plates, then stopped in mid sentence as they saw the big package of toilet paper sticking out of the bag. One finally broke the silence by saying "Chuck, when we asked for paper products, we didn't mean THAT kind!" then everyone burst out laughing so loud that the boy's mother poked her head into the room, saw the bag, looked at me and said - "That's what you bring? Toilet paper? only you would bring toilet paper at a time like this!" then hugged me and walked out. I will never forget that weekend for the rest of my life. The funeral home and church couldn't have the service until after the 3 day holiday weekend, so everybody was in limbo.
Reading about the small snakes in your garage gave me the willies - I haven't seen any around the new place here in TX (yet),but am warned to expect that one may appear in the yard at some point. Yay.
Anyway, I hope you have a good day today, and that your EBS doesn't flare up on you. I also now watch the weather in your area saying prayers that you stay safe.
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