Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
Latest Conversations: Oct 16
This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Dear Trina, your post IS here...thank you so much. I DO feel as you did..that Bobs death was easier than this next step. I have already donated his clothes, and I think this entire thing would be easier if I wasn,t forced to list my house before Lenders will agree to lend me money for a new place..and they aren’t really motivated to lend money on a mobile home...they think I cannot afford both the mortgage plush the space rent...but that isn,t true. I have my savings, but do not want to use them to pay cash for a home.Factor in the COST of homes in the SF Bay Area...a mobile home is all I can afford...plus Bob wa an artist, and I have close to 100 FRAMED pieces of artwork, and a GIANT box of UNFRAMED art...that has to be removed from my walls b4 I can sell this HUGE house...sell or give away a lot of bulky furniture...I have already donated at least 100 boxes of stuff to charities, and everything is just overwhelming. Plus my daughter has been very patient, but this patience is wearing very thin.
I have heard the the universe/God never gives you more than you can handle..and this entire thing would be easier if I was younger and stronger..I was SSSOO STRONG when Bob was sick, and he died..but I think I used up all my strength for those 4 months. I also lost 20 pounds, and shrunk 3 inches in height.
I feel diminished,overwhelmed and this is going to take a lot longer than my daughter hopes. And, I am not getting any younger..LOL.
so, thanks for letting me vent, and thankyou for sharing your experience and painful memories...I hope your life is much easier now.
Ok, this is for those of you who have lost yr partner for over 3 years or more, and uprooted your life to a new location. Is this normal, or am I going nuts? I returned from CA a week ago..after looking at senior parks and mobile homes. Now, instead of sorting, discarding, packing, I haveen,t been able to barely FUNCTION.
I sit here all day, online, or watching mindless TV..procrastinating not doing ANYTHING. I have done useless stuff,shopping on Amazon, or trying to pick an outfit for next Monday’s Bunko party..sent a few Christmas cards...I can,t even watch a movie I have wanted to see on Netflix! And the time just keeps passing, but really slowly. My house is in total chaos, and somehow I have to get it ready to SELL hahahahaha..and yet I don,t do anything. It has been like this all week.
My brain has lost all function...this morning I slept until 10:45!!!
But the real shock was when I saw a spider on the kitchen floor, and DIDN,t even freak out! I calmly picked up the phone book and dropped it on the spider, waited a few mins, then picked it up with a tissue and disposed of it. (The spider, not the book)
i am DEATHLY afraid of spiders..and usually I would still be terrified and really unrealistically stressed, worried his friends were going to crawl in..(no joke) but today, and the last 3 times I have seen a spider, there has been a weird DETATCHMENT like I am a robot.
I am thinking, when Bob died...he was gone, but I was still here..nothing else changed...my WORLD changed but my surroundings remained the same. And underneath it all, I am TERRIFIED of this invasion INTO my world, and having to leave my home. Am I loosing it? Did anyone else experience this?
Yes, that is my daughter singing.
Mary Jane I love Melinda's music! Thanks for posting that link.Marsha, glad you are okay; I'm a creature of habit, so when your pattern changed...Sheri: yay! Will you be updating your blog stronglikebull.love?Steve: it’s gratifying to hear good things happening to good people!Debora, Chicago, Sara, Trina, Georgia, Charles, Pete, … and all you other regulars past & present / frequent or sporadic – thanks for sharing, thanks for caring.Great to see good news this past little while, to see there is light at the end of the tunnel – especially for those who will be, sadly, joining our ranks.
Sheri ... I am so happy you have found someone to be in your life and you deserve it. It's been 7 years for me and I have found no one ... spinach in my teeth? LOL
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