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Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

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Comment by Mary Nola on September 4, 2018 at 5:12am

hello all hope everyone I s ok this is a hard time for me my Joe was a school bus driv.er for 30 years today he would be so excited to go back to work after summer.   School buses now make me cry hope your up there in Heaven in a bus with Angels my Love Miss you baby

Comment by Sara Murphy on September 3, 2018 at 9:30pm

Welcome to our group Susan.  I'm sorry for your loss that brought you to us.  How special that you were able to reunite with your high school sweetheart.  He truly is your soul mate. 

I lost my husband Ken 2 1/2 yrs ago.  He was 52 and we were together almost 30 years, married for 26 1/2 of them.  Ken was also sick (not cancer) but we still didn't expect him to die when he did so we never said a true good-bye.  This is something I will never get over so I do understand how you feel about it. 

I hope you'll find the support here that you'll need to navigate this deep grief.  None of my family/friends understand the loss of a spouse so when I found Legacy, it was a Godsend. 

Hugs to you,

Sara

Comment by Jeanette McSherry on September 2, 2018 at 11:20pm

Jeanette McSherry everyone here understands loss and sorrow. Church was precious. Our pastor is a wonderful teacher and the sermon clarified certain aspects of my current feelings for me. I was facing what I spiritually see as a wall of serpents. I know I have to identify it as the lies of the enemy or lies within myself in order to break through. After he spoke there was no doubt in my mind. Even those of us with so much faith for others, tend to feel we are not worthy of healing or happiness. That we didn't do enough or love enough. That we could have somehow changed God's timing. His words made me see that He has everything in control He knows things we could never know. But as the song goes, "I am chosen not forgotten. I am what He says I am" And that is His beloved. Even with all of this revelation I slipped into a horrible depression. I was paralyzed. Barely managed to use the phone and ask for prayer. But God responded and the darkness lifted.

Comment by Susan on September 2, 2018 at 6:45am
  1. Thank you for the welcome Mary Jane and Jeannette. I hope I am posting in the right place. It is comforting to find others in the same situation ( although I wish none of us were in this situation). I was with my husband for 7 years, married for 5 years when he died at age 60.  He was my high school sweetheart and we reunited after 35 years! I had been separated from my 1st husband and he had just left his wife when we connected again. He was my one true soul mate. He loved my 4 children like his own and my whole family loved him. We found out on Nov 4th 2017 that he had muscle invasive bladder cancer. Several rounds of chemo didn't help. He had his bladder removed in Feb 2018, only to discover 3 weeks later that the cancer had metastasized. He then was given a different chemo with only a 10% success rate. He was expected to live several more months but developed a fatal lung injury from that chemo. He went into the hospital April 26th with what we were told was pneumonia. He became unresponsive on May 3rd at which time we were told of the lung injury.  He died May 4th. I never got to really say goodbye. I tried but I don't know if he heard me. Previously he never wanted to talk about dying as he wasn't yet ready to do that. He thought he had plenty of time to talk about it in the next few months. I am still crushed. Some days I can't do a single thing. Last weekend I literally cried all weekend. My heart goes out to everyone here.
Comment by Mary. Jane on September 1, 2018 at 1:49pm

Hey guys...there is a new member, Susan..who posted this morning,  but I have no idea where..so I sent her a reply directing her here. Hopefully she will find this page...and not let the initial difficulties of posting here discourage her.   I know it took me all day to get it right when I first came here, so I hope she finds us.

Comment by Marsha H on September 1, 2018 at 5:38am

Deborah ...  What a wonderful thing to do with the balloons and I'm sure Greg was right there with you.  I get helium balloons and write love notes on it and take it Ernie's favorite river and let it fly to the heavens hoping he'll catch it.  I too have tears to this day when special occasions arise, but the tears are over much quicker and then it's on with life.

Comment by Marsha H on September 1, 2018 at 5:36am

Oh Mary ...  You're a pip!  Of course you NEVER offend any of us.  That's why we're hear to say what we feel and when frustrated or angry it's good to get it out of your system and I commend you for that.  I have to I laugh at some of your post; NOT LAUGHING AT YOU, but just the way you express yourself.  It's like reading a over the top novel never knowing what is coming next.  LOL

Love you for YOU

Marsha

Comment by Mary. Jane on August 31, 2018 at 8:52pm

Thanks, guys!

Comment by deborah peck on August 31, 2018 at 7:00pm

I went and got Greg balloons for his pond for our anniversary this morning, have been fighting tears all day but the day is almost over and with all the special days I will make it thru it as we all do

Comment by deborah peck on August 31, 2018 at 6:57pm

Mary Jane I agree with Steve, no one should have to be afraid of offending anyone on here, I feel like its a safe zone for us all to vent as long as its not racial Im good

 

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