Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Mary. Jane on December 10, 2018 at 9:42am

Thank you Deb. Sorry I took so long to reply. I returned from CA large Wed. night., it was harrowing, but now the very hard part comes. I have to pack up my belongings, and list my house for sale.while I am still LIVING here! I don,t want people trapesing thru my rooms...but I cannot get a loan without selling this house.

i DID find some wonderful mobile homes..two of which I would have moved to right then.if I had been ready...but I actually went to see which PARKS gave me a good feeling...and I was right...there IS a noticeable “feel” of each park...14 years ago, it was so much we were having a BIDDING war on our home we were selling, so we just packed up and moved knowing we were going to get a huge amount of we just let the realtor take care of everything, and it worked out fine. Now that I am alone lending companies are afraid they won,t get their monthly payment...but my credit and Payment history is superior...ok I am ranting..sorry...on a good note, my PAIN level is a lot better in California...than in Oklahoma...must be the weather.

instead of getting off my tush, and packing, I just SIT here overwhelmed and do NOTHING.

Comment by deborah peck on December 3, 2018 at 11:53am

Steve congrats on the end of your treatments, now just concentrate on getting your strength back and to feeling good again, am praying this is the end of it for you, Debbie

Comment by deborah peck on December 3, 2018 at 11:51am

Mary Jane, I am so sorry about all the chaos in your family right now. I know this will be so hard for you and your daughter and am sending many prayers your way

Comment by deborah peck on December 3, 2018 at 11:50am

That's great Sheri, we all deserve to have happiness again and I wish you much love

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 2, 2018 at 8:33pm

I think that is awesome, Sheri. 

Comment by Sara Murphy on December 2, 2018 at 4:15pm

Sheri....That's great.  I wish you much happiness!

Comment by Chicago Beard on December 2, 2018 at 2:18pm


Very happy for you! Enjoy!

Comment by Sheri Dettman on December 1, 2018 at 11:15am

Hello all, I haven't been posting much because, a miracle! I started dating someone 2 months ago and it's very serious. It has been almost 2 1/2 years since I lost Bill, so I'm due. My new guy had just received the all clear on his PSA after going through prostate cancer surgery in late August. So he's due too. At any rate, I had made peace with the fact that if I never met anyone that I wanted to share my life with, at least I had the great love of my late husband for 11 years. And now I have a new chance and it's pretty darn awesome. So don't give up if you are seeking the same! It can happen.

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 1, 2018 at 10:36am

Thank you so much. I told my daughter about your warm post, and she said thank you.This is weird, only going for a few days...I have to pack completely differently...and stick my cos,ethics in a smaller bag, etc. Rudy the wonder kitty keeps trying to get into the suitcase. I wish I could take him! Lol. My daughter is doing a bit better today, but still stunned. They will have to do an autopsy, so I won,t be there for the funeral...he was really depressed and lonely (not everyone knew that, but Melinda was his confidant...and She briefly wondered if he took his own life) I have tried to assure her, that he is out of pain now..and probably happy..... But the front door was unlocked, and he was lying about 12 feet from the door...he was sooo young! Ok, my ride arrives in 2 hours, and looking this gorgeous takes awhile, so I should go. LOL 

Laughter is the best gift God gives us..even when things seem impossible, and horrible, finding humor in your day makes the bad stuff better. Thank you, Steve..I am so happy your treatments are over and u can live to be 106! Yay! Hello to Chuck and Bella..bye.

Comment by Steve G. on December 1, 2018 at 8:59am

Don't be afraid Mary Jane, Bob will be with you.

Mark has been with me each day of my treatments, which by the way my last one is Monday.  Even in a big city like Dallas just driving there was a 45 min drive each way.   Some weeks the rain was coming down fast and winds were gusty.  But, we made it ( Chuck and I), we also met a lot of nice people each of them with their own illness.

I will actually miss seeing them all, each day humbled me and each day everyone would smile and just nod or say hello.

Go be with your daughter, focus on her, everything else will fall into place.


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