Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Virginia on June 7, 2010 at 8:09am
Hi Randolph,I just went to your page and my message is there lol must have gotten lost in the syber mail. Virginia
Comment by Connie on June 6, 2010 at 9:51pm
I don't know if anyone knows, or would even be interested, that for a small fee, you can have a flag flown over the U.S. Capitol building in Washington D.C. in honor of your spouse. I am having a flag flown for my husband for his birthday and the anniversary of his death. I am also doing this for a very close friend who passed 11 years ago. In order to do this, you need to go on the website of your U.S. Senator and there is a link to click on. After the flag has been flown, it is packed and sent to you, or who ever you designate, with a certificate of authenticity. I don't know whether or not anyone would be interested but I have sent for masses for my husband and wanted to do something else to honor him and found about this and decided it might be a good thing to do.
Comment by lindarunion on June 6, 2010 at 2:43pm
its been amomth since i lost my red i've been cring for the last 3days how does anyone elese cope with this
Comment by Tracy van der Schyff on June 6, 2010 at 12:31pm
In my dreams I revisit
All the bonds that we once knew
I wake with empty feelings
A void that’s left from missing you
There is no end to what I’d give
...If I could hear you say my name,
and ask me as you would
Just how was my day
Was I hungry , Was I cold
Was there needs that you could meet ,
And if there was through all your pain
A smile replaced your grief
To feel your touch or warm embrace
“I love you” whispered in my ear
No sweeter words could there be spoken
Than these words I hold dear
I see you in the evening shadows
Feel you gently in the wind
Smell you in the flowers fragrance
Your life for me will never end
I hear your laughter and singing softly
Relive the memories from your past
To me you were the dearest love
Your leaving’s more than I can grasp
Yet no bitter feeling linger
Only wishes which can’t come true
I play back all that I can remember
From the love of my youth.
- William Mae
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 5, 2010 at 1:30pm
Virgina, I got an e-mail saying that you commented on a message that I had sent but I cant find your message that you had sent. Can you resend it ? Thanks.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 5, 2010 at 1:19pm
Connie, thank you for the hug. I am sorry for your pain and everyone else's pain. At least we can relate here on this site. I nothing to comfort anybody except, a hug and that we all are going thru our various stages of our NEW life. We do have an ear to hear each others stories and share our experiences.
Comment by Connie on June 4, 2010 at 11:07pm
Randolph, Thanks for the hugs. They sure are nice. My husband and I were married for 46 years. Our anniversary was October 16th and he passed on November 9th. I love him so very much and my heart is breaking. Today is an exceptionally bad day and I don't know why this day is worse than others. I have been crying all day. My daughter and I met a little while ago at a diner near our homes just for coffee. I needed to get out of this house. Sometimes I think I am going mad. My husband, too, was my sweetheart, my companion, and my very best friend in the whole world. I feel like someone just tore my heart out of my body. I don't know what to do or how to do it. I am trying to keep busy but my doctor wants me to sit with my legs elevated because of a serious arthritic problem that I have with my foot. I cannot sit. I just feel like I have to keep moving. Randolph, I feel your pain because I have the same pain for my sweetheart. I was only 18 when we married and I loved him then and love him even more now. It is so unfair to have him taken away from me.
Randolph, consider yourself hugged.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 4, 2010 at 10:03pm
Hi to all, just wanted to let you know that I am not coping well after 13 months and 18 days since my wife died. With her, my pal, for 44 years has been a crushing blow to be without her and doing everything together with her. I know that we all share the same grief and have to somehow come to terms with it. Frankly, I dont know how. Am so lonely and sad but I know I can share this with all of you. Hugs to everyone because hugs are nice.
Comment by Peg Otley on June 4, 2010 at 12:01pm
Dear Bill,
Although it is almost 6 mos. since I lost my love of my life after 39 yrs. together, I KNOW i am going to feel the same as I do now when the anniversary approaches also. That will be Dec. 13. Christmas will always have a dark cloud over it for me. I WISH I had the words to make your pain go away but he truth is, it probably will never go away. All I can suggest is to reflect on the good times on that day and not the details of his passing. I know....easier said than done. what I'm suggesting is maybe when you have a sad moment, TRY to overshadow it with the thought of his smile or something funny that happened and MOST important don't spend the day alone. That will make it worse. That gives you too much time to sit and think. You know, Bill I have NO idea if this will work. I may be just sitting here blowing smoke but THAT is what I TRY to do when I get in this mode. Father's day is coming and that's going to be tough, more for my children as I still am lucky enough to have my 80 yr. old Dad even after several close calls. I WILL definitely miss my beloved Harry that day as I do every day but I'm going to try this technique and see if it helps on that day. I will pray that you are able to get through this with minimal pain.
Comment by Bill Geddings on June 4, 2010 at 10:47am
thank you for all your prayers and support. I have really been having a hard time as his anniversary date of his passing grows nearer which is on July 21st. It still feels as if it was yesterday. I really miss my best friend and partner. My whole world was turned upside down when he passed and I'm still trying to start over with a new life! Any words of encouragement or wisdom, please let me know! Take care and to all much love!

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