Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by kathleen caylor on July 1, 2010 at 6:17pm
Yaca,A day you can't forget and no one else remembers!!It does make you angry.
Comment by Nancy Peterson on July 1, 2010 at 5:45pm
I said a prayer for you Kathy
Comment by mark on July 1, 2010 at 4:00pm
thinking of you today !
Comment by mark on July 1, 2010 at 4:00pm
Thinking of you today !!!! :)
Comment by Yaca Attwood on July 1, 2010 at 12:12pm
Made it through 29 July year since Byron died. Got up that morning, looked at the pictures I have on my dresser, burst into tears for 15-20 minutes. Opened the Memory Box, looked at his baby pictures, wedding pictures, the lock of his hair I cut right after he died....smiled at some, cried at others.

Then - stopped crying, because I had to go to work in The Summer Of Oil And The Great Data Center Move of 2010.....meetings, user requests, etc - Life of A DBA.

My friend Pam took me out for dinner - asked me how I was doing - I was okay; however, today, 1 July, I find myself feeling a bit angry - other than Pam, NO ONE remembered the 29th - I understand everyone is busy, lots of things going on - and his death day would probably only matter to me.......

Peace, healing and blessing be upon you all - Yaca Attwood Perkins
Comment by Nina on July 1, 2010 at 11:10am
Hi everyone, today has been 4 months since God called my loving husband home to be a Rose in his Garden. Today is my day off from work, & I've been trying to keep busy to keep my mind occupied, but its not working. I miss my husband more than I thought possible to miss any one or anything. I would give anything to see my husband & to hear his voice again. I never thought loosing a loved one could hurt so much. My husband was my whole world & the love of my life. When if ever does the pain start to go away? God Bless all of you.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on July 1, 2010 at 10:13am
I wish I could tell everyone how to get over the loss of a loved one.I wish that I had answers. The truth is simply this.There is no answer. We all must face it in our own way.Support groups help to some degree. Therepists cannot help as it only draws out our feelings even more. The reality is that we are alone, have the empty house to go back to and do things without our mate.We each must deal with it in our own way and own time. Perhaps that will never happen.After 14 and a half months for me,my wife is not with me anymore and to do ANYTHING without her is a never ending blow to the world I had for over 44 years with her.There is no life without her and only we can hope that maybe we can come to some kind of grip with it.Dont know when,if ever. This site has good ears to listen to all of us coping. Hugs to all. Hugs are good. Please, ENJOY THE DAY !!!!
Comment by david on July 1, 2010 at 8:27am
God please be with Kathy today.

Comment by bc on July 1, 2010 at 7:52am
We are all feeling the same way, lonely. I wish the feelings would end, I'm on the edge of deep depression right now, I finally admitted I need help but the therapist is telling me everything I already know...its normal, it will get easier, etc. Guess she never lost her husband, her best friend. Brad will be gone a year on Aug. 5 and I feel worse now than I did before. I got through one week of memories: his birthday, our anniversary and Father's day all in one week, I was a wreck physically and mentally and I don't see any end in sight. I'm hiding these feelings from everyone because they all think I'm so strong. I know everyone tells me Brad is okay and he would want me to be strong and enjoy life again, but it doesn't help. Hope you are all doing okay, just had to touch base with someone who feels what I feel. Any ideas on how I can live each day not feeling down and depressed? Bless you all!
Comment by mark on June 30, 2010 at 3:51pm
Well 4th of july approaching / holidays sooo sad , no one to call /or make a plans to lake texoma one of the places steven loved to be @ with his family ....Nothing is the same anymore ... hope to find my way this summer .. Mark

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