Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Basia on June 15, 2010 at 11:12am
When people ask you "how you doing?" do they really want to know or is it just a thing to say?
And do they really want to know the truth about how you are REALLY doing or do they just want to hear you say "ok".
And would it be completely inappropriate of me to say to them that the only reason I haven't flung myself off the balcony is the realization that at least one of my kids would not mentally survive losing another parent.
Comment by Basia on June 15, 2010 at 11:06am
To Tom. I don't know you but I have read a lot of your posts and they cheer me up somehow. I was wondering why I haven't seen you post much lately. Please don't stop posting.
Comment by BoLynn on June 15, 2010 at 3:12am
My friends, let's take a deep breath here. Our nerves are raw and we are all on edge. I can see how some posts could be read in a different tone as was posted. Feelings are hard to put in words. Some think that being here is making them more depressed and they should take a breather. I think that's a good idea. Others feel that reading what other members are feeling makes them understand their feelings and that they are not alone. Some come here because there is nowhere they can go to vent and purge. There is no wrong here. We hurt, we're angry, we're lonely, we're sad. If not, why would we be here? Please......take a deep breath and let's all start over. A group hug is needed and ice cream all around....on Tom ;)
Comment by Suzanne on June 14, 2010 at 10:35pm
Hi BoLynn
I feel directly responsible for 2 people who left this site. I could explain further but why stress about what's already been done and in the past. Although I totally agree with every word you said. We need a place to share our feelings and vent and if others grieve differently they are here to just listen not preach. For that I'm not apologizing, only if I hurt someone would I be sorry. But your words have comforted me as well. Thank you for that.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 14, 2010 at 9:17pm
Thank you for your input BoLynn. Yes, hugs are good.
Comment by BoLynn on June 14, 2010 at 8:58pm
Randolph......Hugs are wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!
Comment by BoLynn on June 14, 2010 at 8:39pm
Donate one pair and keep the other in your treasure box.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 14, 2010 at 8:25pm
I was wondering if I can get some input from you all on this.My wife was an organ/tissue/corneas donar and helped over 75 people.They had sent me a "memory" box to put all of HER things in it. I have her trifocals glasses and sun glasses in it as well. My problem is; should I donate the glasses to the Eyebank people or keep them? I know the decision is mine but I dont know what to do. My youngest says, dad,they're only glasses. But...they were hers. I'm stuck.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 14, 2010 at 8:19pm
Connie, apologies are not necessary. This is a place for us to grieve,share and possibly help one another. I know all I can offer are hugs. Hugs are good.
Comment by BoLynn on June 14, 2010 at 7:46pm
Connie, it is my understanding that this is a "Bereaved Spouse" forum. It is also my understanding that we are free to post our feelings and thoughts. IMHO if a person finds a post depressing........STOP READING IT! We all grieve in our own way and in our own time. What good is a forum like this one if we have to watch our Ps and Q's and not depress anyone? I for one will post my feelings as I see fit may it be a good day or a bad day. Apologies not necessary.

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