Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Dixie Olson on June 7, 2010 at 10:11pm
Ive sat here at my computer and read through some of the memories posted here, We are all woven together by grief, each of us handles grief in differant ways For me first it was shock, I know I went to my husbands funeral, I even got up and spoke, as to what I said I couldnt tell you, I felt I
had to hold it together for the family and then the tears came in waves for days and months on end I couldnt sleep and I was so very tired. I went through the mad stage mad at God and mad at my husband for leaving me I took everything that belonged to my husband and gave it to my sons and grandkids, aside from a few small pitcures you would never know he lived here, it was to painfull to look at his things People tend to judge "us" as to where we are in our grief, our wedding vows say till death do us part, but if a person starts a new realtionship right away people tend to gossip. No one but you knows how you are feeling, and there are no rules as to how you handle your grief, or for how long. I would ask all of you who read this to tell your loved ones everyday how much you love them, in death some people have time to prepare to say there goodbye's where as others dont get that chance I want to ask whatever or whoever you believe in to bless you in your time of sorrow,with time it will get better, but you will never forget your loved ones.
Comment by Virginia on June 7, 2010 at 10:08am
Randolpf, ((( ))) to you also,I also wear my husbands wedding ring, I took it off of him in the hopsital when he started to swell, I put in on my middle finger but it kept falling off as he had bigger hands then I, tried putting it on a medical alert neckless I wear, nope so I finally put it on my ring finger inbetween my engagement ring and my wedding band thats where you can see it best. I also will never take them off on a permanat basis only when I need to for test or in the hospital. theres a funny story to the purchess of my wedding set. lol He was taught a lesson that day. Virginia
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 7, 2010 at 8:50am
Virginia, hug to you. I love how things get lost in cyber space. I have been not posting for a while myself. Guess, I was resting. Am feeling to "down" lately. Nothing is the same anymore nor will ever be. I hate it with a passion. All we can do is share with everyone.Here we can. I am resigned to the fact that I will never be a man or a human being again. I just go thru my zombie motions. Hugs to all.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 7, 2010 at 8:44am
To Tom, about how the telephone works BOTH ways. I understood what you meant about nobody calling because they "are giving us time" or "not knowing what to say". But I have to say that I cant call for the reason that "what is there to say"? I lost my wife, my pal, am alone ,sad,useless and want to die. Besides I have no one to relate to. So I guess we are back at square one about us not getting any telephone calls. The 3 hour tour on the boat The Minnow, my luck terrorists would take it over and I would probably be killed. Was sorta a nice idea though. Hugs to all.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 7, 2010 at 8:35am
To Steve Cain, I would like to comment on "the wedding ring". I wear my wifes wedding ring on a chain around my neck. After 13 and a half months of her death I still wear it. I have no plans to do otherwise. She had beautiful small hands,fingers and feet.I kept losing my wedding rings. Everytime we went swimming my ring would slide off into the water and be lost. After losing 3 of them I stopped wearing them.Later in our marriage of 44 years she decided to buy me a silver one and I'll be doggone if I wasn't allergic to silver and couldnt wear it. That has disappeared somehow.I will never be a man again nor much of a human being. So be it as I have no friends of my own. Her friends and family disappeared when she died. I hate my new life and will always wear her ring around my neck. Hugs to all.
Comment by Virginia on June 7, 2010 at 8:13am
Hi Everyone, I hope all are doing ok I truelly haven't had it in me to post the last few days, but am catching up on reading here today. God Bless all. Virgina
Comment by Virginia on June 7, 2010 at 8:09am
Hi Randolph,I just went to your page and my message is there lol must have gotten lost in the syber mail. Virginia
Comment by Connie on June 6, 2010 at 9:51pm
I don't know if anyone knows, or would even be interested, that for a small fee, you can have a flag flown over the U.S. Capitol building in Washington D.C. in honor of your spouse. I am having a flag flown for my husband for his birthday and the anniversary of his death. I am also doing this for a very close friend who passed 11 years ago. In order to do this, you need to go on the website of your U.S. Senator and there is a link to click on. After the flag has been flown, it is packed and sent to you, or who ever you designate, with a certificate of authenticity. I don't know whether or not anyone would be interested but I have sent for masses for my husband and wanted to do something else to honor him and found about this and decided it might be a good thing to do.
Comment by lindarunion on June 6, 2010 at 2:43pm
its been amomth since i lost my red i've been cring for the last 3days how does anyone elese cope with this
Comment by Tracy van der Schyff on June 6, 2010 at 12:31pm
In my dreams I revisit
All the bonds that we once knew
I wake with empty feelings
A void that’s left from missing you
There is no end to what I’d give
...If I could hear you say my name,
and ask me as you would
Just how was my day
Was I hungry , Was I cold
Was there needs that you could meet ,
And if there was through all your pain
A smile replaced your grief
To feel your touch or warm embrace
“I love you” whispered in my ear
No sweeter words could there be spoken
Than these words I hold dear
I see you in the evening shadows
Feel you gently in the wind
Smell you in the flowers fragrance
Your life for me will never end
I hear your laughter and singing softly
Relive the memories from your past
To me you were the dearest love
Your leaving’s more than I can grasp
Yet no bitter feeling linger
Only wishes which can’t come true
I play back all that I can remember
From the love of my youth.
- William Mae

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