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Comment by Marsha H on January 12, 2020 at 3:50am

Dear Mary Jane ...  After I got over the disappointment I was beginning to think exactly like you.  You made a lot of sense! 

I was blessed because my friend from Vancouver made it to my house and we had a lovely chat.  Then my girlfriend from next door decided to come over and things were even better and finally my sister-in-law managed to make it.  We had a lot of laughs and I was so spoiled with gifts and a lovely birthday cake.  My girlfriends decided to celebrate with a dinner on February 8th.  Hopefully no snow. 

Around 9:30 it began to snow so one girlfriend had to go as she had quite the drive and soon after my next door neighbor followed suit.  My sister-in-law braved it and stayed until after midnight and we sure had some good laughs.  So you are right Mary.  The dinner didn't really matter and it was laughter with friends.

Hugs to you

Marsha

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 12, 2020 at 1:54am

I know this might not help..but every time I hare about big plans interrupted by major stuff...I get the feeling, that a higher power is involved, and if u had gone out tonite, on a nice evening, something bad mightnhave happened. So when Major plans don,t come to fruition, think of it as Divine intervention. Who knows?

so you will,celebrate it a few days late...and have a wonderful time...maybe something wonderful and unexpected will happen, that wouldn,t have been possible tonight? Think of it as Kismet! And expect great things in the next few days! Ya never know!

Happy birthday, my friend, and wishing u many many more!

Comment by Marsha H on January 11, 2020 at 6:48pm

Well my friends I'm convinced I have a black cloud over my head that just won't go away.  Firstly, warnings of high winds and a lot of snow.  Also -11 temps.  Ouch!  The young man who shovels my driveway is sick so I guess I'll have to beg a neighbor. 

Dinner is off because of the impending snow.  My one girlfriend had to drive into Vancouver because a friend of hers was ill, but was still going to go to dinner.  From the restaurant we were going to it's still quite a drive for her and I didn't want her to get caught it what the weatherman calls a blizzard.  She said she would drop off my gift and if the snow hasn't hit at 8 PM as they said she will stay a bit.

My other girlfriend's boyfriend has to get shots in his knee and had one today and isn't feeling well.  Thankfully she lives next door, but just called to say her 105 year old aunt is passing away.  She is still coming over though for a little bit.

My sister-in-law hasn't called and I hope she does come, but it's quite the drive so don't want her to get caught in the snow.  What a day! 

No snow all winter and the first snowfall was on my birthday.  Hello God!  You playing around!  LOL  Generally I love the snow, but now that Ernie is gone I'm hard pressed to get anyone to shovel my driveway off and I just can't do it. 

Right now the wind is picking up and the skies are clouding up although it was a sunny day, but freezing out. 

I went to Safeway to stock up on food and water and the store was jammed.  I spent 20 minutes helping some of the elderly in walkers or wheel chairs trying to reach the higher things (why do stores do that?)  Got home and thankfully did my housework last night, but the rest can stay as is because I don't know who is coming or not and it could end up being me and the dogs.  LOL. 

Kathy and I have decided to go to the restaurant to celebrate my birthday in February.  Hopefully my other girlfriend can make it.  So weird all of this.  I am a bit depressed over it all, but it's important to do what you have to do and both of my friends need to be where they should be.

I live 27 miles outside Vancouver, B.C., and generally the snow stays on the mountains.  Even the mountains have record snowfalls and avalanches.  Lately the snow has started to come into the city and burbs.  Vancouver Islands get the worst of it as they are on the coast and everything is open.  Sure hope the electricity doesn't go off as predicted.

Thanks for listening.  Feeling a little punk about things.  Oh well, nature rules. 

Comment by Marsha H on January 11, 2020 at 6:33pm

Mary Jane ...  Thanks for the Birthday wishes and they sure are appreciated.  I got lots of phone calls, cards and can't complain, but getting to the age I'd rather forget it.  LOL

Comment by Marsha H on January 11, 2020 at 6:32pm

DJ ...  I know what you mean and I've had naps after doing a lot of work around the house so don't feel bad.  Thanks so much for the birthday wishes and I appreciate it.

Comment by Marsha H on January 11, 2020 at 6:30pm

My dear Chuck ...  Thank you for the Happy Birthday.  I'm older than dirt!  LOL 

Love ya

Marsha

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on January 11, 2020 at 11:58am

Dear Marsha,

A belated and from the heart Happy Birthday! I join everyone in hoping that your delayed celebration with friends is wonderful, tons of fun, and safe! XOXOXO

Chuck

Comment by DJ on January 11, 2020 at 11:32am

Happy (belated) birthday Marsha!  I was planning to send wishes yesterday, but I was on my hands and knees all day working on my daughter's HVAC in her attic; I was so pooped when I got home I fell asleep.

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 11, 2020 at 10:28am

Ohhhh Happy Birthday Marsha! I hope your belated celebration is SPECTACULAR'! 

Comment by Marsha H on January 11, 2020 at 4:33am

Sara ...  I often feel the universe is toying with me as well.  My b/d was Jan. 10th and after months of constant rain it snowed right on my birthday!  I am hoping it's the last of it as my girlfriends want to take me out for dinner, drinks and some good laughs.  Raining now so hope it keeps up.

If you are close to the coworker this still does not mean you have to go to the wake, but you could send flowers to the home and a sympathy card.  I am sure she would understand and she will have her mind on her mom's passing so doubt she'll realize who came and who didn't.  If it bothers you by not going then go for a short while and talk to your coworker and leave.  There is no set time when a person can leave a wake.

Hugs

Marsha

 

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