Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Steve G. on January 5, 2020 at 11:43am

Surgery went well.  Now healing begins!

Got home late Saturday afternoon, hospital took good care of me and Chuck.  There was a couch he slept on in the room, they gave him pillows, blanket, sheets and meals in the room when they brought mine.

Thank you all for your prayers.

Comment by deborah peck on January 5, 2020 at 11:03am

I decided this New Years Eve to go to my daughters to play games with her and her girls, had a lot of fun and ate way to much junk. As 11 approached I started to get the now familiar panicky feeling in my stomach so I went home, didn't want to see the new year in as it just brings pain that Its another year without my Greg, so I went home and got in the jacuzzi with the loud jets on so I couldn't hear the fireworks going on, like it was not going to happen if I didn't hear it. This May will be 3 years for me and at times it seems unbearable although the initial drowning feeling is no longer there all the time so that is good. I think trying to help my sister who lost her husband on Dec 1st is throwing all the feelings back in my face or so it seems. I packed up her husbands things for storage as she is moving down the street from me and then was up all night replaying Gregs death,, not sure how to distance myself from all those flashbacks and be there for her at the same time. She was the one sister that was nt there for me when Greg passed as I kicked her and her husband out of my house for fighting (arguing) when Greg was at home on hospice, he passed that very day, I just couldn't tolerate it, here I was losing my love and they were fighting over petty things that weren't important. But I want to be there for her as I know how important it is to have that support so please say a prayer for me that I find strength for this new journey. I hope everyone has happiness and love in this new year

Comment by deborah peck on January 5, 2020 at 10:45am

Steve, I hope your surgery went well and you are now home tucked in your own bed, praying for a speedy recovery

Comment by Marsha H on January 1, 2020 at 12:54am




Comment by Mary. Jane on December 31, 2019 at 11:15pm

Happy New Year everyone...and Chuck our hearts will be with you...


Comment by Steve Cain on December 31, 2019 at 11:59am


Wow, not a fun way to start the year, surgery on just the 2nd day of the year! I know the feeling to some extent as my wife will be facing intestinal surgery sometime in February, after having just had hernia surgery August 30. 

Best wishes for a speedy recovery with as little pain as possible. Keep us informed how everything is going when you feel up to it.

Comment by Sara Murphy on December 31, 2019 at 11:39am
Steve.....I'm trying to catch up on my reading as I fell behind trying to deal with the holiday's and I see you're having surgery on Thursday. Sending my positive thoughts your way and will be praying for a speedy recovery. Chuck, I'll also be thinking of you on Thursday.
Happy New Year to everyone!
Love, Sara
Comment by Diane C on December 26, 2019 at 11:24am
Belated Merry Christmas to all my Legacy family and friends!! Started a new tradition this year. Rich and I have always hosted the holidays for our family. It's been 7 years since Rich's passing, and I still continued the tradition. Lost my Dad in 2014 and now my Mom in 2019. Just didn't have it in me this year. So when Katie (my daughter) suggested I come to her house this year and celebrate Christmas Eve with her boyfriend's family I accepted. It was so nice and I really enjoyed not having to go through the motions I have for the past 7 years. Then Katie came home with me and spent the night so we had our own little Christmas at my house Christmas morning and then she baked some cookies. It was very nice. I completely understand how everyone feels here. But so very thankful that we have this wonderful site to visit!!

I wish everyone a very Happy, Healthy New Year!!

Hugs!! ♥♥♥
Comment by Mary. Jane on December 25, 2019 at 11:43am

The first time I came to Legacy..I thought the story of how you two met was SPECTACULAR!!  Like a love story for the ages! I am serious. Something in the stars, that was MEANT to be! I believe You were meant to be together, and if this had been a different time, with no internet, you STILL somehow would have found each other. Your meeting is something that only a higher power could have created.. after all the pain each of your endured with loosing your partners, the odds must have been STAGGERING..and yet, you DID find each other...and I don,t think it was chance...there is so much we don,t, nor are we meant to...I also think, in the moments each person dies, we get the answers to all the questions we ever had..but are not allowed to remember them. I believe in past lives...and each of us spends eternity with people we loved in different times, or places. You and Chuck are truly blessed. 

Comment by Michele on December 25, 2019 at 11:43am

I haven't posted in awhile.  Simply here with a broken heart and a wish for a peaceful Christmas and New Year to all.  


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