Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Steve Cain on February 11, 2018 at 4:50pm

Gayle, what an awesome story! Sometime I'll tell mine but this is your post and your moment, bask in it, health and happiness to you and your husband.

Comment by Dr Gayle K on February 11, 2018 at 4:35pm

You never know what tomorrow will bring..... I just remarried 12/31/17.... a new years newly wed. My husband and i were both widowed in 2015 after 25 years of marriage each. we met in 2016 and it was magic from the first weekend. 

we have since discovered that we have been orbiting each other our entire lives...we were in the philippines, san francisco, san antonio, phoenix at the same time in our lives, he grew up 25 miles from my grandmothers house.... but it took us until now to finally find each other... we both had good marriages, both had buried a child.... (a group none of us want to belong to as well as buried spouses)... i want this to be a message of hope that you never know what the next day will bring.... and i wish each and every one of you peace and perspective in the complications of life so that you may each find your tomorrows..... they do exist just be open to them.   

Comment by deborah peck on February 11, 2018 at 11:25am

Steve, thanks for the info, we are covered in ice here so staying put for now, sorry you learned the hard way that stinks but glad its better now

Comment by Steve Cain on February 11, 2018 at 10:31am

A little off the subject but I just want to make sure everyone stays safe during this weather situation for our Midwest-East Coast members. If weather conditions are bad, avoid travel if possible,  If you are employed by a company that will let you work online at home, do so.

Also, make sure to avoid frozen water lines by letting water drip from both hot and cold. This is something I just learned this year after spending the entire first week of the year without water due to frozen lines. If you can get it, get what is commonly called heat tape and apply it to the main exposed pipe in your home. It requires electricity so make sure there is an outlet nearby or you have a safe grounded extension cord to plug it into. Also, make sure you have an extra large full bottle of water, two if you can, so that if you do wind up with frozen pipes, you have water for drinking and cooking.

Finally, if you do get a frozen pipe, DO NOT try and use a torch to heat up the pipes to unfreeze them! If you can't afford a licensed plumber to bring heat clamps over to do the work, use a hair dryer on high and run it up and down the pipes. The process will take time, so be patient.

I hope you all stay safe.

Comment by Mary. Jane on February 9, 2018 at 9:22pm

Well, he DID have a profile page about an hour ago..I should have taken a screen shot of was set to PRIVATE.  I looked up the name...and there is someone very famous with that name..a reknown archeologist (I think). So the name is fake. Odd that his messages DIDN,t show up on my profile page, where they should have. It creeps me out that someone like this is reading our posts.

Normally I wouldn,t be this upset, but I watched Dr Phill today, where this guy from Nigera had been scamming this lady telling her he was Tyler Perry...and the lady had sent him Tons of money...

Comment by Michele on February 9, 2018 at 9:02pm
I just deleted the post.
Comment by Steve Cain on February 9, 2018 at 7:44pm

OK, I just checked again and we don't have a member named Tidane Ndiaye. Now in the bottom right corner of the page there is a place where Legacy members are shown. I saw a name above mine. I checked the name out within our group and they are not.

What that tells me is this Tidane may be a Legacy member, just not in our group.  Now, here is a solution, next to each name, other than yours of course, when you hover on the right, you see an arrow. The arrow gives you the option of finding out about the person, starting a conversation with them, or ignore them.  If you see that name again, just click on Ignore. I hope that helps with the issue.

Comment by Mary. Jane on February 9, 2018 at 7:27pm

I just got the same message that Rebecca did..from a Tidane Ndiaye. The message doesn,t show up on my profile...I think we have a BIG problem. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on February 9, 2018 at 7:16pm

I just got the same message that Rebecca did..from a Tidane Ndiaye. The message doesn,t show up on my profile...I think we have a BIG problem. 

Comment by Marsha H on February 9, 2018 at 4:18pm

Mary.Jane ...  So happy all of us could help you through this heart-breaking time of going through the memories you had with Bob.  You have gotten some excellent advice from many on this site as you already know and appreciate.  Take your time my friend and if you are uncertain of what to give away then pack it up. store it and as Trina says, wait a bit and then go through everything.




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