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Comment by Marsha H on December 25, 2018 at 6:01am

Dearest Trina ...

I am so happy that this lovely song along with the scenery up-lifted your spirits and brought back wonderful memories of you, Joseph and friends.  I know it's bittersweet, but we so lucky to have had those memories.  Ernie and I would have a pre-Christmas buffet with all our friends and we so enjoyed it and apparently so did they.  Tonight was Christmas Eve and it was just the dogs and myself, but they get their goodies from Santa too.  LOL  Still, how I missed Ernie and that would have been the greatest gift of all having him here, but, we move on and carve out another lifestyle for ourselves and soon the few tears dried up and I got on with it.

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas surrounded by those that love you.  I'd give you a huge hug if I was there!

Much love

Marsha

Comment by Trina Mamoon on December 25, 2018 at 5:10am

Dear Marsha,

Merry Christmas to you!

Thank you for sharing this beautiful rendition of "Silent Night" with the even more beautiful video that accompanies it. 

Winter Solstice, or December 21st, is our anniversary and it was another tough day to go through. Joseph and I would always host a holiday party in mid December which was in part to celebrate our anniversary as well as an all faith holiday celebration. And he and other friends would sing Christmas carols. It was so much fun and so uplifting! So thank you again for thinking of us here and for posting this video to cheer us up. It cheered me up as it brought back all the good memories from that long lost past life.

Wishing all of you here celebrating a very Merry Christmas! May it be a peaceful time for us, and let us be able to get through the holidays without too much of a heartache. 

Comment by Marsha H on December 25, 2018 at 4:26am

My dear friends ...

I thought this was so beautiful I wanted to share.  If you are not of this faith the scenery is so beautiful and it brings to mind that creatures great and small didn't just happen on earth; each one so unique, so my dear angels remember, one day you will know love and peace once again.  

Merry Christmas & the very best in 2019.  

https://biggeekdad.com/2015/12/silent-night-by-sissel/#.XCDZ6skHaig...

Hugs

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on December 24, 2018 at 4:02pm

Dear Diane ...

I am so sorry to hear about your mom and uncle.  It isn't easy.  I agree with Mary that my biggest fear is ending up  in a nursing home as well.  I've told my brother if this thought ever enters his head I'll meet him at the door with a shot gun and rock salt!  LOL  I mean it, I live in my home, I'll die in my home!  It seems this year has not been kind to many of us and I actually found this year weird along with weird weather.  Since Ernie passed away the first year was the hardest and then I began to get in the spirit more as time went on, but this year so many changes in my life with dear friends in hospital being extremely ill, changes in my life pattern and it seems I can't keep up, so sometimes I just sit on the sofa and tune the world out.  They say 'this to shall pass' so hoping 2019 is a whole lot better for all of us. 

It's always great to hear from you my dear friend and I'll be thinking of you.

Much love

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on December 24, 2018 at 3:55pm

I've been busy, but also so many people are coming down with this blasted flu and arrangements over the holidays are all over the place and changed.  This Christmas seems so odd to me and I am trying to hang on to the spirit of it.  Exhausting!  LOL

Comment by Marsha H on December 24, 2018 at 3:54pm

Dear Mary Jane ...

I'm so sorry to hear about your kitty.  My one dog has anal gland problems and almost monthly I have to have them expressed.  It's not that common in cats to have anal gland problems, but some can.  Once expressed your kitty should be fine.  I know how frustrating it is for you to find someone to take you to the vets, but smart girl taking your kitty in now.  Isn't it always the way with children and pets they have something wrong on a weekend or long weekend.  

I hope all goes well and you have as good a Christmas as you can.

Hugs

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on December 24, 2018 at 3:50pm

Dear Chuck ...  I do understand how you must feel, but the best gift you've gotten for Christmas is Steve being healthy once again and I know 2019 will be a good year for you.  That being said I know all of us will be thinking of our deceased loved ones, but I smile knowing Ernie is right here with me.

I hope you got my ecard because I don't have your address.  Both of you are in my prayers and thought of often.

Much love

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on December 24, 2018 at 3:48pm

An early MERRY CHRISTMAS to all my angels.  I know it's difficult for most of us to go through this season as the holidays can be melancholy at the best of times.  Remember, our beloved spouses will be near and want us to remember them, but to try and smile and be at peace as well.  

May 2019 be a much better year for all of you.

Much Love

Marsha

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 24, 2018 at 5:51am

It is 5:30 am..I just got up for a bit to let my kitty into the garage to hopefully poop..u see, yesterday I had to take him to an emergency vet for an anal gland problem which hopefully stopped further infections...so since I am kinda waiting for him...I looked here,.and found posts. I will b back up  in a few hours ..but was delighted to find all yr posts...it is very cold here, andmy arthritus is very very bad...I will post more in a few hours, but it is so good to hear from all of u...bye for now...Christmas eve,,,God I hate this holiday..but next year it will b different. I don,t seem to b in as much pain in California as here in Oklahoma..was able to function a few weeks ago when I was there...ok I am rambling...going back to bed..it was a very stressful few days having my kitty sick..but he has been up all night playing as I tried to sleep..so talk to u all later. 

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on December 24, 2018 at 3:50am

Hello everyone,

Well, it's officially Christmas Eve, 3:30 AM, and I am still awake and edgy. Maybe it's the full moon (always has had an effect on my sleep habits) or "holiday blues". Mostly, I think it's memories - isn't that what gets us all in the end - every decoration/movie/song evokes fond memories of our days with our loved ones departed from us. For us I believe the expectation to be happy or excited about Christmas or Hanukkah just makes it harder to muster even a fake smile.

Last week Steve and I attended a Christmas party at a beautifully decorated home of friends. Although I enjoyed being there with my now healthy Steve and talked with several people, in the background was this lurking memory of the last Christmas party I attended with Larry in 2014.

His friends in the antique business had just learned of his terminal diagnosis, and they pulled together the most amazing and elegant party for everyone in the area associated with antiques - shop owners, dealers, dabblers - and insisted we be there. Believe me, I was not up for a "party", but the hostess told Larry to let me know I was coming if she had to come drag me there!!!

After Larry passed in April of 2015, I learned from the hostess that the entire party was for Larry - so he could see friends and mostly so they could see him and say goodbye in their hearts. That these wonderful people loved him so much that they made all these arrangements in less than a week still brings tears to my eyes.

Anyway, I want to wish you all Merry Christmas with some peace and warm memories to help us into the New Year...
Love, Chuck

 

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