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Comment by Marsha H on December 25, 2017 at 5:31am

Mary Jane ...  That was such a beautiful post.  I do understand what you are saying and I too think of small children eagerly waiting for Santa.  Even though we are adults there is some magic in the night air, Christmas lights on some houses and the smell of possible snow.  It does bring us some peace.  I hope all of us find peace and joy in our lives and little of the magic children have.  I still make snow angels in the snow when we get it so no, you're not nutty, I am!  LOL

Comment by Marsha H on December 25, 2017 at 5:26am

Merry Christmas my dear friends and I hope that you get some peace from this holiday.  I am aware it's a tough one for all of you, but just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of all of you and praying for better days ahead.



Comment by David Heggi on December 24, 2017 at 10:47pm

God bless you, Christine.

With prayer and hope we can make it.

Comment by David Heggi on December 24, 2017 at 10:45pm

no one is laughing, Mary Jane.

What a touching beautiful prayer to all that is good

Comment by Christine Blaire on December 24, 2017 at 10:29pm

Mary Jane that was beautiful and I guess I'm some kind of nut's lightly snowing here and I just grabbed a shawl and went outside and listened and said a prayer for my Marshall and for everyone of us to be able to find some kind of peace. This is the worst Christmas ever and you helped a bit. Thank you dear. I hope all who read your post will do the same. I cried but I was able to take a deep breath and slow my breathing. And to quote a special little boy.  " God bless us everyone"

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 24, 2017 at 10:07pm

Hello friends

i wish everyone as happy a Christmas Eve as you can summon up. This site has become so special to me...I can,t thank you enough for being here. I am going to share something I do each year, on Christmas Eve, that I have never told anyone before. Don,t think I am nuttier than you already do...but I do this every year. I never even told BOb about this, cuz he would have scoffed at the whole thing. Here goes:

each Christmas Eve, around 11 or 12 at nite, I go outside...and just LISTEN to the night. It takes about 2 or 3 minutes of clearing my head of everything...but I just listen to the night. I think about all the little kids, who still believe in magic, and the wishes of everyone for a better life...and when I am very still, and listen, I can feel the hearts of people, and the emotions of hope. It isn’t about hope for presents from Santa, or hope by adults for material things, but hope for kindness and a better life,or thanks for the life they have...or hope for a better with kindness and gratitude.

i know it sounds kinda nutty, but when I wait awhile, and listen to the stillness of the night..that special night when we all believe that a better world is possible...I swear you can feel it. At least I do. 

So if you believe me, that it is possible to feel the hope that others feel...I urge you to give it a try. I know that a lot of my feelings come from very small children waiting for Santa..but it isn,t the presents they think he brings, it’s the belief in miracles they still have. To me, it is a bit of magic every year...

and I have NEVER told anyone else about this thing because I know they would just laugh and scoff about it, and I don,t want to hear it.

so Merry Christmas Eve...I wish your dreams realized...and know your partner is with you tonight. Mine is. You just have to believe.

Comment by David Heggi on December 24, 2017 at 9:12pm

There are so many of us who will be hurting tonight and tomorrow.

I just want you all to know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Comment by Sara Murphy on December 24, 2017 at 7:30pm

Wishing my Legacy Family a tolerable (if not Merry) Christmas and a little late but Happy Hanukkah

Comment by David Heggi on December 24, 2017 at 5:53pm

Thank you, Steve.

Humming birds are astonishing creatures.  How can we not know the awesome beauty of God's creation?

Comment by Steve on December 24, 2017 at 5:08pm

Dear Legacy Family,

Something I found recently and thought this would be a good day to share especially since it is Christmas Eve,

Legends say that hummingbirds float free of time, carrying our hopes for love, joy and celebration. The hummingbird's delicate grace reminds us that life is rich, beauty is everywhere, every personal connection has meaning and that laughter is life's sweetest creation".

A special wish for everyone on Legacy that each one of us can find peace and comfort during the holiday season.


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