Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Linda O'Connor on July 29, 2010 at 7:28pm
This is my first time to post here, although I have read all your notes for a few months. I just had to let you know how very much reading all your thoughts have helped me to know that I am not alone with my feelings. Just like the rest of you, no one else really understands at all how very alone and empty I am. I lost my Kevin 19/29/08, and it seems like yesterday. I am ok at work and can "fake it" real good. Driving home & hearing a tone that makes me think of him, or being here alone (with my 4 Bassets - God love them!) I miss him so very much. I find myself drinking too much to numb the pain and help me to sleep. But, really nothing seems to help. We lived together for 22 years - married almost 16. No kids, except our dogs. He was my life and my very best friend, and at time I wonder how I can continue without him. Thank God for my 82 yr old Mother and sisters who get me going. I pray for relief, but it doesn't seem to happen. Does counseling help? Let me know if you have any suggestions.
Comment by Jeanette Kilpatrick on July 29, 2010 at 7:12pm
Hello all, today is my 61st wedding anniversary. I started out determined to be happy and I was. My daughter came and took me to the cemetery where we placed new flowers on his grave. Then she took me shopping and I bought some new dresses. To finish the outing, we went to the place we used to go nearly every Friday night to eat. I said i was not going to be sad because he was always happy when we went there. I did fine until his favorite waitress came in and hugged me. i lost it. Anyway, I recovered and came on home. When we got almost here, i felt a tightness in my chest and I could hardly breathe. I made it in the house and to a chair where I had to sit for a long time. Maybe we should not have gone to that restaurant. Anyway, i am ok now but feeling sad. I guess I'm not as strong as I thought I was. I'm still missing him after 14 months. We were married when I was 16 years old and I guess I'll always feel married to him.
Comment by Virginia on July 29, 2010 at 4:29pm
Tina, I wish there was someway for us all to not have to deal with this pain and sorrow we feel and sadly today I don't see much hope for it getting any better, maybe one day it will, god bless,I'm sorry your having a bad day
Comment by TINA GREER on July 29, 2010 at 3:51pm
It's been a horrible day... I know Larry is gone... I get up every day, do what I have to do, go to bed. I try not to dwell on the fact that he will never be with me again. Today it hit me like a ton of bricks... again... It's just not fair! We should have had another 30 or 40 years together. I hate being without him. I hate not seeing him. I hate not talking to him. I hate not laughing with him. I hate not hearing him sing, or snore. I hate him not holding me. How am I going to get through this... my life seems so empty now. We were supposed to grow old together, watch the grand kids grow... be there for each other in good times and in bad. My heart aches for him. I need him so much...
Comment by Carol on July 29, 2010 at 7:09am
today is Michael's 42nd birthday, he was taken from us 4 months ago, a sensless act of violence. Words can not express the pain and heartache I have. I miss him so much, this month has been so hard, it was my birthday and our week we always went on vacation and now his birthday, please help me to get through all this, its been such a nighmare
Comment by Joan on July 28, 2010 at 7:00pm
David, I would have been married 24 years on August 7 of this year. I have been dreading that day. I just want to stay home by myself and remember all the good times and bad. I don't want to have to put up a front for anyone. If I want to cry all day, then that's what I will do. I find myself hurting more instead of less. The day after the 7th will be four months that Jim has been gone. So David, a lot of people on this site will be thinking of you and understanding exactly what you're going through. I find this site helps me a lot.
Comment by Anita Simmons on July 28, 2010 at 4:43pm
This goes to Cindy Powell. I will set a reminder for you tomorrow and say a prayer.
Comment by TINA GREER on July 28, 2010 at 4:31pm
Bernie, I to am sorry for your loss. I lost my husband on July 5, 2010 to a sudden heart attack at the age of 51. I thought we had many more years together. I have had a very hard week. Feeling very lonesome. I just don't know how to live without him. Thanks everyone here for the words of encouragement. This is one place that I know everyone understands what I am going through.
Comment by Virginia on July 28, 2010 at 3:30pm
Bernie,I'm sorry for your loss, we are never really prepared even when we know it will happen one day,I lost my husband after him being sick for ten yrs. and was not ready to loose him, we just have to take one day at a time this site will help you very much, god bless
Comment by Virginia on July 28, 2010 at 3:26pm
Randolph,I'm sorry yur having a bad day, and sorry to hear about your cat maybe you can adopt one from the shelter to be company for the one you still have,I don't know what I'd do without my babies god bless you ((( hugs to you )))

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