Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

Members: 1349
Latest Conversations: 3 hours ago

This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.


Discussion Forum

Bad day

Started by David Heggi. Last reply by David Heggi Nov 22, 2017. 2 Replies

New member

Started by denise. Last reply by Marsha H Oct 25, 2017. 4 Replies

Comment Wall


You need to be a member of Bereaved Spouses to add comments!

Comment by Virginia on September 4, 2010 at 8:36am
Chrystal,I am so sorry for your loss, the only thing I might advise is maybe some family and indevigal counsling. I wish there was an easy way to get over loosing our loved ones but there's not as you already know, we are here for each other so stay here, it is baby steps we need to take, nights seem to be bad for some but for me it's mornings.I'm at 16 months and it's still very hard we were together 32 yrs. God Bless and hugs to you.
Comment by chrystal click on September 4, 2010 at 2:43am
I had just lost my soul mate of 14 years on 8/16/10.We had 4 children together, one which we had lost in 2001. He was almost 8 months old.Now 9 years later I lost my fiance.I feel so abandoned,soul less,like my heart just got ripped out of my chest. How am I supposed to handle this? I take it one day at a time, but I could be fine for the day and then when it comes time for bed I loose it. I have 3 kids that are counting on me to be strong and to make sure everything is alright, but I am not sure that it is. If anyone has any suggestions I will take it into consideration. I had just got over my sons death this last year now my husband is gone. It was a motorcycle accident, the driver of the car cut accross 3 lanes to make a u-turn,now im lost in this world.. help please
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on September 3, 2010 at 10:34am
Kathy O. and to all other members. Thank you very much for the card, just received it today. It is very much appreciated. Thank you for your support,thoughts and prayers. Maybe someday, somehow, we can resume some kind of life without our spouse. But with me, as you all know, everyone aound me is dead or dying. My support is here for what ever it is worth. For we all do understand and care. I hope that things can get a little better for each and everyone of us. Thanks again. Hugs to all. Hugs are good.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on September 2, 2010 at 12:51pm
To Kathy O , sorry I'm late on this comment but here it is.On the topic you started on how you met your spouse, what a great story. I wanted to tell you how perceptive you must have been,and keen, to pick up on the fact that your future spouse was having his drinks bought for him by his friends. I have been there a few times but eventually I would return the favor to my friends. I never known the barmaid or waitress to pick up on that or care. Good for you girl. Hugs to you. Hugs are good.
Comment by Linda O'Connor on September 1, 2010 at 5:16pm
Kathleen C: Of course it's beer thirty - what did AJ say in his song - "It's 5 o'clock Somewhere." I've got one going right now after a bad day at work. "All "special" days cause us misery, so don't feel like you are alone, we all have them - Sun. was 22 mos after 22 yrs together, so I had a rough day. Enjoy your family coming together, cause they are doing it for YOU & YOU are important! Don't panic, just relax & know that we are all here for you to vent whenever! Prayers & hugs to you.
Comment by Virginia on September 1, 2010 at 3:42pm
Kathleen, hang in there once everyone gets there hopefully you'll relax and get to enjoy the company,and don't be afraid to talk abut your husband, some people are afraid to start talking about him but if you start the conversation they'll loosen up I hope. I know when I had my big cookout for memoral day it went so fast and I was able to enjoy it a bit so just relax have a beer or two or three lol, know he is with you let me know how it goes best wishes, and hugs
Comment by kathleen caylor on September 1, 2010 at 12:50pm
In my effort not to worry about our first anniversary without my husband,I can't think of anything else!So consumed with misery,it feels like the begining!Maybe having everyone together isn't such a good idea!Panic is starting to set in.Is it beer thirty yet?
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on August 31, 2010 at 9:23am
Hi to all, most of you know my situation of the deaths and dying going on all around me. In my one posting I said that I had 2 aunts and one uncle who are dying. My mother had many brothers and sisters and we were very close because my mother and father never had a car. My one aunt died last night. Her son and I grew up together and we were like brothers. I couldnt go up to see any of them because of my car problems. I dont know how much longer I can bear the dying that is going on all around me. I am going insane. I am already going thru a "meltdown" as it is. I wont be on this site for awhile as I just cant handle it anymore. Life sucks. Hugs to you all. Hugs are good.
Comment by Virginia on August 30, 2010 at 9:20am
Julie, I am sorry you had to do that by yourself but I'm sure he was with you. It is very hard to go on alone with our plans for the future gone. It really makes you feel like you've been cheated and now all we have left are memories of the life we had and the one we had such plans for. hugs
Comment by Virginia on August 29, 2010 at 8:44pm
Linda I got your message and wrote back but it was sent back to me ,but it's not a problem what ever comes out. it's very theraputic lol like a good cry.hugs

Members (1348)


Latest Conversations

Profile IconCandi and Johanne joined LegacyConnect
26 minutes ago
Barbara Rieger posted a status
"Gerberas were planted in dad's garden a happy memory. So perfect looking. Thank You David! Have a beautiful day like the Gerberas look!"
1 hour ago
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
3 hours ago
Profile IconMark Alpheus and Crystal L Brown joined LegacyConnect

Community Guidelines

Please be respectful of others. For more information, read our Community Guidelines.

Follow Legacy

© 2018   Created by   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service