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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
Started by Andrew Berenyi Jr.. Last reply by Steve Jul 14.
Started by Chris Sky. Last reply by Mary. Jane Jul 1.
Started by Sandfly. Last reply by Marsha H Jun 6.
The very first thought I had was this, had the invitation been delivered weeks or a month in advance; would you feel better about going or would it have made it far worse having the same apprehensions spread out longer? I pose this question because of the specific details you have outlined. Some of the details appear to be more than just coincidences on the surface, while some of the other details could be just as you said, a last-minute thought on the part of the couple; however, if you choose to accept the other details as something planned by forces we do not understand, then the couple had no choice late or early. In any case, the decision ahead of you no matter which way you decide, one could haunt you, ever wondering what if I do not go, should I have? And the other, going and having sad memories, or going and reliving your renewed vows in a way only Ernie could arrange, surely not to hurt you.
Dear Family ... Once again I'm in a pickle and need some constructive advice.
My spouse Ernie's cousin is getting married on July 1st of this year. It is going to be held up at a lodge not far from me. I did not receive an invitation until last night when the cousin and his fiancé came up my driveway, handed me the invitation and said that they are very late and disorganized getting the invitations out. I felt like I was a last thought as they have never kept in touch with me since Ernie's passing. The other issue is the lodge where they are having the wedding is where Ernie and I said our vows again for our 25th Wedding Anniversary and I know it's going to make me feel sad. On top of that the Matron of Honor and Best Man for this wedding are the same ones that stood up for us at our 25th Wedding Anniversary. I just don't know if I can hack it and feel like it's a last minute invitation. I won't know that many people there either. So, any help will be great from any of you and I'll appreciate it for sure.
I hope all of you believe in this song. I've left it many times before, but wanted to leave again for the newer members.
We all wonder why we have had our spouses pass on leaving us with an aching heart and if the very breath has been stolen from us. We see the world in a different light now. This is my belief ... It didn't happen just by chance that we met our spouses and they met us; it was planned! With the great love we had with our spouses I'm a firm believer whether religious or not that one day we will see our beloved spouses again and this song pretty much says it all:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P7IbQyG9PL4
I hope it gives each of you peace and BELIEVE!
Mary Jane I hope you are having a better day. I haven't been coming here very long but i really enjoy reading the words of encouragement from everyone.
I'm not very good about expressing my feelings though. I start to type something and lose my thought before I finish most of the time. My wife's name was Melanie and she was a huge mickey mouse fan. When i happen to see a mickey item i believe it is her saying hi. telling me she is watching over me and our boys.
Dear Mary.Jane ... What a beautiful song, but I do think we will see our beloved spouses when our time comes. I also believe for at least a little while they are very close to us until we have more strength and can stand on our own two feet.
I am so sorry to hear you are having so many bad days. You always brighten up Legacy with your true love and caring so please, never think you don't have a place to go as we're your extended family and willing and able to comfort you as best we can.
Mary Jane I am thinking of you. How many times we forget for a second they are not here and then WHAM! We remember and it feels like it just happened. I was walking home from work tonight and I swear for a second it was all normal, there was a pretty sunset,I was going home, and David was there waiting for me. Then I remembered and I felt like a hand was squeezing my heart.It almost knocked me over. Sending you hugs and I pray that your day will be a little better tomorrow.
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