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Comment by Sara Murphy on March 14, 2018 at 9:49pm

HI Chuck,

So good to hear from you again.   This latest storm dumped 2 ft of snow on us but luckily didn't lose electricity this time.  If you can believe it, they're predicting another nor'easter for Tuesday. You must be happy to be in Dallas at this time of year.  Funny thing is, I did have a fleeting thought of hoping a plane to Texas but reality set in.  I can't exactly fly away on a whim. I did have 2 people call and check in, my mother and my brother.  

I hope you and Steve are doing well and you've settled into your new home.  Please be sure to keep us updated. 

Love you,

Sara

Comment by Sara Murphy on March 14, 2018 at 9:37pm

Anthony......the loss of a spouse is unlike any other.  I can't believe how much water is inside one person but when I first lost Ken, the tears would just stream down my face and down my neck.  Can't believe I wasn't hospitalized for dehydration.  Ken was and still is my whole world.  We were together for 30 years.  I understand the emptiness you mention as does everyone here.  As David says, even if you can't verbalize exactly how you feel, just put anything down and we'll be able to relate.  Ken didn't have cancer but he had serious health issues with various organs beginning in 2008.  I think the worst thing ever is to watch the person you love most suffer and not be able to do anything about it.

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on March 14, 2018 at 8:49pm

Dear Sara,

I hope this latest storm hasn't created too many problems for you - Steve and I are anxiously watching the weather as it surrounds areas where we have family, and naturally that includes you dear friend. Let us know that you are OK, and if you need anything at all, holler out  - promise?

Love, Chuck

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on March 14, 2018 at 8:47pm

Dear Anthony,

I am so sorry for the pain you are going through after your terrible loss. I lost my husband Larry to cancer just short of 3 years ago on April 22 2015. David is so right that time does help in the healing, but right now the important thing is that you know you are not alone in how confused and angry you may feel. I truly thought I was losing my mind before I found this group, and still come back seeking the support and encouragement I need and always will find here I know. I have shared things I never could with Larry's and my families, and even close friends - they just would look at me and say inane rehearsed expressions of comfort that to me meant nothing. Here we all know the deep loneliness, anger, and fear that can overcome us without warning, brought on by anything at all. Sara's going through the terrible storms around Boston area are a perfect example - I went through something similar after a downed tree took out my power, phone, and left me without water from my well. I was alone, disabled, and terrified without Larry's calming rational presence upon which I had leaned for 32 years. Like Sara, I often wonder what he is thinking as he watched our "friends" ignore or forget me one by one.

Please know everyone here will listen without judgement to anything you say and offer our experiences, our understanding, and our love unconditionally.

Be well, and God Bless You

Love,Chuck

Comment by David Heggi on March 14, 2018 at 6:51pm

Bless you, Anthony.  We don't care if you have trouble verbalizing exactly how you are feeling;  just posting any words you can find to make a connection is enough to get the attention you need - we've all been there; we know.

Comment by Anthony Umphenour on March 14, 2018 at 4:52pm

Thank you for your kind words David and encouraging me to post.  It's hard for me to verbalize my emptiness, loneliness, and deep sorrow.  I know it helps the grieving process to communicate my feelings.  It's hard to dig for words when I'm scared to be torn apart again.  It just sucks!  I hate cancer!

Comment by David Heggi on March 14, 2018 at 1:10pm

I'm so sorry, Anthony.  Your loss is so new and raw;  it is what each of us in this group has gone through.  This has been said many times, but it is true:  time does heal.  In the meantime, and especially now, please post those sometimes scary feelings here anytime. There are many kind people here ready to listen and give you support

Comment by Anthony Umphenour on March 14, 2018 at 9:35am

Thank you Sara for reaching out to me.  You are very kind.  I lost my husband on 10/6/17 after bravely fighting for 3 years from colon cancer.  He was not only my love but my support.  I feel like I'm drowning in sorrow and can't catch my breath.  I can't even type these without tears streaming down my face.  

Comment by Sara Murphy on March 13, 2018 at 9:41pm

Chicago....true statement.  Wish I knew how to start over.

Comment by Chicago Beard on March 13, 2018 at 11:08am

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