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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Dear Deborah ... Such a sad story and you said the only words you could. We just miss our loved one and what could have been so it's good to have a cry the both of you. Is there any way possible that you could take your grandson and perhaps his mother along with you to at least see one good baseball game? I think your grandson would love it! I know sports are shut-down right now, but not forever and you can promise your grandson as soon as the virus issue is over that's what you'll do.
Like you, I too just keep busy when Ernie's anniversary date comes up and it has gotten better, but he's always in my heart and I do think of the wonderful memories we had together.
Stay safe and take care.
Yesterday was the 3 year anniversary for me, I just kept busy and my mind off of it. Today was my grandsons 16th birthday, he and his mom lived with us his whole life and Greg had always told him when he got his license they were going on a road trip to visit as many baseball stadiums they could. he got his license today and while we were happy, him and I both had a cry over what wouldn't happen for him. Its sad to think of Greg not being here for these monumental moments. Tried to remind him his grandpa is watching but didn't really help either of us, such a tough things for kids to understand when we cant even understand it all.
Im so happy for you Chicago, its always great to dream about our loved ones
Chicago Beard ... So happy you had that beautiful dream of your Rose. I always feel they are visiting us every so often even if it's in our dreams and I'm sure that she is happy you're happy in your life. You are one lucky man.
I haven't had any dreams of Ernie for several years although sometimes I feel he's close.
Back at ya Todd!
That's awesome Chicago! Hope all is well in San Berdoo! Still surviving in Riverside. Cheers to the I.E.
Had a dream about my Rose recently. Had not had one in a few years. Do not remember much detail except that she made sure that we looked into each others eyes, those beautiful eyes. What was ironic to me is that it was the day after my current lady's birthday. It was very comforting to have had that dream.
I read all your posts here with great interest and also sadness. The thoughts, emotions, fears, and deep, unrelenting sadness associated with the loss of your beloved spouse/partner are feelings that I relate to deeply. This is a great forum where people who have suffered the same losses can come and share their innermost thoughts and feelings without being judged. And I am thankful for the bonds of friendship and kinship that we have been able to find here.
Deborah P, very sorry for you that the month of May comes with a number of sad associations. I don't know what words of comfort to offer you, except to say that I am sending you good thoughts as you go through the month full of painful associations.
Marsha, so good to have you back here and writing. We have Mary Jane to thank for the nudge and the inquiry for us to bring you out here again. Ernie's anniversary of passing was recently, always a very hard marker. Very sorry to hear about the loss of your girlfriend. As the years go by, the list of those whom we loved who are now gone only grows, as Charles in his usual eloquent manner put it.
It's good to know that in spite of all the unprecedented challenges and hardships that COVID 19 has brought to us all on a global scale, that all of you here are safe.
I canceled my Japan trip in March that I was going to take with my friends from Alaska. Even though I lost money, I am relieved that I didn't take that trip because I would have have hated to get sick in Japan, or stuck in quarantine; neither of them good scenarios. I am thankful that I have a roof over my head and food on the table, things that a lot of people here and abroad do not have. This pandemic has been very hard for me in a different way. It will be six years in August that Joseph died, and I had stopped crying every single day for about a year or so. Even though getting up in the morning and facing a new day and going to bed for the night have remained extremely difficult for me, the crying spells had gone. But now with Coronavirus, people dying everyday, I cannot stop crying at the news of strangers dying: young people, husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, children and siblings. It's all so very heartbreaking, and it brings back the painful memories of the months leading up to Joseph's death. The knowledge that people never ever "get over the loss of their loved ones; time mutes the pain, but the pain is always there and life is never the same again.
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Charles, I was having the same thoughts of you about people remembering me after I die. As I offer prayers for departed souls and for those of my acquaintances who have the virus, I am comforted that as I am praying, missing, and thinking of those people without them knowing about it, that there are people out there who will miss me and pray for me when I am gone. I also know this from Joseph. As I said, it will be six years soon since he left us, but every once is a while, there will be a post on Facebook, or a quick email from a student or a colleague who says something nice about him. It tells me that just as we miss and mourn the people who mattered to us, we in turn have touched other people's lives in a positive way, that they too, remember us kindly. So my friend, know that you have touched a lot of lives in big ways and small, unbeknownst to us sometimes, and we will be remembered and someone will think of us fondly and those who pray, will offer a prayer.
These are uncertain times, and I am fully prepared to go if my time comes to go with Coronavirus; I will be reunited with Joseph sooner. The only thing that I am afraid of is that if I die under lockdown, how will I be buried on time, and how will my siblings and nephews arrange for my funeral. Other than these concerns, I am not concerned about the virus taking me. I am concerned for my family's health and wellbeing.
I wish all of my family here to stay safe and be out of harm's way. Take care and be well, all of you!
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