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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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My dear Chuck ... I was in tears when I read your post and know how difficult it is for you to go through your anniversary. Ernie's is coming up April 27th. I wish I was there to give you a huge hug big brother.
Love you & thinking of you.
Mark's illness was a neurological disorder very similar Parkinson's and so his doctors treated him with the same and similar meds, all of which were very strong and powerful pain killers and a mix of other drugs to try and control his seizures. His disorder was genetic and no cure, most of the males from his mother's side of the family didn't survive beyond 50 or 60. He and I would talk and he stated often that he doubted he would live beyond 50. Most in his family contracted this horrid disease in their late 40's, Mark displayed symptoms soon after his birth. He was treated until he was about nine then the symptoms left, leaving him with a few side effects. It wasn't until 2004 that he started displaying symptoms again. We were living in south Florida and we went to the Mayo clinic in Miami. The doctors were convinced he was suffering from the beginning stages of Parkinson's and so began his decline. It was painful enough seeing his health decline and his dependency on his medication increase, along with his seizures. To this day I still second guess everything I did or didn't do, the day he died still replays in my mind without warning. Knowing and watching someone die still does not prepare or alleviate the grief of it all. There were days I really did not think I could or even want to continue my life. So many emotions, so many memories, I still wonder what I am doing some days. Each day does get easier and each day brings it's own challenges...and to borrow a cliché, life does go on.
Nice Letter to Larry, you said what a lot of feels but have a hard time putting into words. Diane knew the way to look through my different faces for different situations and see the real me also. My Sister is a going through a Divorce, she had a simple medical procedure done and I went to the Hospital for her. She told me not to worry she would be there for me too. Hang in there my Friend. You help all of us a lot.
I just read your post on the 2nd anniversary of Larry's passing, and I can't stop the tears from flowing. Your letter to Larry voices so many of the things that I would tell Joseph if I were writing to him--how much I miss him and how I will never stop loving him for as long as I live.
You show courage when you say some of the more difficult things personal things about your life together with Larry. But your courage and frankness are a tribute to Larry's memory. Larry knows how much you love him and what you did or didn't do was out of your deep love for him.
On this day of remembrance and introspection, I send you much love. Please know that I am holding you close and sending you prayers for healing and peace.
With love and deep empathy, Trina
Chuck......thinking of you on this sad anniversary. That was a beautifully written letter to Larry. I wish I could take the pain away. Know I'm giving you a cyber hug.
Apologies if this posts twice. I was also afraid for my two kitties, that I wouldn't be able to take care of them after Bill died. After all, I couldn't save him, so what made me think I could take care of the cats? Of course, they are fine and now that I removed Bill's clothes and shoes from where they could smell them, I think they are doing better. I know they still wonder where he is as they go into his office like they used to and it's like they are waiting for him. Thank goodness that I have them as there are days that they are the only reason I get up in the morning.
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