Gay and lesbians who have lost partners


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Started by jay william mclaughlin Dec 28, 2021. 0 Replies

My name is Jay.  On October 4, I lost my husband of 27 years.  He was the kindest and most gentle man I have ever known.   The holidays were rough--I've been on the verge of tears all the time. …Continue

Recent Loss

Started by Aaron R Gould. Last reply by John DiLorenzo Jr Aug 24, 2021. 2 Replies

On March 4th, 2021, my partner Kyle committed suicide, by shotgun to the head. I found him in his car, and have been feeling incredibly anxious and alone since then. He always struggled with mental…Continue

Lost my Partner of 5 years

Started by James James. Last reply by John Baluyut Apr 18, 2021. 3 Replies

Hello, My name is Jim.   Last month I lost my partner and best friend of 5 years unexpectedly.   The grief and sense of loss is so overwhelming,    In a single instance my life has been turned upside…Continue


Started by Tony Przybyla. Last reply by Kevin Dadouses Apr 18, 2020. 1 Reply

lost my partner of  42 yrs last may.  still hurts and this stay at home isolates even more. hard to move forward but am trying.  have been out of touch w/ gay community for last 15-20 yrs...due to…Continue

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Comment by gilbert a diaz on August 10, 2020 at 11:51pm

Its been seven months since Danny passed away and soon the fall/winter is coming soon including my November 55th birthday and its gonna be hard for me that he isnt around with me anymore and i still have my feelings of Danny... holidays is the best to celebrates on halloween birthday thanksgiving xmas and Danny's Dec birthday plus a new year but its so painful when a person is gone and we all gonna have some help to get through during the holiday seasons!1 Amen to us all who lost the loved one in your life!!

Comment by gilbert a diaz on July 26, 2020 at 6:00pm

i lost the love of my life danny who died from seizures at the age of 72 and he was my roommate of 25 years and was deaf.. he left his dog Blackie behind til i adopted her.. im the one who found danny on the floor at the HomeBoardCare and this former house manager was blaming for his death .. he died on jan 19th 2020 on sunday.. i think of him every single day... its harder for me to deal with his death and even his sister blames me too... my name is gilbert a diaz jr im 54 and hard of hearing..

Comment by Don Griffith on September 30, 2019 at 12:39pm

Graham, welcome. I, too, had a series of unexpected illnesses at a time when I should have been grieving my husband of 36 year. I think profound grief destroys your immune system. I got multi-local pneumonia, klebsiella, sepsis, c-did from the antibiotics for all the other stuff. My best advice to you sounded trite when I heard it, but be kind to yourself. Don’t hold yourself to anyone else’s timeline. And let yourself mourn. There is a direct correlation between the depth of your love and the depth of your grief. Good luck to you. It hurts like hell, but you will come out the other side.

Comment by Graham Baskerville on September 30, 2019 at 12:18pm

Thanks for letting me join this group. My partner died suddenly & unexpectedly on March 6th this year. I literally found him lying dead on the floor early that morning when I got up to get ready for work at a local hospital. Despite efforts to revive him it was all clearly too late. A post mortem revealed his death was due to unknown heart issues. About 10 days later I was rushed into hospital with bowel issues (I suffer with adhesions on my bowels) that required emergency surgery. Following surgery I had complications due to dehydration & low levels of sodium & potassium that in turn triggered serious & life threatening heart issues. This made it beat far too fast & assume an abnormal rhythm: atrial flutter mode. Just for good measure I also had sepsis & my blood pressure & temperature were much too high. I was allowed out of hospital the day before my dear partners funeral & despite still feeling very unwell I managed to attend. I have been slowly picking up the pieces of my shattered life & trying to go forward. Work has helped me a lot but I still find it very tough & breaking down into tears. In short, I am still emotionally very fragile though other tell me I am doing very well. I live in a remote part of the UK & have limited access to local gay friends. I hope to move (perhaps next year) & it was something my partner & I always planned to do. It would be good to hear from anyone in a similar situation & hopefully reach out & make some new friends.  

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Comment by JAMES WOODARD on April 27, 2017 at 2:10pm

Thanks to all of you for the heart felt words.  I will definitely visit the FB group.

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on April 26, 2017 at 8:41pm

Hello James,

I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved Mark. I lost my husband Larry two years ago April 22. Today I visited the plot where his ashes are interred for the first time in these two years, and was feeling quite emotional and unsettled tonight when I saw your post. It feels as if I was supposed to see it and tell you something - and I feel like this is dearest friend6 months after I lost Larry, said the same thing to me that is being said to you by those who love you, are worried, and just don't know how to help. For them it's that feeling helpless that makes them pray for you to find some peace and support someplace. I believe their prayers were answered when you found Legacy, just the way I did 18 months ago.

There is so much I want to say to try to offer some comfort, but I will keep it simple and simply share that the friendship, understanding, and compassion I have experienced here saved my sanity, and probably my life. I mostly interact with another group, Bereaved Spouses (Larry and I were together 32 years when I lost him to cancer), which ended up being the first group I saw. Even though I later saw this group, I had found a family there who still have my back, and our loving members there are generous and gentle in their comments and stories. 

I do hope this site helps you find some peace as it did for me, and if you allow yourself to think of the place you now find yourself as the beginning of a new path along which you will meet people here who truly understand your grieving because we all are on the very same path. They have walked beside me, held me up when the tears wouldn't stop, and patiently guided me with their experiences and knowledge of my feelings and fears - and deep abiding sadness. Share freely, James, know you are surrounded by a circle here the other group refers to as "angels". and I do believe they are.

Take care of yourself, and don't feel alone in your grief - because we are all here when you need us.

With love,


Comment by Gregg Yazzie on April 26, 2017 at 4:30pm

James, I too feel your pain. Your story is loving and heartbreaking. As Janet mentioned, try out the grief support group on FB. There are many who have very similar experiences and it helps to know you are not alone in this journey of grief. Peace, love, and hugs to you. Gregg

Comment by John Arabie on April 26, 2017 at 4:17pm
Not sure if Im responding correctly but I wanted to tell James how sorry I am for his loss. What a handsome couple you are. My heart goes out to you. I find it difficult to talk about my loss. Hugs to you.

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