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Started by jay william mclaughlin Dec 28, 2021. 0 Replies 0 Likes

My name is Jay. On October 4, I lost my husband of 27 years. He was the kindest and most gentle man I have ever known. The holidays were rough--I've been on the verge of tears all the time. …Continue

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Started by Aaron R Gould. Last reply by John DiLorenzo Jr Aug 24, 2021. 2 Replies 0 Likes

On March 4th, 2021, my partner Kyle committed suicide, by shotgun to the head. I found him in his car, and have been feeling incredibly anxious and alone since then. He always struggled with mental…Continue

Lost my Partner of 5 years

Started by James James. Last reply by John Baluyut Apr 18, 2021. 3 Replies 0 Likes

Hello, My name is Jim. Last month I lost my partner and best friend of 5 years unexpectedly. The grief and sense of loss is so overwhelming, In a single instance my life has been turned upside…Continue

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Started by Tony Przybyla. Last reply by Kevin Dadouses Apr 18, 2020. 1 Reply 0 Likes

lost my partner of 42 yrs last may. still hurts and this stay at home isolates even more. hard to move forward but am trying. have been out of touch w/ gay community for last 15-20 yrs...due to…Continue

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Comment by Bernadette Denommee on August 4, 2015 at 10:29am: Hello
Is anyone there? My wife passed four months ago of cancer and I've had no one to share or talk to.

Comment by David Simpson on January 27, 2015 at 9:53am: I am so sorry for you loss.I grew up in OOB,now live in Gorham.My husband died on October 5 2014 of congestive heart failure.

Comment by Robert Foley on January 26, 2015 at 9:03pm: I am so sorry for all who have lost those they love. My husband John died in December 2014. We were together for 24 happy years and married last summer in a beautiful non-religious ceremony in our garden. He battled stage 4 lung cancer for almost two years to stay with me. He was brave and caring to the end. I miss him so much. I'm embracing my grief and using his strength to help me survive.

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Comment by David Simpson on January 9, 2015 at 2:53pm: John i do the same thing,i eat alone,and get takeout.I miss having meals with him,i did not like the part though when he did not want to eat anymore,it was sad to watch his decline,i had a gift though ,the gift of true love,it can never be taken away.John just think of all of the people that were never loved like us,we will always have that,its eternal

Comment by John Steffens on January 9, 2015 at 1:13pm: Hi, my name is John. I lost my dear partner of 29 years, Jim, 25 months ago. Jim died of CHF after spending 19 weeks in the hospital and 3 months at home under Hospice care. I miss him every minute of every day. We were both retired and so enjoyed our time together after all the years of working. Then he became ill and everything stopped. I am able to do my day-to-day activities but find it extremely hard to eat alone. If it isn't in a box I don't eat it anymore. We moved here (Nashville area) after living in Florida for decades and we never made gay friends here, and I feel like I am on Mars. I am just at a loss as to how to go on, but I have a great desire to do so and I know Jim would want me to be active and as happy as possible. Would love some feedback and support to alleviate feeling scared and stuck. I am so very lost in this world right now.

Comment by David Simpson on December 7, 2014 at 7:41pm: Hello looking to connect and correspond with spouses of deceased partners,my Doug died on October 5th 2014 of Congestive heart failure.Thank you.

Comment by Tony Howey on November 29, 2014 at 4:55am: Hi, my name is Tony. I recently lost Patrick, my partner of 19 years. I just joined the group to hopefully find some support. I miss him every day. I feel so lost.

Comment by Jeanne L on November 23, 2014 at 4:29pm: I'm still trying to catch my breath. My partner of 22 yrs, married for 5, died Oct 2. Like so many others that have posted, I'm OK, on the most part, out in public or at work. Sometimes I start daydreaming or thinking about things and reality hits me in the face. I get very, very sad. Alone, I ache.

Comment by Dennis McCormack on November 3, 2014 at 6:51pm: Just joined this group (I think!---just noticed there are various ones). Lost my partner of 20 years Sept 5, 2013. Decided to seek others in the same spot. Still not finding it much easier to cope. Still have little interest in going out, seeing friends or doing much of anything. I am 67 years old and feel not much zest in life. Feel alone and washed up. The future seems bleak. How would I ever find the happiness I had? I'm sure many feel the same. Friends and family say to "get out" and do things, but so easier said than done. Even my appetite has gone downhill. As my brother (who lost his wife almost two years ago says, "If I can't nuke it, I don't do it". Often times a sandwich is th best I can do (I used to be the cook and having someone to cook for gave me motivation). It's even hard to shop for ONE. At least my brother has his children and his adored grandson to ease the pain. So many of us GLBT, lack that. Friends and others just sort of "don't get it", saying get out and do something. I know I SHOULKD but Easier said than done. And at this stage of life I don't have a large group of friends, having gone through the first wave of grief with the AIDS years and so many friends leaving. Now leaving due to age. Anyway, thanks for letting me share. Peace.