Gay and lesbians who have lost partners


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Looking for people who can understand my loss

Started by Amanda. Last reply by Amy Bartola Sep 3, 2019. 10 Replies

Hello, my name is Amanda. I lost my partner over 3 years ago. It was a sudden and unexpected loss. I'm still grieving and struggling with it. I came on here hoping to find people who could understand…Continue


Started by April Fiorillo. Last reply by Care Johnson Feb 21, 2019. 2 Replies

Lost my ex girlfriend to cancer and a brain aneurysm and it burst. Was with her many years, having a very hard time moving forward. You see she called me and died on the phone while we were talking,…Continue

Another Excellent Group is now on Facebook

Started by Robert Davis. Last reply by Pauline Overton Nov 4, 2018. 2 Replies Last year, one of the folks here, Niel, was looking for a more responsive and easier…Continue

He saved me - now he's gone who will save me now?

Started by robert j crowley. Last reply by Pauline Overton Nov 4, 2018. 20 Replies

I already know the textbook answer is that "I must save myself."  So for me those text book answers seem so impossible.  in June of 2007 I met Richard - and we were never apart until he passed on…Continue

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Comment by Eric Furan on August 13, 2014 at 9:54pm

It's now been two months and three days since Patrik died and I have gotten through the memorial, the scattering of ashes and our first anniversary without him.  I thought I was doing pretty good last week but yesterday and today have just been horrible.  I used to look forward to coming home as my "safe place" but suddenly I can't wait to get out of here and have been out every night in order to avoid coming back to this empty house. In the last two days I've been breaking into tears at the drop of a hat, in fact I'm crying as I sit here typing.  I've been telling all my friends that I'm getting better but the truth is I'm not.  When does it begin to even out?  I have communicated with a few people here in the group, and hoped I could help them with some of my experiences but the truth is I can't even help myself.  This is not a good day.

Comment by Christopher Ruggles on August 11, 2014 at 11:38am

Hey everyone.  I'm seeing a lot of new faces.  I haven't been on here much, but I do try to read what everyone is posting.  June 7th was the third anniversary of Barry deciding to leave this world.   I want you all to know that if you ever need someone to talk to, you can message me.  This path we're on isn't an easy one.  There will be parts where the path is all but lost in the overgrowth and darkness.  There will also be parts where the path is clear and sunny.  Your path is what you make it, however.  The trick is to grieve, not mourn.  Grieving is the process in which we are healing ourselves, while mourning is just stagnation.  Please, don't be too proud to reach out for help.

Comment by Justin Orman on July 28, 2014 at 10:11pm

Im sorry to everyone that I just sent a message too i meant to post it in the forum i am still getting used to this 

Comment by Sharon Dotson on July 8, 2014 at 10:19pm

This past holiday weekend was horrible.  My wonderful partner of 30 years, Helen has been gone for 7 months and I'm going crazy with grief.  I found a support group at our local equality center.  A friend is going with me next Monday for the first session.  With this group and all of you I'm hoping to get through this till I can cope better.  I feel all your pain and appreciate all your support.

Comment by Matt on May 31, 2014 at 2:58pm
Sharon, I am sorry to hear about your loss. Last week marked two years since my boyfriend passed away. If you would like someone to talk to and pray with, I'm here for you.
Comment by Sharon Dotson on May 12, 2014 at 7:35pm

Next week my partner of 30 years will have been gone 6 months.  She was my life and I'm lost.  I don't think I'll be able to go on without her.  I'm hoping this site can help me.  Local grief groups I could go to are for straight people only.

Comment by Shane Clements on January 28, 2014 at 3:27pm

Anytime Dan! Hope all went well last night! I know its rough and seems like it will never end but it does ease some! Things will never be the same but time does ease the pain never heals the pain but will ease it! Hang in there buddy! Sending you good vibes of peace and love!

Comment by Dan Brown on January 28, 2014 at 3:24pm

Thanks Shane.

Comment by Shane Clements on January 27, 2014 at 11:29pm

Dan I am so sorry for what you are going through! I know all too well your exact feelings, It will be one year April 4th that my Billy passed away and as Mike said hang in there and take it one day at a time! You my dear friend are by no means crazy! The feelings your experiencing are very valid and all a part of the grieving process! We are here for you my friend! 

Comment by Dan Brown on January 27, 2014 at 11:06pm

Thanx Mike. Just hearing someone say I'm not crazy helps


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