Gay and lesbians who have lost partners


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Looking for people who can understand my loss

Started by Amanda. Last reply by Kay Feb 15. 2 Replies

Hello, my name is Amanda. I lost my partner over 3 years ago. It was a sudden and unexpected loss. I'm still grieving and struggling with it. I came on here hoping to find people who could understand…Continue

Another Excellent Group is now on Facebook

Started by Robert Davis. Last reply by David Heggi Nov 30, 2017. 1 Reply Last year, one of the folks here, Niel, was looking for a more responsive and easier…Continue

He saved me - now he's gone who will save me now?

Started by robert j crowley. Last reply by David Heggi Nov 19, 2017. 17 Replies

I already know the textbook answer is that "I must save myself."  So for me those text book answers seem so impossible.  in June of 2007 I met Richard - and we were never apart until he passed on…Continue

Tags: alone, desperate, Lost

6 months went by and something released in me. Still VERY ANGRY but able to function

Started by robert j crowley. Last reply by David Heggi Nov 11, 2017. 12 Replies

So - yes 6 mos passed on May 4.  A week or so later I did feel something inside me let go in some way - I want to live and enjoy life again.  I can't go back and that part of me that thinks I can is…Continue

Tags: looking, relationship, new, alone, angry

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Comment by jeannie staunton on December 22, 2010 at 10:50pm
PS.. if you haven't already.. go to  love ya hun  hugssssssssss
Comment by jeannie staunton on December 22, 2010 at 10:47pm

thanks Jeanne..know your tired.. looking forward to talking further when you get home...  similar situation for me also..  my lover was in the process of getting a divorce, but hadn't done that yet... so when she passed, her husband stepped in and  took over.. never got to go to her funeral, or anything, tho i paid for it...then he tried to sue me for taking her away... unreal...

safe flight my friend  and Merry Christmas    big  hugssssssssss


Comment by jeannie staunton on December 22, 2010 at 5:01pm

Hey all... I lost my first lover  in a car accident.. I was driving...altho this was many years ago, it never totally goes away.. i still fondly remember her and what we had been to each other...  We were taking our first vacation together.. going to spend  5 days in P-Town-.. we lived in upstate New York...  we both worked the 3-11 shift, so after we had gotten out of work,   we finished packing the car and took off...  we did everything like we should.. alternate driving. she had her pepsi, i had my coffee... taking breaks as needed...  about 6 am   i was driving, she, sleeping...  i felt myself starting to nod off and thought i'd better find a place to stop and both nap for a bit...  we were by the Sturbridge exit on the mass pike...  the next think i knew..  we were under  the back  of an 18 wheeler...  i had fallen asleep...  i was fine.. minor injuries,  she wasn't...  the  corner of the trailer had come through the windshield and   had crushed the side of her head...  she was rushed to  U Mass Medical, made it through surgery,  but passed shortly afterwards... the loos and guilt i felt was unreal.. and i was also charged with vehicular man slaughter.. luckly i had a good lawyer, provided by the gay community  up there..  and a sympathetic judge.. was given a suspended sentence and community service.. after that was completed, my record was cleared...  i have learned over the years to deal with the pain and guilt.. but it never is completly gone... i feel that for what ever reason, it was time for her to " go home"..  it wasn't my time.. that i had more to accomplish...  so here i am...

i joined this group, because i have been there and do understand what's it's like to lost your lover, your friend...and if i can help others, am here..

 take care all..

hugssssssssss.. Jeannie



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