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Comment by Sarah Happe on November 7, 2010 at 3:56pm
My Grandma passed away March 2, 2004. I know it isnt recent, but i cant seem to fully recover from losing her. I still cry whenever i think about her. And what makes it worse, i was in the hospital the night she passed away. Last thing she said to me was, ''Its alright darling, stop crying.. i'll be fine.'' But i didnt get the chance to say goodbye, i was choked up with all that was happening. She was a heavy smoker, and suffered from multiple heartattacks. I'm still young, I was only 8 years old when she passed on, I guess what makes this harder on me is that she truly was the only grandparent i had. Two passed away before i was one and the other i barely even know. I dont know if this is normal to be grieving this long after... All I know is i need help. Will this ever become easier?
Comment by Hollie on October 24, 2010 at 5:52pm
My Grammy passed away August 26th 2010...I miss her everyday..I was her caregiver for two years. I went to see her 10 times a day or more wether to keep her company, clean, give her medicine or doing her laundry. She was my best friend. I could tell her anything and everything and she did not once judge me. She held my mom's side of the family togethter forever. She had COPD and Congestive Heart Failure. She was doing alright with it until one night. She smoked with her oxygen machine on but always wrapped her hose up in a towel..She had a massive heart attack and it caused her to drop her smoke and it caught her hose on fire..If I hadnt had the feeling to go down there when I did she wouldn't have made it out of her apt. The hardest thing I ever had to tell her was when she was in Brian's House and I told her when she was sleeping it was ok for her to go and be with her Sisters, Mother, Dad, her Husband and most of all her Son Chuck we had lost in 2003. I feel like I am losing this coping struggle every day!
Comment by Brittany on September 28, 2010 at 11:29am
My Grandma passed away September 6, 2010 (Labor Day) she went into Cardiac Arrest in my arms that night, one of the hardest things Ive ever experienced. She was like my mom lived with her from the time I was born and off and on throughout my life. I went back to live with her 3 almost 4 yrs ago and I was pregant with my first son, she was there for me through everything! We had a special relationship that I cherished dearly! I wish god didnt have to take her, but thats just me being selfish, I know shes in Heaven looking down, guiding me and watching over my son and I. There's days I just dont know what to do. . its like im lost without her. . . does it ever get easier ?
Comment by Brittany on September 28, 2010 at 11:29am
My Grandma passed away September 6, 2010 (Labor Day) she went into Cardiac Arrest in my arms that night, one of the hardest things Ive ever experienced. She was like my mom lived with her from the time I was born and off and on throughout my life. I went back to live with her 3 almost 4 yrs ago and I was pregant with my first son, she was there for me through everything! We had a special relationship that I cherished dearly! I wish god didnt have to take her, but thats just me being selfish, I know shes in Heaven looking down, guiding me and watching over my son and I. There's days I just dont know what to do. . its like im lost without her. . . does it ever get easier ?
Comment by Jessica Y Atencio on September 17, 2010 at 7:34am
My name is Jessica and I lost my grandmother Sept. 10, 2010, we buried her today and it has broken my heart in so many ways. I am the oldest of 8 grandchildren so I was fortunate enough to have her to myself a lil longer. My grandma or Ma as I caller her helped me in so many ways, when i was working and going to college she helped me with by babysitting my three oldest children, no matter how late i had to work, my ma was always there to help. She spoiled all of us by making our favorite dish when ever we were to visit or even just to do so. When i was pregnant with my fourth child, i learned that my baby would be born with downs syndrome. My ma was my strength, when the docs told me to expect the worst case scenerio, her response "You tell them doctors they dont know what the heck they are talking about, God sent her to you for a reason mija and thats what you gotta believe." I got busy raising my lil one and neglected visiting my grandma, thats my biggest regret and the guilt i am having right now. I sat with her in the hospital most mornings during the week she passed and we would laugh and "conspire" on how to sneek her out of the hospital, me and my grandma were always upn to things like that since i can remember. I left her on the final morning, kissed her forhead told her I loved her and that I would see her in the morning. I went home to make her copies of my children and grandchildren cause she would ask for them, especially my special lil one. As I was getting ready to download, I received the call from my mother, when I looked at the number, i feared answering, but did anyway all i remember is the words, your ma left us. I feel like a huge hole has been taken from my heart, i did not "appreciate" the time God gave me with her as i should of. I dont know how to go on without her! i feel the need to be with her so much and the more the thought crosses my mind the more my heart breaks. I know the rest of the family is hurting, but the pain i carry, i know no one else shares, we all mourn in different ways. no matter how much I try to explain how i feel, all i get is you gotta snap out of it, thats the only way to cope. So how do i cope when no one can understand exactly how i am feeling?
Comment by Jessica Y Atencio on September 17, 2010 at 7:34am
My name is Jessica and I lost my grandmother Sept. 10, 2010, we buried her today and it has broken my heart in so many ways. I am the oldest of 8 grandchildren so I was fortunate enough to have her to myself a lil longer. My grandma or Ma as I caller her helped me in so many ways, when i was working and going to college she helped me with by babysitting my three oldest children, no matter how late i had to work, my ma was always there to help. She spoiled all of us by making our favorite dish when ever we were to visit or even just to do so. When i was pregnant with my fourth child, i learned that my baby would be born with downs syndrome. My ma was my strength, when the docs told me to expect the worst case scenerio, her response "You tell them doctors they dont know what the heck they are talking about, God sent her to you for a reason mija and thats what you gotta believe." I got busy raising my lil one and neglected visiting my grandma, thats my biggest regret and the guilt i am having right now. I sat with her in the hospital most mornings during the week she passed and we would laugh and "conspire" on how to sneek her out of the hospital, me and my grandma were always upn to things like that since i can remember. I left her on the final morning, kissed her forhead told her I loved her and that I would see her in the morning. I went home to make her copies of my children and grandchildren cause she would ask for them, especially my special lil one. As I was getting ready to download, I received the call from my mother, when I looked at the number, i feared answering, but did anyway all i remember is the words, your ma left us. I feel like a huge hole has been taken from my heart, i did not "appreciate" the time God gave me with her as i should of. I dont know how to go on without her! i feel the need to be with her so much and the more the thought crosses my mind the more my heart breaks. I know the rest of the family is hurting, but the pain i carry, i know no one else shares, we all mourn in different ways. no matter how much I try to explain how i feel, all i get is you gotta snap out of it, thats the only way to cope. So how do i cope when no one can understand exactly how i am feeling?
Comment by Lorraine on September 2, 2010 at 1:03pm
My name is Lorraine and i lost my gramps on April 01,2010 and i still dont know how to get through this he was more to me than just my gramps he was my pops he rasied me n my brothers n sisters my mom was a single parent n her dad treated us wonderfully....i had a special bond with him n honstly its killing me inside i dont really have any1 to turn to cuz i dont want to seem selfish...i miss him so much and i know my family does too but how do i come to them when they must feel the same way..?
Comment by Amy Zielke on August 15, 2010 at 6:07pm
My grandma passed away August 7th, 2009. I just passed the one year anniversary. It was so very difficult and emotional. I asked a very good friend to come and sit with me last week and just held my hand, let me talk, let me cry. I went to a contemporary service that night and cried through half the service. I miss her so much. The biggest obstacle I face right now is getting to her grave. I am in SC, she is buried in Ohio, nearly 800 miles away. I don't have the funds to travel up there by myself. Right now I'm trying to convince my parents to let me go with them when they head up that way in about a month. I need this closure.
Comment by Stephanie Touchet on July 20, 2010 at 8:20am
I lost my grandpa in Oct 2009 and i was with him when he passed away. Sitting there watching him suffer with each breath he took has stuck with me and i dont think i will ever get over it. I was in a chair next to his bed asleep and something woke me up and i grabbed his hand and told him it was ok for him to go that we would be ok. He then took his last breath and i thought to myself that i had lied to him, im not gonna be ok. I miss him so much , but i feel like i have to be strong for my mom because she is not taking his death good at all. I havent even been able to go to the cemetary since the day of his funeral. I guess one day i will have to face it but i just cant right now.
Comment by Stephanie Bruna on April 25, 2010 at 2:01am
I lost my grandma to pancreatic cancer on 12/10/09, and still can't believe she is gone. So many times I have seen little articles in the paper and think that I need to cut them out to send to her. When I catch myself doing this, the hurt begins again. The registered nurse in me realizes that she is better off not dealing with the cancer anymore, but my heart still aches. What helps me is to remember the good times we shared. Writing them down is a way to keep the memories alive so that I can refer back to them at a later time. I feel like crying as I type this, but then I think about how proud Grandma would be at trying to help out someone else who is hurting. Hang in there...
 

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