I am very new to this websit and am so far liking what I see. I lost my paternal Grandma to pancreatic cancer on 12/10/09 after she fought an 18 month battle. I am in an End of Life care health psychology class for my Master's in Gerontological nursing degree. The book I just read by Brook Noel and Pam Blair really opened my eyes and when I saw your group I thought it'd be perfect for me. I am writing a paper on saying goodbye and I just commented that my last memory of Grandma alive was her making her famous homemade spaghetti for me and my dog. I'd brought my then 6 week old niece up to see her for the 1st time and we were all sitting at the kitchen table that 6 generations of my family have been at. Gma making a plate of spaghetti for my Shih Tzu and commenting that she thought I'd be her "only" guest for lunch are memories that I will treasure for years to come. I am in the anger stage of grief right now and am wondering when it will become less acute. I have so much more to say right now, but must get to work.
Thanks for listening!

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Hi Stephanie
I have been through sadness, anger, guilt a roller coaster of emotions since my son died in 2008. Everyone grieves differently as I'm sure you have learned. It has been almost 2 years for me and I know all of those emotions are still inside of me, I have just learned to deal with them better. I can say that time, in fact, does help with acceptance, but the pain will never go away. Enjoy precious memories of your Grandma and thanks for sharing with us!

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Hi Stephanie,

I am so sorry about your grandmother. Hang in there, you will go through all of the stages several times, and it will take a while for them to calm. I lost my grandmother about 8 years ago, and I still have problems with it. Loosing a loved one never gets easier; you just get a little stronger as you become accustomed to the reality.

Lots of love,

Thanks for your kind words! It has been a heckuva week. I went to the funeral of my best friend's dad (and my neighbor) on Tuesday, the 20th, and my Mother-in-law's dog (he's like my dog) is having to be put down. Harry has been the yard dog at the farm for the last 14 years, which is the length of time I've known my husband. This has just been a crappy week, which is why I haven't been online for a while. I keep referring back to the last line in your message and it rings so true. It is a reality I don't want to face, but know I must.
Keep in touch!
Hi Stephanie, I just saw your post (1-1/2 years later!).  I lost my son 6 mos. ago.  May I ask, where are you in the healing process now?  Do you ever experience the anger anymore, or have you managed to move through the stages to acceptance?  I learn so much from reading others' entries as to what to expect up ahead.  How did your paper turn out on saying goodbye?  I bet it was very therapeutic for you writing it.  My daughter wrote one to my son this year on his birthday (he would have been 27 in September), but I have really not had the presence of mind yet to be able to write one yet.

I thinkyou have a great idea. I had Steven Dec 23rd. I brought himhome Christmas.Best Christmas present I have ever recieved.I will share some wonderful memories.Thank you~~~Sometimes we find just what we need~~ Steven & Jasons Mom.Many Angels: Mom "I know you are here with them"~~~

                                                                                    Missing All of  you,Gaynell




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