I lost my brother may 14, 2010.  It was unexpected, he was only 39.  we were 15 months apart and pretty close.  we may not have seen each other everyday and sometimes we bickered like we were still 10 but we were close.  he had a skin disease that had him in pain alot but mostly he was a happy guy.  i went to my son in laws graduation and my brother and his girlfriend got into a fight and she went home to her moms and my brother died alone in his apartment where he stayed for 2 days until someone found him.  i cant stop crying or thinking about him.  i dont feel him around me like others say they feel their loved ones after they pass...  it bothers me.  we are atheist... so maybe that is why dont know.  when he first died i would walk into a room and i could smell him.  will it ever get any easier?  does the crying everyday ever stop?

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I so totally understand your pain.  Im so sorry for your loss of half your soul.  I say that because I know that is how it feels.  And, it not only feels that way...it IS that way!!! Siblings are made of the same genetic things.  Very little seperates us into different people.  When we lose a sibling, we litterally lose part of our own selfs.  I really dont know that anyone who has never lost a sib could ever really understand.  Its like when someone loses a child.  We cant know their pain, unless we have gone through it ourselves.  We can understand that it hurts, but, every type of loss is a different, yet no less intense, pain. 

But, time does heal.  You may think that it will never get easier...but, it will.  I found that talking about the person like they are still there...telling stories about funny things theyve done, etc...helped to ease me into the fact that they are memories that, even though I will make no more of with my sister, they are still mine.  And, my sister deserves the recognition.  We all deserve a legacy.  Life is so very important.  We all make a difference that noone else can make just by being alive.  Others need to know that we were here.  The intensity of our life should never be overshadowed by the horrificness of our death.  Let the world know that your brother was indeed HERE!!  You were happy at times, mad at times, not speaking at times...you were alive with him, and, you are the testimony to a life cut too short, but, still none the less important.  Try that....talking about them in a present tense.  Because really...even their memories can make make memories if we let them.

You will feel happy again when you think of Him.  It might be another year, but, you will.  And, there will be days when you cry.  There were those days when he was alive, right?  You will have happy days, just as you did when he was with us.  Our lives have changed dramatically with them gone.  Let people know that.  And, maybe they will understand yoiu a little more.  That helps too.

 

I so totally understand your pain.  Im so sorry for your loss of half your soul.  I say that because I know that is how it feels.  And, it not only feels that way...it IS that way!!! Siblings are made of the same genetic things.  Very little seperates us into different people.  When we lose a sibling, we litterally lose part of our own selfs.  I really dont know that anyone who has never lost a sib could ever really understand.  Its like when someone loses a child.  We cant know their pain, unless we have gone through it ourselves.  We can understand that it hurts, but, every type of loss is a different, yet no less intense, pain. 

But, time does heal.  You may think that it will never get easier...but, it will.  I found that talking about the person like they are still there...telling stories about funny things theyve done, etc...helped to ease me into the fact that they are memories that, even though I will make no more of with my sister, they are still mine.  And, my sister deserves the recognition.  We all deserve a legacy.  Life is so very important.  We all make a difference that noone else can make just by being alive.  Others need to know that we were here.  The intensity of our life should never be overshadowed by the horrificness of our death.  Let the world know that your brother was indeed HERE!!  You were happy at times, mad at times, not speaking at times...you were alive with him, and, you are the testimony to a life cut too short, but, still none the less important.  Try that....talking about them in a present tense.  Because really...even their memories can make make memories if we let them.

You will feel happy again when you think of Him.  It might be another year, but, you will.  And, there will be days when you cry.  There were those days when he was alive, right?  You will have happy days, just as you did when he was with us.  Our lives have changed dramatically with them gone.  Let people know that.  And, maybe they will understand yoiu a little more.  That helps too.

 

Thank you for the advice.  No one seems to understand like you said unless they have lost their sibling.  No one likes to talk about it but i have started to more.  his birthday is coming up and i have a trip planned to the casino and a bunch of his friends are going.  he loved the casinos.  my family doesnt understand why im doing that but i just feel i need to.

judy said:

I so totally understand your pain.  Im so sorry for your loss of half your soul.  I say that because I know that is how it feels.  And, it not only feels that way...it IS that way!!! Siblings are made of the same genetic things.  Very little seperates us into different people.  When we lose a sibling, we litterally lose part of our own selfs.  I really dont know that anyone who has never lost a sib could ever really understand.  Its like when someone loses a child.  We cant know their pain, unless we have gone through it ourselves.  We can understand that it hurts, but, every type of loss is a different, yet no less intense, pain. 

But, time does heal.  You may think that it will never get easier...but, it will.  I found that talking about the person like they are still there...telling stories about funny things theyve done, etc...helped to ease me into the fact that they are memories that, even though I will make no more of with my sister, they are still mine.  And, my sister deserves the recognition.  We all deserve a legacy.  Life is so very important.  We all make a difference that noone else can make just by being alive.  Others need to know that we were here.  The intensity of our life should never be overshadowed by the horrificness of our death.  Let the world know that your brother was indeed HERE!!  You were happy at times, mad at times, not speaking at times...you were alive with him, and, you are the testimony to a life cut too short, but, still none the less important.  Try that....talking about them in a present tense.  Because really...even their memories can make make memories if we let them.

You will feel happy again when you think of Him.  It might be another year, but, you will.  And, there will be days when you cry.  There were those days when he was alive, right?  You will have happy days, just as you did when he was with us.  Our lives have changed dramatically with them gone.  Let people know that.  And, maybe they will understand yoiu a little more.  That helps too.

 

Hello,
I’m very sorry for your loss. I loss my brother in a accident and it's extremely painful and sad. It's almost five years bow since he's gone. I wanna share a story that happen a long ago but sure touches me and my family and give us comfort. Did you know that in God’s Word the bible, it mentions that even Jesus Christ himself experienced the death of a loved one?  

In John 11:34-37 it mentions that upon hearing that his dear friend Lazarus had passed away, “Jesus gave way to tears.” Jesus upon hearing this, through God’s Holy Spirit, then proceeded to resurrect Lazarus from the dead. (John 11:38-44)

It is very comforting to know that God promises through his word the bible that an even larger resurrection will take place, where all who have died will be resurrected to a paradise here on earth.  (John 5:28-39)

It ins my hope that these encouraging words from the bible give you hope in seeing your loved once again here on earth.

May you and your family always be in good health and spirits.
hello thank you i sorry abut you brother

thanks for the thought and kind words but i do not believe in god. again thank you for your kindness though.

Angel said:

Hello,
I’m very sorry for your loss. I loss my brother in a accident and it's extremely painful and sad. It's almost five years bow since he's gone. I wanna share a story that happen a long ago but sure touches me and my family and give us comfort. Did you know that in God’s Word the bible, it mentions that even Jesus Christ himself experienced the death of a loved one?  

In John 11:34-37 it mentions that upon hearing that his dear friend Lazarus had passed away, “Jesus gave way to tears.” Jesus upon hearing this, through God’s Holy Spirit, then proceeded to resurrect Lazarus from the dead. (John 11:38-44)

It is very comforting to know that God promises through his word the bible that an even larger resurrection will take place, where all who have died will be resurrected to a paradise here on earth.  (John 5:28-39)

It ins my hope that these encouraging words from the bible give you hope in seeing your loved once again here on earth.

May you and your family always be in good health and spirits.

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