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Permalink Reply by Deb Cram on September 13, 2010 at 10:26pm

I am blessed in that I have the most amazing 3 year old granddaughter. She is such sunshine and laughter to anyone that meets her. She does not understand why she will never get to tickle her brother. And there is no answer for her. She will always know she had a brother, but her memories will be of what would have been. That is how it should be.

Permalink Reply by Deb Cram on September 13, 2010 at 10:26pm

I am blessed in that I have the most amazing 3 year old granddaughter. She is such sunshine and laughter to anyone that meets her. She does not understand why she will never get to tickle her brother. And there is no answer for her. She will always know she had a brother, but her memories will be of what would have been. That is how it should be.

Permalink Reply by Kalyn on September 17, 2010 at 5:01pm

I am so sorry for your loss. My brother lost his son due to a cord accident nearly 9 years ago and we lost our precious grand daughter in March at 3 mos old to SIDS. As a grandmother who has lost one so precious I grieve for you. It is so hard to, not only mourn for your grandchild but also, like you said to feel that hopeless feeling of not being able to help your child. Our sweet Addison would have been 9 months old yesterday. Six of those months she has been gone from us. I will not tell you this is an easy road, it's not. Please know that I will be praying for strength and comfort for your family. This is a heavy burden us grandparents have been asked to bear. From experience with my son and daughter-in-law, just be there for them. Understanding also when they need to be alone. Addison was my son's only child and I honestly don't know if they will ever have another one. That is also hard for me as they were wonderful parents.

Your pain is so new. I can remember those first few weeks, thinking it would never let up. Unbelievably, it will. It will always be there everyday, every hour, but it will let up. Six months into this, I can at least breathe a little, sleep a few hours at a time but I dont think the day has come yet that I haven't cried for her. Please know I will be here if you need to talk, scream, cry.....again, I am so sorry.

Deb Cram said:

I am blessed in that I have the most amazing 3 year old granddaughter. She is such sunshine and laughter to anyone that meets her. She does not understand why she will never get to tickle her brother. And there is no for her. She will always know she had a brother, but her memories will be of what would have been. That is how it should be.