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Permalink Reply by Lauran on December 27, 2009 at 9:12pm

Karen, I don't think people really mean to be insensitive, I'd have hit your sister in law with the card, but honest, I don't think she meant any harm. I bet if you looked at every card she sent, it said the exact same thing. She wasn't thinking.

As to co-workers and friends, I really don't get it. This is exactly why the comment "You are lucky your mother lived to be 90" was starting to make me want to scream. Maybe people think that because your father was 94, he'd lived a full life? I dunno. Having lived a full life sure doesn't make their death any easier. If these women are your friends, you may want to ask the one you feel closest to why everyone seems to be avoiding the fact that your father died.

I am so sorry for your loss, I truly understand your pain and grief. My mother died two days after her 90th birthday and a day hasn't gone by where I don't cry. Hugs to you.

Lauran