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Permalink Reply by John Cobb on January 12, 2010 at 10:45am

share your thoughts with someone you trust and allow yourself to grieve. I did the same thing and tried to block it out, but this only delays the hurt. You are not alone and people care about you so lean on them.

Permalink Reply by Jason on January 12, 2010 at 7:57pm

See thats the problem. I dont have anyone to turn too,I still find the need to be strong for my mother and I know if share with her it will just hurt her and turn into a bunch of crying on her part. Im not really interested in upsetting her.

Permalink Reply by jen on January 12, 2010 at 9:21pm

jason, I am so sorry for your loss......maybe you can try to find a grief support group through a local hospital........it is so important to talk about your feelings and let yourself grieve. if you can't do that with your mom, you need to find someone more removed, but who can still relate to your pain and help you move forward. you are not alone! Jen

Permalink Reply by Tamarah1271 on January 18, 2010 at 3:38pm

Hi Jason, Sorry for your loss! I am going through something similar I felt I had to be strong for my sister when our Mom passed 9/1/04 and because I held in a lot of emotions. However those emotions and feelings have come to the surface in the last 3-4 months and I find myself depressed, angry and emotional. I want to see a therapist but feel that I need to be stronger and deal with it on my own. I am not doing so well trying it on my own but I haven't gotten to the point I feel can trust a outsider with my feeling and watch them write it all down as I speak.

I like you don't want to talk about it with my sister (ur Mom) because I don't want her to cry and relive her emotions and I feel like no one else cares because they have all grieved and moved on.

I think if you can find support here that will help make things easier for you then just read some of the other posts to see how others are dealing or look for a local support grp in your community. The important thing is that you get the help you need and be able to grieve. Pls write me anytime and I will do my best to offer words of encouragement as I can. Take care!!